How safe is fisting?

Yoda Yoda
I've been debating whether or not to attempt anal fisting. Any literature I've read suggests that it could be quite dangerous, and that it should not be attempted. Any thoughts?
08/19/2009
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Gary Gary
This is a great questions! I have seen a lot of pictures and videos that would definitely make you wonder about both the short, and long term affects.
08/19/2009
Owl Identified Owl Identified
I'm also curious about this. My guess would be that done conscientiously/carefu lly it doesn't have to be dangerous, but I have no experience with it so I wouldn't know. I do have friends that do it and they claim that it has never caused them any problems that anal sex couldn't cause (soreness, fissures, etc.)
08/21/2009
Blinker Blinker
That's a good question. It seems that if done properly, it's ok. The anus is incredibly stretchy and quite elastic, though that elasticity decreases slowly with age.
08/22/2009
ScottA ScottA
The key is to do it properly. I've only self-fisted so far (post link), and it took a long time to work up to (years, really - I started with toys, and I think big plugs such as the Tantus Ringo and A-Bomb are what helped me to take my hand). You meed to be very aware of your anus and how to relax it, and your partner has to be very aware of anatomy and very aware of you.

Do wear gloves (they help to make your hand smooth).

That said, I think I do want to try fisting again, this time with someone else (my wife, if I can convince her to give it a go).
08/22/2009
2BudZ 2BudZ
Not me! That's scares me LOL Good luck and post some follow up with your adventures.
09/30/2009
ScottA ScottA
It's all about taking it slow, being very relaxed and completely sober, and being willing to stop when you need to.
09/30/2009
Red Red
Be sure your eyes aren't bigger than your ass, too. Reality check - take the largest toy you can handle anally, and compare it to the size of your fist. Or your partners fist. Note the difference. If it seems like a lot, I'd suggest investing in another, larger toy and conquering that first. After about 2 inches in diameter, even small jumps in size get very difficult to take.

And yep, it's a worthy goal
09/30/2009
Tuesday Tuesday
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Originally posted by Yoda
I've been debating whether or not to attempt anal fisting. Any literature I've read suggests that it could be quite dangerous, and that it should not be attempted. Any thoughts?
I would suggest working your way toward that VERY slowly. I had anal sex with a very well endowed boyfriend once and thought everything was great at the time. Afterwards I found that I had torn. Recovering from that was every bit as painful as it sounds.
09/30/2009
Owl Identified Owl Identified
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Originally posted by Tuesday
I would suggest working your way toward that VERY slowly. I had anal sex with a very well endowed boyfriend once and thought everything was great at the time. Afterwards I found that I had torn. Recovering from that was every bit as painful as it ... More
I'm still recovering from a tear It's been months. Totally feel you on this.
09/30/2009
Colossus Colossus
doesn't seem very pleasurable does it? Yikes...
10/01/2009
Red Red
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Originally posted by Colossus
doesn't seem very pleasurable does it? Yikes...
it's exceedingly pleasurable
10/01/2009
Liz2 Liz2
Yes, it can be very pleasurable but go easy...real baby steps in sizes of inserted objects. Also fisting has many conotations, vaginal fisting? anal fisting? Size of the actual fist being inserted? How ready the receiver is?
And yes, as said above, not under the influence and it it hurts, stop!
10/01/2009
Domineight Domineight
While I've never been anally fisted (maybe some day! Not into rushing anything) I would guess this is a slow and steady wins the race sort of situation.

I've also been told getting it out is way harder than getting it in. At least you can stop putting it in, you can't just stop taking it out.
01/22/2010
El-Jaro El-Jaro
I've given myself the "low five".

Listen to ScottA...he knows what he's talking about!

LUBE LUBE LUBE
01/23/2010
Snozzberries Snozzberries
Friend of mine gave me this advice when I asked him for help in this area.

"Lube. Work up to it over many sessions. Expect the knuckle pop to hurt."

Yow.

As it is, I've taken four fingers without major mishap. Working up to the point where I can say, "... to the wrist." Eventually.
03/09/2010
ScottA ScottA
And not just any lube. Fisting requires a very heavy lube that will stay in place and can be easily dealt with in large quantities.
03/10/2010
KinkyShay KinkyShay
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Originally posted by Yoda
I've been debating whether or not to attempt anal fisting. Any literature I've read suggests that it could be quite dangerous, and that it should not be attempted. Any thoughts?
I've been fisted once. My boyfriend, on the other hand, is an anal slut. He likes to be double fisted (and also LOVES very, very large dildos used on him). So really, he is the expert. Never has it presented a problem for him in all the years he's done this. And I believe he has a good 20 years under his belt.
04/08/2010
Yoda Yoda
I've tried anal fisting a few times since starting this discussion, but sadly, I still haven't been able to do it. For some reason, when I try to do it to myself, it feels great, but my arm is not long enough to reach around and fully insert the fist. Because of this, I just can't get the proper angle.

On the other hand, I asked my wife to fist me. And for some reason, it doesn't feel good when she does it. This is strange because I love anal, and I love using large toys. I think, perhaps, that compared to my toys, her fist feels rough, plus it doesn't slide like my dildos.

