Im scared to try it.

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I have never done anal, but i am eager to try. What are some things I should know before trying to attempt it? what are some ways I can make it feel better?
09/26/2010
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Jenn (aka kissmykitty) Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
When it comes to anal sex, you can never have too much lubricant. Water-based, oil-based, silicone-based, whatever floats your boat. Just keep in mind that certain lubes are incompatible with certain toy materials! Water-based goes with everything, but I've found that oil-based lasts longer. Silicone-based feels nice, but it tends to be on the "thin" side. Again, it's all about personal preference.

Start out slow, and small. Get used to the sensations of anal stimulation by using your own fingers or a small toy. Gradually work your way up to actual penetration with a dildo or a penis.

Good luck.
09/28/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
My Man and I worked up to it in a similar fashion to how he prepared and trained me for PIV sex many years before. Lots of cuddling and kissing, a lot of manual play around the anus, gradual insertion of his finger and then more than one. This took maybe a few weeks before I felt comfortable with actual anal-penile sex. We bought a butt plug, but I didn't care for it, in fact, we didn't find anal toys I liked until AFTER we had already been having anal sex for quite a while.

Lube is always necessary, both on the anus and his penis, and gradual work, until you are comfortable.

I find that my having an orgasm (usually by means of oral sex plus a vibrator) before we attempt anal, and then some vaginal penetration with a toy works well. The sensations of vaginal penetration are familiar, and double penetration is really the way it works best for us.

Slow and easy is the best way to do it.
09/28/2010
Envy Envy
I echo what others have said. Lots of lube, go slow, and train up to it.
09/28/2010
ScottA ScottA
Foreplay makes it feel better. Make sure you're aroused and you'll be much happier.
09/29/2010
Persephone Nightmare Persephone Nightmare
Oh! And don't use a desensitizing or numbing product!!! If something bad happened (a perforation in the colon, tearing of the anal tissues, and all sorts of things) you might not be able to feel it if you've numbed yourself, which can cause things to go very wrong and you may not know until it's too late. (I'm really not trying to scare you from doing anal, if anything I promote it, lol, as long as, like anything else, it's done safely)

I agree with everyone else here, take things slowly, and carefully. Relax naturally and use plenty of lube!
09/29/2010
butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
Quote:
Originally posted by Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
When it comes to anal sex, you can never have too much lubricant. Water-based, oil-based, silicone-based, whatever floats your boat. Just keep in mind that certain lubes are incompatible with certain toy materials! Water-based goes with everything, ... More
good tips! (:
10/19/2010
butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
Quote:
Originally posted by Persephone Nightmare
Oh! And don't use a desensitizing or numbing product!!! If something bad happened (a perforation in the colon, tearing of the anal tissues, and all sorts of things) you might not be able to feel it if you've numbed yourself, which can cause ... More
THanks for this information I never knew this! (:
10/19/2010
mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
same as others. lots and lots of lube. go slow and relax.
10/28/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Persephone Nightmare
Oh! And don't use a desensitizing or numbing product!!! If something bad happened (a perforation in the colon, tearing of the anal tissues, and all sorts of things) you might not be able to feel it if you've numbed yourself, which can cause ... More
I agree 100%. Pain is your signal that something is wrong. If anal sex is done right, it should NOT hurt. I think numbing pain is a very bad idea for anal sex, or any sex. If it hurts, you're doing something improperly, or you may be getting hurt badly.

Better to go slowly and learn your body than to block sensation. I don't know how people who numb themselves can feel the awesome, beautiful sensations of anal, all numbed up, either. It's like getting a mouth full of Novacaine in order to "have to" kiss someone.
10/29/2010
Spilock Spilock
Basically everyone here has given the defacto suggestions. P'Gell is right that if it hurts, something is wrong. You will probably feel slight discomforts, which is fine, but if the discomfort changes into pain, then you need to stop immediately. Just take it easy, and things should work out.

Also, eat lots of fiber the few days before it. It will assist in keeping you clean down there.
10/29/2010
Jessica Elizabeth Jessica Elizabeth
I agree with everyone I've yet to make my way to actual anal-penile penetration, however for toys and such having had an orgasm or 3 before hand really helps; you're already uber turned on, plus your muscles are a lot more relaxed.

Also, when you're trying penetration anally of any kind if you're having a lot of resistance back off, lube up and try again after a few seconds. Sometimes you have to focus to relax yourself back there and that's normal.
10/29/2010
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