poll & discussion - anal sex - smell

Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
My husband and I finally got comfortable with actual full-on anal sex (penis in vagina). We always used toys, and I would finger him every now and then, but our anal sex life was limited. Both him and I douche anally about an hour before any anal sex because we just feel that that is proper anal etiquette. However, the smell of anal play seems to bother us both. Does the smell of anal play bother you, and if so, do you have ways of reducing the smell? Even douching doesn't seem to get rid of that. We have tried scented lubricants, etc. But it just seems to make it worse. I would love to hear your thoughts. Sorry if this sounds silly at all.

The smell doesn't bother us all the time. There are days when he doesn't smell like much of anything, and there are days when I don't smell like much of anything. I'm not sure if it is our diets, exercise, medications, etc. But I would like to find a way to make things more pleasant.
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08/10/2011
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08/10/2011
Contributor: Cookie Monster Mike Cookie Monster Mike
Erm other i guess. I don't do much anal play with a partner however by myself i do (I know where is the fun in that right?).

Anyways......

Even if i find during anal play that some stuff comes out, whether mixed in with my lube or something else, i never notice a smell often. I'm sure it's different for everyone, depending on your health and eating habits. Not sure what to suggest to reduce smell.

I see you mentioned medications, antibiotics? I know certain ones can really affect smell. I was on a sulfur based antibiotic years ago, i had an allergic reaction to it, appearance and smell was altered Even some normal prescription meds can do some crazy stuff to you. Health meds also, certain extracts and exotic natural pills can easily cause that.

Well i hope someone else has some better insight than me. Goodluck with making things more pleasurable.
08/10/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
Quote:
Originally posted by Cookie Monster Mike
Erm other i guess. I don't do much anal play with a partner however by myself i do (I know where is the fun in that right?).

Anyways......

Even if i find during anal play that some stuff comes out, whether mixed in with my lube or ... more
I'm very sure that the meds have a lot to do with it. I guess I never really put much thought into that. You'd think that the amount of water we drink would flush that out, though.
08/15/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I had a hard time with the poll. We've never had a problem with odor during anal play. I think at least in part, the way one's digestive system has a lot to do with "detritus" and odor during anal play. GROSS WARNING: People who have soft, sticky stools will have more detritus and more odor in their anal play, because sometimes small amounts of material are left behind after a bowel movement.

Also, one's diet, as well as food choices and even timing have a lot to do with whether anal play will be fun or a bit of a mess. Also, knowing when "your butt has the night off" is a good thing to realize. Sometimes that part of your body just isn't going to co-operate, and knowing when you aren't in the right body set for anal and then saying NO is really important.

I tend to have firmer non-sticky poops (no other way to say it, I guess) and they leave little behind in the rectum or anus at all. A healthy, well working GI system shouldn't leave much of anything behind, but there are things people do to actually increase the chance of improper rectal emptying. I never use an anal douche or enema, because I only have anal sex if I know things are empty there, and I make sure my body is functioning properly so that it can empty properly.

Some things to keep in mind; 1) Some people will actually cause a gastro-colic reflex when using an anal douche, which causes material higher in the GI tract to move down when the douche or enema is administered. Try not using them for a few weeks and see if that helps. 2) Diets TOO high in fiber, especially soluble fiber may promote really sticky poops, which can add to the issues you were talking about. Yes, fiber is good for you, but too much can cause problems, not just with anal sex, but with vitamin absorption. 3)Time your anal play right. Don't have anal sex or anal play if it's been more than 12-24 hours since you have had a bowel movement, or if you feel you may have one soon. I honestly think one of the reasons My Man doesn't allow anal play on himself is that, unlike me, he has an average of 3 to 4 stools a day and they are sticky and he just thinks it isn't worth the mess. I don't think it's the main reason, but I think it's part of it. He could change this pattern by TOTALLY avoiding dairy product (like I do) not eating peanut products (which I also do) and avoiding alcohol at all times (which I also do.) But, it isn't worth it to him.

4) Don't ever "hold it" for long. This can lead to improper emptying of the lower bowel and problems later on, not to mention pain, gas and nausea. If you have to go, GO!

My diet is limited by allergies and GI issues, so I have always been very careful about my GI system and actually can't tolerate too much fiber. I think finding the perfect amount, not too much and not too little, while totally avoiding dairy products (because they stink because they are never broken down properly by humans) and perhaps avoiding alcohol and excess fiber may help.

