If someone has had anal but not vaginal sex, are they still a virgin?

LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
This doesn't pertain to me but I'm just curious as to what you all think!
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Yes
21  (18%)
No
95  (82%)
Total votes: 116
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02/01/2011
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Taylor Taylor
I had a friend in high school who did this. She had anal sex with her boyfriend so that she could still call herself a virgin. Her logic didn't make sense to me then and it still doesn't now.
02/01/2011
Naughty Student Naughty Student
I heard of a girl fro ma friend in my sexuality class who was engaging in anal sex rather than vaginal sex bcs she is religious and she felt that anal sex was ok bcs she considered herself as remaing virgin. I guess it depends how you define virginity.

For me I lost my virginity when my hymen tore, thats how I define losing virginity in my case but it'll be different for many people.
02/01/2011
Envy Envy
Doesn't make sense to me as you're still being penetrated by someone's genitals.
02/01/2011
PussyGalore PussyGalore
Technically, yes. There has been no vaginal penetration. However, since the trend these days seems to be "Let's REDEFINE EVERYTHING", it's now largely up to the person's beliefs and their sexual orientation.
02/01/2011
Airekah Airekah
Technically for a female, you are a virgin until the hymen has been broken but in my opinion... penetration constitutes virginity loss. OF ANY KIND.
02/01/2011
indiglo indiglo
Anything with the word "sex" after it is sex in my book. Oral sex, anal sex, vaginal sex... it's all sex. So while you may be a vaginal intercourse virgin, you've had sex. At least, that's how I see it.
02/01/2011
Coralbell Coralbell
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Originally posted by indiglo
Anything with the word "sex" after it is sex in my book. Oral sex, anal sex, vaginal sex... it's all sex. So while you may be a vaginal intercourse virgin, you've had sex. At least, that's how I see it.
I agree.
02/01/2011
Annemarie Annemarie
Virginity is a state of mind, not a physical status. If a person feels that anal sex isn't virginity-seizing, then it's not. If a person feels that vaginal sex isn't virginity-seizing, then it's not as well.

As a child, I was anally violated, and still considered myself a virgin until I had sex with my first partner (who was female), despite there being no penetration.
02/01/2011
markeagleone markeagleone
Quote:
Originally posted by LavenderSkies
This doesn't pertain to me but I'm just curious as to what you all think!
A virgin is one who hasn't had sex with another person in any way.
02/01/2011
Yoda Yoda
Anal sex is still sex. You could get it in the ear and it could still be considered sex.
02/01/2011
liilii080 liilii080
Penetration is sex in my book. The anal or vaginal hole doesn't matter!
02/01/2011
Dusk Dusk
Virginity for me was vaginal, since that was the idea in my head I grew up with all my life. No vaginal sex until marriage. Vaginal sex was scary, taboo, forbidden, sacred, important, and only to be shared with the person or people who most deserved it. I scratched the idea of waiting until marriage, but virginity for me was definitely a vaginally-related concept of self-definition.
02/01/2011
DexterStratton DexterStratton
I don't understand the idea of a Creator that would prohibit vaginal sex until marriage, but would be OK with anal or oral sex beforehand. But I am far from divine, so what do I know?
02/01/2011
potstickers potstickers
Quote:
Originally posted by indiglo
Anything with the word "sex" after it is sex in my book. Oral sex, anal sex, vaginal sex... it's all sex. So while you may be a vaginal intercourse virgin, you've had sex. At least, that's how I see it.
I agree with this.

I also think it has to be consensual.
02/01/2011
vegan.guy vegan.guy
Hmmm. Interesting question. I think I'd consider her to be a virgin technically.
02/02/2011
ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by Airekah
Technically for a female, you are a virgin until the hymen has been broken but in my opinion... penetration constitutes virginity loss. OF ANY KIND.
I checked an old dictionary and it seems to be connected more with not having had carnal knowledge or sexual relations with another (depending on the particular editor). For this having anal renders you not a virgin, as would oral. Masturbation wouldn't count, so you can tear your hymen all you want with a dildo and be a virgin.
02/02/2011
clp clp
I'm of the Virginity Is A State of Mind school. It really depends on the individual and where (and why) they place importance of virginity. In my case, no it doesn't make a difference, you can still call yourself a virgin after anal. It will always come down to the individual and the individual knows what they have or have not done.
02/02/2011
I Wear The Pants I Wear The Pants
I believe penetration is sex so no, you are not a virgin after having anal sex.
02/02/2011
Crystal1 Crystal1
If all we're counting as de-virginizing is penis-in-vagina, there are a LOT of gay/lesbian virgins out there!

