Does anyone have advice on how to "gape" ?

cmm cmm
Is there a specific position to be in after your plug gets removed? For me, everything just kinda closes right back up almost immediately. How do you get it to linger at a diameter similar to the plug or toy?
08/26/2013
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C&K0143 C&K0143
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Originally posted by cmm
Is there a specific position to be in after your plug gets removed? For me, everything just kinda closes right back up almost immediately. How do you get it to linger at a diameter similar to the plug or toy?
It involves years of stretching and long periods of toy use. I’m talking 2 inch diameter dildo in your ass for several hours at a time. The problem is the sphincter muscle is designed to contract so no matter what you do, it will eventually close. Unfortunately, porn is often responsible for expectations that simply can’t be met. - C
08/26/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by cmm
Is there a specific position to be in after your plug gets removed? For me, everything just kinda closes right back up almost immediately. How do you get it to linger at a diameter similar to the plug or toy?
I tried to "gape" so bad, just so my hubby could make his own video of me doing it. However, we tried toys, fingers, you name it. I am always tight anyway, but the most "gape" (doesn't stay open long) is when he has really been going at me with his penis for a long time (at least half an hour or more). He has to pace himself, so as not to cum. When he finally pulls out, after that, if I try hard to "push" him out, and then "relax", it is the best "gape" I can do!
08/27/2013
cmm cmm
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Originally posted by C&K0143
It involves years of stretching and long periods of toy use. I’m talking 2 inch diameter dildo in your ass for several hours at a time. The problem is the sphincter muscle is designed to contract so no matter what you do, it will eventually close. ... More
Almost every time I see it though it's a doggy position. Maybe I'll try that.
08/27/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by cmm
Almost every time I see it though it's a doggy position. Maybe I'll try that.
I don't do doggy. Much as I enjoy anal, that is one position I find uncomfortable, and I am into anal...not pain in any way.
08/31/2013
AF AF
Quote:
Originally posted by C&K0143
It involves years of stretching and long periods of toy use. I’m talking 2 inch diameter dildo in your ass for several hours at a time. The problem is the sphincter muscle is designed to contract so no matter what you do, it will eventually close. ... More
Well, it doesn't need to take hours and hours of stretching. I can gape pretty easy, it's just learning to relax your ass. So when you pull the toy out of your ass, stay relaxed and try to avoid closing your anal sphincters where you really have the feeling of being in control of your anal sphincters (relax your pelvic floor muscle -> the one which you contract while avoiding peeing). A little bit of pushing the toy out can help (but not too hard, just a tiny tiny tiny bit)and a deep breath out. And of course when you try larger toys/plugs, the muscles in your butthole are more relaxed so more success for an anal gape.

And about potions, the one where you are the most relaxed.
09/02/2013
MrWill MrWill
Hint: The gape you see in porn is often chemically assisted.
09/02/2013
AF AF
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Originally posted by MrWill
Hint: The gape you see in porn is often chemically assisted.
Could be, but not advisable...Anal needs to be painless...Trust me, its all about the pelvic floor muscle:

"....The pelvic floor muscles support the rectum and anus and keep these at the correct angle. They hold the anal sphincter in the best possible position to empty the rectum and they also have other roles to play. The pelvic floor muscles can be separated into lifting, opening and closing muscles. "

From link
09/02/2013
Oriental husband and wife Oriental husband and wife
Quote:
Originally posted by cmm
Is there a specific position to be in after your plug gets removed? For me, everything just kinda closes right back up almost immediately. How do you get it to linger at a diameter similar to the plug or toy?
Is it 2:08 am and you are online ? Or just the web clock on the East Coast ? Anyway, why do you want to gage ? Hopefully it's just a passing urge.

Anyway, I think if you use a plug with a wide neck it will assist in opening you up some. The more you use it the wider or looser you will get. I think that is easier than leaving a good size girth dildo in for a length of time.
Is the current plug a narrow neck design ? Check out the glass wide neck plugs.

I don't believe it takes years to stretch. Using a wide neck plug daily for a few hours or few times a week will make it happen pretty soon. However it will definitely take you a lot longer to get it back to close to original size if/when you decide to do so. I think open butt holes are for porn stars. It makes their butt more appealing and easier to earn their pay.
09/02/2013
cmm cmm
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Originally posted by Oriental husband and wife
Is it 2:08 am and you are online ? Or just the web clock on the East Coast ? Anyway, why do you want to gage ? Hopefully it's just a passing urge.