Any suggestions? Perhaps tight latex gloves, or a silicone or oil based lube?
08/17/2010
Brian Brian
Quote:
Originally posted by Yoda
I've tried anal fisting a few times since starting this discussion, but sadly, I still haven't been able to do it. For some reason, when I try to do it to myself, it feels great, but my arm is not long enough to reach around and fully insert ... More
Yeah mine aren't long enough either. I'm not sure if my wife would be comfortable with doing that at this point but I would bet there's a lot better shot of making it since her hand is a lot smaller too. Yeah gloves are almost a must and either a really thick water, oil or silicone lube is needed. Good luck to you.
08/17/2010
ScottA ScottA
Also make sure your nails are very short and filed smooth if you try fisting!
08/18/2010
BSJ BSJ
I have fisted someone on several occasions. Slow and steady is definitely the way to go and there is no such thing as to much lube. I myself have attempted being fisted and have made it up to the knuckles but had to back out. I absolutely loved the entire process and long for the day I accomplish this mission. I have also attempted self fisting and can get all four fingers in but can't manage to slide the thumb in as well.

Latex gloves and Astroglide X formula has been my combo of choice. Not the cheapest of lubes but it works for me so I buy it. As mentioned earlier, relaxation is key. If you haven't ever had something of significant size in your ass the natural response is to push it back out. It is sort of like a gag reflex for the rectum. If you stay calm and relaxed you can get passed that and enjoy the entire process.

Also, in case anyone may have overlooked the step, clean the butt with an enema before you attempt anything like this. I know a lot of people are like, "DUH??!?!?" but I am sure that at least one person will read this and be thankful for the advice.

Best of luck to you in your fisting adventures.
08/18/2010
mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
gross...i dont like this act. but who cares!!
10/16/2010
Yoda Yoda
Still no luck, I'm starting to wonder if I'm just too small back there.
12/18/2010
ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by Yoda
Still no luck, I'm starting to wonder if I'm just too small back there.
It takes a long time and lots of persistence. I've heard that you need to practice several times a week. How big can you get now? I haven't done much, but after I got my A-bomb to where it would comfortably go in it wasn't too long before I was able to fit my hand in (as far as it would go, anyway).
12/18/2010
Yoda Yoda
The biggest toy I have is the Vixen Randy. Though I can fit it in after about half an hour of warm up with the Vixen Johnny and a tonne of lube, anything larger just hurts. I even caused a fissure once and, since then, I've been much more careful about what I attempt. It's ok though, I'm fine with not being able to do it. I'd rather not bite off more than I can chew.
12/18/2010
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by 2BudZ
Not me! That's scares me LOL Good luck and post some follow up with your adventures.
In the same boat.. hehe
01/04/2011
Alek Alek
Over the past five years I've worked my way up from the Classic Butt Plug, to the Tantus Tex, and my fist. It is entirely possible to thoroughly enjoy anal penetration, even up to and exceeding the sizes I can accommodate

My Personal Advice

For Beginners:
-Start SMALL (think index finger)
-When you can take a couple of fingers, consider buying a smaller or medium sized butt plug. I wouldn't recommend anything more than two inches for a beginner
-Be very aware of the materials your toys are made of and the lube you use. Do not use oil based lubes with natural rubber or latex toys; do not use silicone based lubes with silicone based toys. Avoid toys that contain pthalates; some of the first toys I bought were not the most chemically neutral available and caused unpleasant sensations that detracted from my experience.
-Enemas are not necessarily essential, a good diet and healthy evacuation should be all that's needed. Enemas can be fun, and are nice if you don't want to wait for your colon to finish its job on its own.
-Conquer your fears of excrement. It's not necessarily the safest substance in the world, but getting it on your hands isn't the end of the world—much of the world's population wash their asses by hand several times-a-day. If you can contain any messes that may occur and keep 'em out of any open cuts, sores, vaginas, or mouths (controversial), you should be fine—just wash your hands thoroughly before you transition to your next activity.
-Gloves are a great idea—especially Nitrile gloves. Nitrile is practically hypoallergenic and extremely chemical tolerant—latex gloves will quickly breakdown if exposed to oil based lubricants.
-Relax and make friends with your anus. Familiarize yourself with your anatomy and practice controlling your muscles.

Personal Favorites
Lubricants:
-Water Based:ID Glide
-Silicone Based:ID Millennium
-Silicone Based:Wet Platinum
-Oil Based:Crisco
-Oil Based:Coconut Oil
Toys:
Tantus's line of silicone toys are the best I've found—especially their anal toys
High-quality glass can be very nice

Personal Fisting Recipe
Ingredients:
1 Pair Nitrile Gloves
1 Serving Coconut Oil
1 Serving Crisco
* Favorite Toys (Blend to Taste)

Procedure:
1 Prepare a work area, preferably over a non-porous surface, a washable towel of dark color is usually a good idea.
2 Gather ingredients, place on a clean, washable, non-porous surface within easy reach
3 Apply gloves to hands
4 Assume preferred position
5 Apply a generous amount of Coconut Oil to anus, gently penetrating and pushing into rectum
6 Gently stretch anus until many fingers can be comfortably inserted, proceed when comfortable.
7 (Optional) Insert toys of choice
8 When comfortable with the idea of full-fist penetration, apply additional Coconut Oil as desired, optionally apply Crisco for extra lubrication
>>Crisco is thicker than Coconut Oil and well suited to the insertion of larger objects, though it is wholly incompatible with natural latex
9 Penetrate anus with hand/fist as is comfortable and pleasurable

Bottom Line
Don't be afraid—be respectful.
Understand that the areas you are exploring ARE *potentially* very dangerous. You CAN get hurt—badly. HOWEVER, you also can enjoy many years of unique pleasure, IF you respect your limits, your body, and your toys.
Research things before you try them and ask questions. Very few things have never been tried.
01/23/2011
slynch slynch
I want it... someday
03/11/2011
Raizer911 Raizer911
A lot of preparation seems to be the key.
06/03/2012
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