How open are you about anal?

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How open are you about anal?

PonyPlay PonyPlay
I guess I was just wondering how open everyone is about anal sex. For example do you tell people you have anal sex or do you prefer to leave that detail out.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes I will tell anyone I have anal sex it doesn't matter who they are!
9  (5%)
I will tell my friends and family about it but that's it...
2  (1%)
I will only tell my family about it...
I will only tell my friends about it...
6  (3%)
I will only tell people that I know aren't going to get weird about it, friends/family
110  (63%)
I will not tell anyone about it I don't care how long I have known you...
28  (16%)
Other, let me explain...
20  (11%)
Total votes: 175
Poll is closed
08/10/2010
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Love Buzz Love Buzz
I actually really enjoy anal, but usually don't share the fact unless a partner asks.
08/10/2010
buzzvibe buzzvibe
If somebody asks, I'll tell them, but it's not a topic I'm in the habit of bringing up.
08/10/2010
NuMe NuMe
I suppose if someone specifically asked I wouldn't deny it. But I'm not in the habit of sharing the details of my sex life with others I know personally.
08/10/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I don't tell anyone about any part of my sex life - it's just between my lover and myself. She may talk to her friends - but I doubt it. If she did, I wouldn't mind.
08/10/2010
ScottA ScottA
Not sure - I don't talk in detail about my sex life, but I do give advice on male anal eroticism so it's probably pretty evident that something is going on.
08/10/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Like several other people here, I really don't share the details of my sexual activities with others, unless specifically asked. I would NOT simply tell someone details just to tell them, out of respect for my own privacy and out of respect for My Man.

I live in the suburbs (almost in a rural area, but still close to the Big City) and people tend to put up a "Conservative Front" in my area. I don't, and a lot of people simply take me for the weird old hippy chick who is a little TOO open about a lot of things. But, things like anal sex, IRL, are between My Man and I most of the time. When I was younger, my friends and I would "share notes" on our sexual activity, but if anyone was having anal sex back then, no one said anything about it. I know I wasn't back then.

I think if I was specifically ASKED, by someone I could trust, I would be honest. But, so far, it hasn't happened.
08/10/2010
Alicia Alicia
It's not something that I can see coming up in conversation..
08/11/2010
Liz2 Liz2
I don't advertise but if someone I know asks me (depending on the context) I will say something. I think many women are interested, curious and just want to feel good about anal.
The context is usually that a partner wants anal play and the woman is reluctant.
08/11/2010
Midway through Midway through
I try to keep my family out of my sex life, regardless of what it's related to or whether or not they bring it up. I just don't like to be like OMG I LIKE ANAL SEX. Now, close friends or whatever, yeh, they know.
08/11/2010
Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
Quote:
Originally posted by buzzvibe
If somebody asks, I'll tell them, but it's not a topic I'm in the habit of bringing up.
Ditto.

I just really don't talk about specific sex acts with most of my friends or family.
08/11/2010
gone77 gone77
I'm basically the most open about sex among my family and friends, so I often will bring it up or answer questions. I will, and have, talked about anal sex, but not about my own enjoyment of it. If someone asked me point blank I'd most likely be forthcoming, but otherwise I talk about it in a general sense.
08/11/2010
PonyPlay PonyPlay
If someone were to harsh on anal sex like say all these crazy things about it that were very inaccurate do you think you would defend anal sex or not say anything because you didn't want them to know you did it?
08/11/2010
Sapphire Pet Sapphire Pet
Funny this should come up now! My friend and I just had a discussion on this the other night!! Of course we were both sitting here on our computers going through the Eden forums at the time. This isn't something I bring up with anyone but will discuss with my very close friends and partners if the conversation is brought up. Most people freak out at the topic so I usually just stay quiet. Though I am a bit shy about my sex life.
08/11/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
I don't mind talking about it especially if someone has a question but I won't just walk up to friends and family and blurt out that I have anal sex!
If someone were spreading myths and lies about anal sex I would either gently correct them or wait till they had moved on and then gently correct him/her to those who were listening. I might suggest some reading material and suggest they ask a Dr. I know and trust to tell them the truth...if they are really interested. If not then I'd smile secretly and walk away.
08/11/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Alicia
It's not something that I can see coming up in conversation..
Haha. Alicia, the look on your face with your avatar simply DEFINED the attitude of the post.

