We both have had lovers who plan for anal well in advance. 1. Right lube. 2. Right toys 3. Right music 4. Maybe enema or douche 5. Right day's activities for relaxation....etc. Others are just, "hey baby, put it in my bumm"...SO, do YOU or your lover lay out the supplies and plan with military precision or is it "whatever happens, all good...there is the right toy and lube SOMEWHERE in that big drawer"?