This is what works for me, and I can't guarantee it will work for everyone. Mileage and alll that stuff.
08/15/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
There are some nights when I really wanted to have anal sex, but my GI system's not helping and it frustrates me a little. I've started taking 400mg Damiana leaves capsules daily, besides balancing my hormones due to my perimenopause, its mild laxative effect helps clear my GI tracts every night (works better than probiotic). I'm so happy about this improvement, I don't have to worry about smelly butts anymore, and we can enjoy anal without hindrance!
08/15/2011
Contributor: PuddlePuppy PuddlePuppy
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
My husband and I finally got comfortable with actual full-on anal sex (penis in vagina). We always used toys, and I would finger him every now and then, but our anal sex life was limited. Both him and I douche anally about an hour before any anal sex ... more
We don't really experience much of anything when it comes to smells. But before we decide to play anally, she either takes an enema until the water runs clear, or it's after she fasts for awhile and takes a mild laxative.
08/18/2011
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I have never really noticed much in the way of smell with anal sex.
08/20/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
My husband and I finally got comfortable with actual full-on anal sex (penis in vagina). We always used toys, and I would finger him every now and then, but our anal sex life was limited. Both him and I douche anally about an hour before any anal sex ... more
Never noticed any "smell" unique to anal play, so never a problem for either of us.
08/21/2011
Contributor: Screen Door Screen Door
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Originally posted by bayosgirl
I have never really noticed much in the way of smell with anal sex.
same here
08/22/2011
Contributor: mcl272 mcl272
like others, never really had a problem with smell! every body is different though.
08/22/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
iiii know we like to think our shit don't stank but...

no, honestly we have anal to finish nearly every sex session, (about 3x a week) and i've never noticed a smell.

08/22/2011
Contributor: Powder Powder
I've never noticed much of an odor. Granted I am somewhat new to it, but nothing that has detoured me from play.
08/23/2011
Contributor: Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
That sounds gross, now anal play appeals to me even less.
08/23/2011
Contributor: frisky069 frisky069
Quote:
Originally posted by Cookie Monster Mike
Erm other i guess. I don't do much anal play with a partner however by myself i do (I know where is the fun in that right?).

Anyways......

Even if i find during anal play that some stuff comes out, whether mixed in with my lube or ... more
never really noticed any smell
08/25/2011
Contributor: domsub1993 domsub1993
Oh, man-- now I'm totally paranoid. We've only had anal sex twice (we are new to this world) and I never noticed a smell. I feel like I need to be more careful or something...
10/18/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
I've never really noticed a smell.

Maybe when I was brand new to anal, and didn't have a reliable "empty/not empty" sensor yet, occasionally I'd have to bolt up and go wash my hands... but for the last several years, I really don't smell much at all.

I do only do anal with my left hand, and then keep that hand away from faces/genitals again afterward. And when it's PIA sex, I don't go diving my face to his crotch right after.

Although, now that I mention it, when I have done ATM in the past it didn't really smell bad, either.

Eat lots of fiber?
10/18/2011
Contributor: MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
I have never really noticed a scent from anal...
10/21/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I've never had a problem with anal play and an odd smell.
10/21/2011
Contributor: Alyxx Alyxx
Never really had a problem with any smell from anal.
11/03/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I have an enema before any anal play - or make sure I've had a BM within a couple of hours beforehand. But I never have any odour at all after playing.
11/03/2011
Contributor: mh11 mh11
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
My husband and I finally got comfortable with actual full-on anal sex (penis in vagina). We always used toys, and I would finger him every now and then, but our anal sex life was limited. Both him and I douche anally about an hour before any anal sex ... more
I've a little anal experience and I have never noticed any smell at all. Maybe I'm just lucky...? IDK. Maybe too much anal play?
11/09/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
Never noticed a smell
02/07/2012
Contributor: godweensatan godweensatan
it turns me on, a nice stinky ass mmmm...
02/07/2012
Contributor: dbm6907 dbm6907
I've never noticed a smell, but there was one time in which my boyfriend did. He just kept doing what he was doing. Not a big deal.
02/07/2012
Contributor: Harpina is gone Harpina is gone
Doesn't bother me if I even notice it.
02/15/2012
Contributor: freda freda
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
My husband and I finally got comfortable with actual full-on anal sex (penis in vagina). We always used toys, and I would finger him every now and then, but our anal sex life was limited. Both him and I douche anally about an hour before any anal sex ... more
No, anal smell does not bother me.
02/25/2012
Contributor: geliebt geliebt
I also hadn't noticed any smell!
03/11/2012
Contributor: Entropy Entropy
In my guy-guy, guy-gal escapades, any smell (sometimes none, sometimes some, your experience may differ), can be alleviated with a preparatory enema.
03/11/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
My husband and I finally got comfortable with actual full-on anal sex (penis in vagina). We always used toys, and I would finger him every now and then, but our anal sex life was limited. Both him and I douche anally about an hour before any anal sex ... more
We have done "full on anal" for decades and I don't really recall encountering an "anal smell", but we ALSO don't mess with our normal "flora and fauna" by using douches or enemas!!!! Nature keeps the anus and rectum clean and empty if you are not in need of a bowl movement right then, so I suspect YOU may be creating the problem by inflaming or altering the normal pH, as well as normal cellular wall chemistry in the rectal tissue. It is the same as an inflamed or infected wound "smelling" from anaerobic bacteria. Bottom line....don't mess with your bottom. Try enjoying anal with a GOOD lube and without the "prep". That may well solve your problem. If not, there ARE some lubes out there with nice scents as well. Look on EF, there are a number here.
03/11/2012