Want to learn more about receiving anal and why it feels so good?

hot spot hot spot
I'm a married, hetro-male. We recently discovered Eden on line. Bought my wife a rabbit, then discovered ALL the TOYS. I've know for a long time that I was hot back there. We have engaged in me receiving anal in the past, but not much for a long time because of fear of injury or problems resulting from it.
We are in our 50's and have had a good sex life for a long time. But work, life, age, seemed to be dragging us down. From being a man who HAD to do it every day and several times a day was better. I was getting Tired!!!
That's why we bought the Rabbit (don't know about all women, but my wife's orgasmic ability is growing as she ages).
Back to the subject of anal/ I absolutly love it!! It just blows both our minds how hot I get. There is no one I would talk to about this other than thru a forum like this. We would like to learn more from experienced couples who do this. What happens and why? I've read about anal orgasams on here. It's sort of a nebulous subject. What classifies as a orgasm? As a man ,I'm used to orgasm/ means ejaculation. Not sure what to call it; but while she is doing me I have bunches of SOMETHING!!
I can't believe I'm sharing this; even in a forum where no one will ever know me! But I really want to learn more about what is happening and why?
07/15/2010
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Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by hot spot
I'm a married, hetro-male. We recently discovered Eden on line. Bought my wife a rabbit, then discovered ALL the TOYS. I've know for a long time that I was hot back there. We have engaged in me receiving anal in the past, but not much for a ... More
I'm honestly not sure how to explain how one would classify an orgasm. I know my boyfriend has several non-ejaculatory orgasms when he is using one of his p-spot toys. My general thought (and someone please correct me if I'm wrong) is that if it's the build and release that feels like a normal orgasm, it's an orgasm - so basically if you think it's an orgasm, it probably is!. There's no rule that says you have to ejaculate. And anal and p-spot orgasms may feel a little different from what you're used to, just like a g-spot or a clitoral orgasm are different for women. When we play this way, my boyfriend's orgasms also tend to increase in length and intensity the more they happen.

Orgasms can happen to a man participating in anal play for two reasons that I know of - the first is just from the stimulation of the nerves back there. I know men (and women for that matter) that are sensitive enough and enjoy it enough that just the thrusting of something in and out will make them orgasm. For other men, it's related to p-spot stimulation, and that's what generally makes my boyfriend orgasm. He has toys that he has learned how to move inside of his body and can make himself orgasm without ejaculating, or I can stimulate his p-spot from his perineum or from playing with him internally while going down on him and he'll have a really extremely intense orgasm with ejaculation.

I don't know what it is you're doing now to stimulate yourself - if she's wearing a strap-on, or just thrusting with a toy, or playing manually. If you're just using plugs right now, you may want to try prostate massagers - there are a number of very highly reviewed ones, specifically those made by Aneros. If you're using toys either with a harness or without, you may still want to try plugs or massagers that you keep in while you have intercourse. It really is a HUGE realm of possible activities once you start getting into it. Also, the more you get involved in this sort of play, the more you'll recognize what type of stimulation you like and where you like it, which will enable you to choose toys that will work better for you (different sizes, thicknesses, shapes, etc.).

There are lots of couples on here that enjoy this kind of play though, and I'm sure they'll be happy to help along your way! Good luck & glad to hear you're having so much fun
07/15/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
As far as I know ToriRebel hit it on the head. The only thing I can add is that there is thousands of nerve endings in the area just like the vagina or head of your penis. Also with some 'training' you can have hands free ejaculation/orgasms through anal play. (still working on that)

I have only two friends that I can talk about this with so I understand.

Welcome to the anal club.
07/15/2010
hot spot hot spot
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
As far as I know ToriRebel hit it on the head. The only thing I can add is that there is thousands of nerve endings in the area just like the vagina or head of your penis. Also with some 'training' you can have hands free ejaculation/orgasms ... More
OK, I didn't die because someone read this. It's good to know others have experienced this also. We are using toys (moderate sized). I like ones that viberate best. So, it's not "off the wall" to believe I'm experiencing "MULTIPLE" orgasams. Pretty cool/ I'd always been sort of jealous of a woman's ability to have them in bunches. I would have to say, after all these years of having intercourse, I think I understand what it's like to "get it" better now!
It's funny, most men would gladly screw their woman in the rear, but never dream of taking it, and we are probably built to enjoy it more. (I find it all feels good; but there is that certain spot that is JUST RIGHT!
This "pegging" ie. using a strap-on/ it seems like it would be sort of hard for the woman to control/ I mean she has no feeling in her strap on dildo.
Any guys out there afraid it will make you gay or girlish to get screwed in the rear. I look like a retired NFL nose tackle or the enforcer for some "biker gang". But when "momma" gets me warmed up and really starts giving it to me: I shake my tail better than a teenage girl who has just discovered sex. It turns out that I'm a "SCREAMER"!!
All this makes momma HOT!
I don't regret not sharing this with people I know. It's something secret, special that only the 2 of us know about.
Thank to Eden for helping me to experience pleasure I would NEVER have enjoyed otherwise.
07/15/2010
shepegs shepegs
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Originally posted by hot spot
OK, I didn't die because someone read this. It's good to know others have experienced this also. We are using toys (moderate sized). I like ones that viberate best. So, it's not "off the wall" to believe I'm experiencing ... More
Pegging is the best. She'll love it. Once you go anal, you don't go back. My girl LOVES doing me.
07/15/2010
Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by hot spot
OK, I didn't die because someone read this. It's good to know others have experienced this also. We are using toys (moderate sized). I like ones that viberate best. So, it's not "off the wall" to believe I'm experiencing ... More
LOL - your description of your appearance makes me laugh. My boyfriend looks like he should be in a biker gang, he's ginormous, covered in ink and rides a harley and LOVES it when I play with his ass.

And pegging isn't actually that hard to control for the woman as long as she gets a properly fitting harness and a firm enough dildo. Between those two things and learning how to use them and thrust properly, she'll do just fine!
07/15/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by hot spot
OK, I didn't die because someone read this. It's good to know others have experienced this also. We are using toys (moderate sized). I like ones that viberate best. So, it's not "off the wall" to believe I'm experiencing ... More
Same here 6'4" 190lbs. Think Iron worker, make more noise than the wife.

About "get it". Just told the wife the same thing. I have learned what it feels like to lay in a wet spot, that feeling when things are hot and heavy and the toy pops out by accident. Multipl O's. Incredibly arousing.
07/16/2010
rcrebel1 rcrebel1
Never had anal sex or recieved anal from my wife, a little afraid. I'm 58, she is 55,how do you get started?
07/16/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
I started with my finger and lube, then worked up to the toys. Start by cleaning up, go slow, relax and when you think there is enough lube put some more on. I started solo during masterbation and just recently got the wife to help.

If you feel any pain stop, ad more lube or try something different. Anal play should not hurt.

Also take a look in link and link Lots of great info!
07/16/2010
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