Ladies, anyone ever bring home a pegging harness only to show it to their guy and get a "no way, no how" response?

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Ladies, anyone ever bring home a pegging harness only to show it to their guy and get a "no way, no how" response?

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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
What happened then? Were you embarrassed to have brought up the idea, or upset they wouldn't play? A friend just tried this on her hubby of three years on Valentines Day. She thought he would be open to the idea, since he likes her licking and fingering his anus, but when that harness and dildo came out, it was a terrific "fail" according to her. He was actually kind of "less then romantic" the rest of the evening.

So, what is your experience with this?
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pixelationnation , Dre' Fuller , MaeGal , Bignuf , C&K0143 , Peg , konicaguy , Soundside46 , ToyingCouple
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edeneve , Kroo , LoooveMonkey , Wicked Wahine , eri86 , Lvstoplay , srval69 , magicmac , XxFallenAngelxX
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Two Grand
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Herzer , GingerAnn
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Total votes: 21 (21 voters)
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02/15/2014
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
Engaging topic analysis of Pegging:

Help!
So we are newish to anal and pegging. Last night I used my Pure Wand (small end) on my partner and the mess that ensued....wow. Wand was covered in.

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How did everyone get started on pegging?
I was just curious how others got into this type of sex? My wife and I love it and was curious how others feel?

Harness - when do you wear it?
When you're gearing up for a pegging/harness using session, what do you do? Do you wait until you're about to begin, and then put the harness on? Or.

how did you approach pegging
how did you bring it up
02/15/2014
Contributor: Sincerely yours, N Sincerely yours, N
I'm not into pegging, but, if I was, I would discuss it with my partner before spending the money on a harness.
02/15/2014
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
I'm also not into pegging, but pretty sure, he would allow me to. He's putty in my hands. He'll do pretty much anything I say or want.
02/16/2014
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
not into pegging but I wouldn't whip anal toys out after how he freaked when I showed him my stash of toys - BIG mistake.
02/16/2014
Contributor: LoooveMonkey LoooveMonkey
I already know this is what would happen if I did that. lol It makes me sad.
02/17/2014
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
As I'm male, please forgive me for butting in, however...

Years ago, I'd purchased both a harness and several toys, including a Vixen Creations Nexus for my wife and I to play. She had been a rather adventurous partner, and I'd really thought she would like it. She was far from pleased. She said some rather unkind things including questioning my orientation. Now granted I am a bi guy and had not told her. But the level of hate for gay men that came from her made me silently question why I had ever married her.

She never would use the Nexus but eventually did use the harness. When she did peg me however she'd chosen a rather hard dildo and was so vigorous that she hit my prostate and when I did ejaculate it was blood.
We did not engage in pegging play again.
02/17/2014
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by RonLee
As I'm male, please forgive me for butting in, however...

Years ago, I'd purchased both a harness and several toys, including a Vixen Creations Nexus for my wife and I to play. She had been a rather adventurous partner, and I'd ... more
Ouch, ouch, ouchie.
02/17/2014
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Ouch, ouch, ouchie.
Yes, well my wife is now gone, may she rest in peace.
My current partner is just a bit reluctant but is OK with pegging me occasionally.
Sad that men who want it end up with women who don't really want to and women who want to do it, end up with men who don't...
I've come to realize, life is but a joke, and the laugh certainly seems to be on me.
02/17/2014
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by RonLee
Yes, well my wife is now gone, may she rest in peace.
My current partner is just a bit reluctant but is OK with pegging me occasionally.
Sad that men who want it end up with women who don't really want to and women who want to do it, end ... more
Yes, from reading many of the previous other posts on the forum, that is validated. I remember reading the one where many women say they would love to peg a man. That same poll had many wife's who stated their husbands would say, "No Way!"

I guess it is like when one is young, don't have enough money to buy stuff for the kids. Then later in life when have more money, no longer have kids at home. Saw a state of the art refrigerator today, but now we are almost empty nesters and don't need one that big. Wife was saying, "Could have used that when the kids were young." Of course we could not afford it back then.

omg, I sure know how to get off subject and make a short story long huh ?
02/17/2014
Contributor: Kitt Katt Kitt Katt
Hubby ordered the harness. It took me a bit to warm up to the idea.
02/18/2014
Contributor: MaeGal MaeGal
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Originally posted by Kitt Katt
Hubby ordered the harness. It took me a bit to warm up to the idea.
Likewise. It was his idea, I got on board eventually.
02/20/2014
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by RonLee
Yes, well my wife is now gone, may she rest in peace.
My current partner is just a bit reluctant but is OK with pegging me occasionally.
Sad that men who want it end up with women who don't really want to and women who want to do it, end ... more
I wish the best for you.
02/21/2014
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Yes, from reading many of the previous other posts on the forum, that is validated. I remember reading the one where many women say they would love to peg a man. That same poll had many wife's who stated their husbands would say, "No ... more
You may have been a bit "off topic", but man, oh man, do we understand what you are saying!
03/01/2014
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
You may have been a bit "off topic", but man, oh man, do we understand what you are saying!
Bignufs, Your Alive ! Welcome back !
03/01/2014
Contributor: Svenson Svenson
I'm a guy, but so I won't vote but I feel like my opinion is still relevant.

If pegging is something you're interested in, or suspect that your man is into, it would be a good idea to lightly bring up the idea to test the waters and see how he reacts. If he seems to genuinely be open to the idea, then it may be worth it to buy a cheaper harness and toy to "bring out" and show him haha. This way, if he still turns you down (which is less likely) you won't have invested as much money into it.
03/08/2015
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
What happened then? Were you embarrassed to have brought up the idea, or upset they wouldn't play? A friend just tried this on her hubby of three years on Valentines Day. She thought he would be open to the idea, since he likes her licking and ... more
So Bignufs,

It's been a 13 months now. Has your friend been able to utilize her harness and dildo ?

Or were you asking this in the 3nd person ? Do you have any harness? And how many now ?
03/20/2015
Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
For us, the pegging experience still hasn't happened, but we're approaching it like conquering a mountain peak, actually, so no surprises were involved. We've been talking a lot, discussing the possibility of the experiment and how it might affect - in a good way - our relationship. So it was a common decision - however, we still have to act on it
10/29/2018
Contributor: Love getting pegged Love getting pegged
Quote:
Originally posted by RonLee
As I'm male, please forgive me for butting in, however...

Years ago, I'd purchased both a harness and several toys, including a Vixen Creations Nexus for my wife and I to play. She had been a rather adventurous partner, and I'd ... more
You need to try the king cock series of dildos they may look big but they are so soft they feel awesome
11/08/2018
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by GingerAnn
For us, the pegging experience still hasn't happened, but we're approaching it like conquering a mountain peak, actually, so no surprises were involved. We've been talking a lot, discussing the possibility of the experiment and how it ... more
We can say it's improved our relationship quite a bit. More loving than ever if that's possible. Engaging in what was once a very kinky taboo sex for each other showed how much we were willing to do for each other. For the women it also creates a feeling of power, accomplishment and self esteem.

And we feel we are just your average life loving couple into each other. Not bi, " sissy" etc. Rather quite athletic , outgoing etc. Nobody would suspect our bedroom has so many sextoys, harnesses and dildos. Years ago neither of us could have imagined or even knew about pegging. Piv 3-5 times a week was the norm.
11/11/2018
Contributor: C and J C and J
Nope he loves it
11/25/2019