I know it wasn't planned, but it made me laugh.

"It's not something that I can see coming up in conversation." *sigh* Adorable.
08/11/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by PonyPlay
If someone were to harsh on anal sex like say all these crazy things about it that were very inaccurate do you think you would defend anal sex or not say anything because you didn't want them to know you did it?
Depending on the person, I might correct fallacies (like "Your ass while stretch and then you will be incontinent.") but, some people simply don't listen to anybody when they have something in their mind.

I've learned this after years as a Lactation Consultant (people who have beliefs about the situation, usually if they are not having any more kids, just don't want to know. And, if it was something that was in the past, and nothing can be done, I am not going to say, "Oh, that was fixable." because I don't feel making people feel bad is my business. Helping them, IF they ask for help IS.) Anyway, when it comes to people's "beliefs" it depends on the person, whether I would say something.

Some people just bash things with NO information, and even if you say something it makes no difference to them. Other people genuinely want to know what is happening and are happy when myths are debunked.
08/11/2010
usmcwife99 usmcwife99
The only people who know about my sex life is my sisters, and few close friends. Of course my husband to.

If they know about my sex life they pretty much know everything. Its all or none I guess lol.
08/14/2010
Blinker Blinker
I don't talk about my personal sex experiences with a lot of real-life people, except a few very close friends. Anal is a topic and usually we end up trading tips for sore bums, lol. I can get a sense from people whether or not they'll be comfy talking about it, so I go from there. Yay instinct!
08/14/2010
Red Vinyl Kitty Red Vinyl Kitty
Sex seems to come up around me a lot. If the subject turns to anal play, I will absolutely admit that I enjoy anal play. I am not ashamed of anything I enjoy sexually. In the event that someone decided they didn't like me or want to hang around me anymore purely based on the fact that I like anal sex (or any of my other kinks) then I would be more than happy to let the door his their a** on the way out. Not much of a loss to me.
08/14/2010
PonyPlay PonyPlay
Quote:
Originally posted by Red Vinyl Kitty
Sex seems to come up around me a lot. If the subject turns to anal play, I will absolutely admit that I enjoy anal play. I am not ashamed of anything I enjoy sexually. In the event that someone decided they didn't like me or want to hang ...
I think it's sad that anyone would refuse to be someones friend purely off the fact that they like anal sex/anal play. It's sad that their are people that are that weird about it that they let it get in the way of their friendships.
08/14/2010
Sera Sera
Quote:
Originally posted by PonyPlay
I guess I was just wondering how open everyone is about anal sex. For example do you tell people you have anal sex or do you prefer to leave that detail out.
I kinda think it's a private thing..
08/19/2010
clp clp
If I feel a person is receptive to the idea or has questions, I have no problem using myself as an example. I usually leave it out, though, because it usually gets a eyebrow-raise. It isn't worth defending to someone that won't budge over.
09/02/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I will tell anyone I trust that asks.
09/02/2010
White Wolf White Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by PonyPlay
I guess I was just wondering how open everyone is about anal sex. For example do you tell people you have anal sex or do you prefer to leave that detail out.
I don't have anal sex perce, but i have a moderate anal toy collection that i play with on a regular basis.

Most people i talk to are closed minded and would immediately accuse me of being gay if i told them. So i guess i would only tell people who seem open minded enough not to jump to conclusions.

Also i would only mention it if it somehow came up in conversation, but most of my friends don't get That personal in conversation.
09/03/2010
White Wolf White Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by White Wolf
I don't have anal sex perce, but i have a moderate anal toy collection that i play with on a regular basis.

Most people i talk to are closed minded and would immediately accuse me of being gay if i told them. So i guess i would only tell ...
On second thought. When i find people curious enough to ask questions i tell them all about it.
09/03/2010
deadpoet deadpoet
My sisters use to make fun of me for it. until I started crying.
09/08/2010
Trashley Trashley
Quote:
Originally posted by deadpoet
My sisters use to make fun of me for it. until I started crying.
oh my gosh that's terrible! siblings can be so thoughtless, but ya gotta love em i guess..
09/18/2010
Shellz31 Shellz31
If someone was to ask, I have no problem admitting to it.
09/30/2010
mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
depends on the person im talking to. some ppl arent open to sex conversations at all.
10/02/2010
Total posts: 82
Unique posters: 71