How do you handle the "dirty" side of anal sex?

If I anticipate it, I'll shower beforehand. We also use condoms during anal sex, just to keep things cleaner. No enemas or other special cleaning rituals though.

To all those out there that say "all we need to do is have a good BM an hour or two beforehand is good enough for us" I am very envious. This unfortunately is not good enough for me. I need a shallow rinse beforehand, and maybe 30 mins to let everything settle, and I'm good to go.

Shower for me.

This was a big issue for me when J and I first started having anal, and I told him why, and he always said don't you trust me which has nothing to do with it imo. Well whenever we'd have sex in the morning and I could tell he was going for my ass I would grab his hand and say not my butt and he figured out why and after a couple times doing it he just grabbed my hand and went for it anyhow. When we were done he looked at me and said you might want to go to the bathroom, totally embarrassed me at the moment but since then I have been more comfortable with anal and some messy moments. I try and make sure I'm clean because that's what makes me feel comfortable but I know it's not a big deal to him.

Obviously he knows there might be a little bit of poop on the toy or him, so just go with it. A good lover won't care. If it worries you, make sure you've had a bowel movement that day and whatever else you feel comfortable with. Just relax and enjoy the experience. Don't forget the LUBE!

Diet is quite important. The body is fairly adept at keeping the rectum clean inside, but there's only so much it can do, and obviously that will be easier if you pass a firm stool.

After that just make sure you use an anal douche a couple of times before you're planning to have sex, to flush out any little surprises you didn't realise were lurking there, and then have a shower.

if I know we will be doing some playing back there we will usually both shower and clean out a little before hand with a warm water enema and allow for some time to make sure everything is all out before, if its something thats spontaneous we throw down a towel and have some wet wipes handy just in case.

I've had some really, really bad experiences with that. However, I didn't mind too much, I just wasn't aroused by it.

Best thing to do is use an enema, definitely.

I always have a bath first and wash well. I don't use a douche or enema, I'd be in the bathroom for half a night, or morning.

We've never had a messy accident. Everyone's digestive system is different. I'm gonna be graphic, if you have sticky or loose poops, there it's probably more likely you'll have a little mess (and a douche may help with that) if you have "rabbit pellet" poops (which many people do have) there is less of a chance of messes. It has to do with what your body does with waste and how it processes it.

There have been days when I simply don't want anal, because I'm feeling like I haven't "gone" enough or I need to and it hasn't happened yet. We wait, then and do something else.

My Man doesn't allow anal on himself. One because he's the Dominant member of our couple and he does all the penetration and is not penetrated, two, because his digestive system works differently than mine and he doesn't feel comfortable with being touched there.

just a shower is fine, no need to stir things up with an enema