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Since the hubby and I started having anal he wants it every time. Sure it's fun, but every time... He actually seems to enjoy it more than vaginal. Especially after I had my second child. Which also makes me wonder if it's because I'm
Since the hubby and I started having anal he wants it every time. Sure it's fun, but every time... He actually seems to enjoy it more than vaginal. Especially after I had my second child. Which also makes me wonder if it's because I'm to... um well... loose. Don't get me wrong I like anal, just not every single time.
Nanny, I like anal, too, but not every time. It's OK to say, "It's not going to be the best time for me to do that today." It's OK to state your preference, even when he wants something "badly."
Personally, I Like it a lot, but I can't take it every day. 3 to 4 times a week, sure, but I get uncomfortable if we do it daily. It's OK to tell him that, and also let him know that you REALLY crave PIV sex, also. When we first starting having anal, My Man wanted it all the time (OK he still does) but, I really really like PIV sex, (which at the time, we often didn't even get around to) Double penetration, with a dil in your vagina can help, but if you simply DON'T WANT anal at that particular time, he can take it, he's a Big Boy. Be kind, be gentle, be firm, but your needs are just as important as his are. You need to talk to him. Men like short sweet and to the point conversations, particularity if the two of you aren't used to talking about sex outside the bedroom.
I know we talk a lot about communication, but it's not just something to say. Letting your partner know what you want, and when you DON'T want something at the particular moment, is part of a partnership!
Sometimes talking about it when you are NOT having sex at the moment is helpful. It's hard to talk Sex when you are not doing it, especially when you are younger, but when you get in the habit of talking, the sex gets better, and he needs to know that saying, "Not now." Doesn't mean you are rejecting HIM, just that that particular kind of sex isn't what you feel comfortable with at the moment.
Good luck, honey.