So yeah, anal = not a virgin.
02/02/2011
Darling Jen Darling Jen
Quote:
Originally posted by indiglo
Anything with the word "sex" after it is sex in my book. Oral sex, anal sex, vaginal sex... it's all sex. So while you may be a vaginal intercourse virgin, you've had sex. At least, that's how I see it.
Ditto!

After all, to define virginity as the presence (or absence) of a hymen is not all-inclusive. Some women don't have one of which to speak of through genetics, some lose theirs through physical activity, accidents, or rape, and some have difficulty fully "losing" theirs.

And also, does that mean that men can't lose their virginity? That they don't have any virginity to lose? Cause that's just not fair.

Since anal sex is still "sex" (after all, we put that word after it, don't we?) and one would have to be physically and sexually intimate to participate in it, it's the lose of virginity to me.

Besides, since it's possible to become pregnant from semen leaking out of the anus and finding its way into the vaginal canal, shouldn't it be considered equal? Or would that be an immaculate pregnancy?
02/03/2011
KaliLeanne KaliLeanne
Quote:
Originally posted by Airekah
Technically for a female, you are a virgin until the hymen has been broken but in my opinion... penetration constitutes virginity loss. OF ANY KIND.
yep same here
02/03/2011
Blooddragon Blooddragon
Quote:
Originally posted by LavenderSkies
This doesn't pertain to me but I'm just curious as to what you all think!
I would say yes, only because I think popping ones cherry is de-virginizing them
02/19/2011
teeny <3 teeny <3
I'm going with virginity all depends on your intentions and circumstance. I don't believe the hymen or penetration are the only factors in determining one's status. What if:

you have a bicycle accident as a child and break your hymen?
you are raped (vaginally, orally, anally)?
you are molested?
you have had a pap smear?
you have had a colonoscopy?
you use insertable menstural products (tampons, cups)?

I know people who have been through all of these experiences and been chastised and deemed leud/indecent. Thier virignity has been called into question by communities that value maintaining that trait. It just doesn't seem right to me.
02/20/2011
MontereyJak MontereyJak
I tend to feel that you would be a virgin if have had anal vs vaginal sex. A close friend of mine in high school only did anal sex and as far as I know she was a vaginal virgin past graduation. Being the dirt bag that I was in high school, I tried to date her having this knowledge, but was shot down.
02/21/2011
cobiffle cobiffle
It really depends but idk, idk why you would try that first
03/02/2011
ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by cobiffle
It really depends but idk, idk why you would try that first
If remaining a virgin is important to you and you define virginity as "not having had penis-vaginal intercourse", then you might.
03/02/2011
alwaysclassy101 alwaysclassy101
Quote:
Originally posted by PussyGalore
Technically, yes. There has been no vaginal penetration. However, since the trend these days seems to be "Let's REDEFINE EVERYTHING", it's now largely up to the person's beliefs and their sexual orientation.
I agree. There's been no vaginal penetration! That's probably one of the big reasons there's so much anal sex now because more and more girls like to pride themselves at being a a virgin. Also, because no worry about getting pregnant, nor their having to bother to use any kind of birth control. One thing to remember, a guy doesn't have to penetrate all the way for both of you to get pleasure. Partial works great because it takes awhile for full penetration to feel good for a girl anyway. .
03/21/2011
Steve of Eden Steve of Eden
Well considering that it is called "Anal Sex" and that it is an act of penetration... I dont see how people could think it wouldnt count as sex...

Wouldnt that make gay men virgins for life? lol

Of course it counts! If you want to still sound pure just give him a blow job!
06/20/2011
Miss Voluptuous Miss Voluptuous
Yea... No. Anal sex is sex. Oral sex is sex. They can't get you pregnant, but they are sex all the same.
06/20/2011
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