Anyway, I think if you use a plug with a wide neck it will assist in opening you up some. ... More
Is there a plug that you can recommend me?
09/09/2013
AF AF
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Originally posted by cmm
Is there a plug that you can recommend me?
Try this one: The Super Big Guy

It has a fairly wide neck, or indeed 2+ inch glass plug they have most of the times wider necks
09/10/2013
MrWill MrWill
I've used the Super Big End, and the Sexy Spades Large for hours at a time, and there still isn't any gape going on here.
09/12/2013
flyanddrive91 flyanddrive91
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Originally posted by MrWill
I've used the Super Big End, and the Sexy Spades Large for hours at a time, and there still isn't any gape going on here.
I have many large plugs including the Sexy Spades Large. Even with the Spades in for many hours my gape is usually nickel to quarter sized. But when I fuck myself really good and/or for a while with my Kong Realistic I gape much bigger. Also, by playing solo I've learned that taping my buttcheeks spread out it enhances my gape.
09/17/2013
Oriental husband and wife Oriental husband and wife
Your rectum muscle will close back up. That's what it is suppose to do. If you were to stay 2" or more wide you may need to wear depends ! Even in the porn where they show some gaped hole, I'm sure they shrink back most of the way. It's not healthy to have such a big hole. If all you want is for your plug to go in easier, regular usage should do the trick. Myself,I do kegels to keep it tight. Then there is more pleasure when it goes in. I miss that rectum sucking/ pull like when I first started plugging. Also I would not want my plug to slip out due to my hole being so big.

I think even if you kept a large girth dildo inside for a length of time the next day you will close up most the way.

Mine used to close back up soon after also when first using plugs. When I went bigger I would have a difficult time. Now after using the NJoy PP 2.0 for few months, it is very easy to get it in. Now I use that as a weight when doing kegels.
09/18/2013
Oriental husband and wife Oriental husband and wife
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Originally posted by cmm
Is there a plug that you can recommend me?
Some of the others have already given some suggestions. A large plug may give you intestinal irritations. Plugging up the natural flow can give some minor stomach problems. I saw a post on Eden ," What should Eden Carry" about holes in plugs. His source however was very expensive. I binged it and found lower prices. If you are interested in some "Thu Hole Plugs" with wide necks then message me. These also have wider necks and will assist in your quest to be a little more open. The glass and solid ones will fill you up with gas.
09/19/2013
Rossie Rossie
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Originally posted by Oriental husband and wife
Your rectum muscle will close back up. That's what it is suppose to do. If you were to stay 2" or more wide you may need to wear depends ! Even in the porn where they show some gaped hole, I'm sure they shrink back most of the way. ... More
"If you were to stay 2" or more wide you may need to wear depends!"
...that is soooo true!!!
09/19/2013
cmm cmm
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Originally posted by MrWill
I've used the Super Big End, and the Sexy Spades Large for hours at a time, and there still isn't any gape going on here.
I bought the Spade and holy cow it is a challenge. The diameter isn't too crazy, but the sheer shape of that thing is intense.
09/21/2013
AF AF
Quote:
Originally posted by Oriental husband and wife
Your rectum muscle will close back up. That's what it is suppose to do. If you were to stay 2" or more wide you may need to wear depends ! Even in the porn where they show some gaped hole, I'm sure they shrink back most of the way. ... More
Of course your anal sphincters will retract after sometime....but that wasnt the idea behind this thread: gaping all a time, just for a brief period
09/21/2013
ustwo ustwo
Gape is a product of AIR (or gas, for that matter) being trapped inside large intestine and rectum. Plain and simple.

The act of having something simply inserted into the anus will not make someone gape. It's kinda like a queef; air is forced in as the object is thrust in and out.

The air has to come out somehow, and the position the body is in will determine if it will allow the sphincter to gape.

If you notice in porn, there are only two ways the girls will produce a real wide open gape: on all fours with their ass pointed up in the air, or on their backs, legs up, with their asshole pointed upwards toward the ceiling. This is because the air that is pushed in quickly takes the path of least resistance when the sphincter is positioned upwards.

This may be weird, but you can duplicate this exact thing in the morning when you wake up without ever putting anything in your ass. Simply go on all fours, ass pointed up in the air. Relax, and within a minute you will probably feel gas moving up out of your bowels towards the exit. If you gently "let go" of the gas - not forcefully like a fart - your ass will gape. Most likely multiple times. For some reason the sphincters just opens up. Sounds rificulous but try it and you'll see what i mean.
11/22/2013
Oriental husband and wife Oriental husband and wife
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Originally posted by AF
Of course your anal sphincters will retract after sometime....but that wasnt the idea behind this thread: gaping all a time, just for a brief period
Oh, sorry, my bad. Met no disrespect.
11/22/2013
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