Rimming?

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Rimming?

adirondacker adirondacker
I want to rim my girlfriend but I am not exactly sure how to go about this. First because she has no interest in anal sex, she shuts down whenever I get to close to her backside. Second if I actually do get the chance to try it I am not exactly sure what I am doing. I eat my girl out all the time, how similar is it? I want to get it right the first time so that there is a second and a third and so on...
06/29/2009
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Jimbo Jones Jimbo Jones
This is a tricky question because she shuts down whenever you start going in that direction. My partner was pretty similar for a long time. Just recently she has read some things online (including here at EdenFantasys) that have made her want to experiment more in that area and she has allowed me quite a bit more access than I used to get.
I have learned how to gently warm her up (using either mouth and hands or just hands) and we have put butt plugs in to make things extra tight and really push me on to her g-spot so she has awesome g-spot orgasms from that.
I think communication is absolutely key with successful anal activities. Some other activities can be done without a lot of communication, but pain is too readily available with anal sex to be done without communication. She may need to find some interest in it herself before she will let you have much access there. My partner found it helpful to read about other women's good experiences and their resultant orgasms so she wanted to try it out for herself. She hasn't come from anal stimulation alone or anything, but it has been an instrumental part of some great orgasms for her recently.
Good luck!
06/29/2009
ScottA ScottA
I've noticed that you've made several posts about various anal activities, and ways to interest your GF in them. It's good that you're thinking of ways to spice up your sex life, and also good that you seem to be equally interested in her pleasure as in yours - keep up the good work.

That said, there are some anal activities that carry more baggage than others. Of the ones I've seen you mention I'd pick out rimming and pegging as things that you'll probably want to put in the "something to try later" pile. My thoughts are that if you spring these on her right now you're going to overload her.

The good thing about rimming is that there isn't a risk of pain unless you get your teeth involved, but the bad thing is that taboo. Even with a barrier (dam or plastic wrap), she's still probably going to think "eww - you put that tongue down there and now you want to kiss me???"

Once you've introduced other anal play and she's OK with it you might try the following approach: Play with her bottom (be sure to include the buttocks as well as the anal area) during cunnilingus for a while, then move down to where your cunnilingus includes stimulating the top part of the perineum. Once you've done this for a while (while as in weeks, not minutes), you can proceed. Depending on your GF you have three options: Talk with her first, link the rimming in with the sensations she likes, explain about using plastic wrap or dams for safety, and if she's interested go take a shower and get started (start off with cunnilingus, then move down). If you think she'd be more receptive when she's horny start with a shower, move to cunnilingus (have the plastic wrap and lube ready), then substitute a delicately caressing hand for your tongue, move up and whisper your desires in her ear (be sure to explain about the dams or wrap!) If you're sure she won't freak out you can just try moving in that direction and see what happens, but this is probably the least advisable approach.

Once she's OK with it get some lube that she tolerates (be careful of parabens if she's sensitive). For rimming a thin lube is better, so the sensations aren't dulled. Get a dam (check link) or use a piece of kitchen plastic wrap (about 8" long is a good starting length). There are two good positions: her lying on her back holding her legs up against her chest, and her bending over doggy style. For either one she should have her legs out in a "V" type shape for best access. Put some lubricant on her anus and then put the plastic wrap over the area. Start licking - be sure to include her vulva and clitoris as well! Start off just licking around the outside of the anus - that's all I do, but if you want you can move up to inserting your tongue a little. Enjoy watching her moan and squirm (hopefully).
06/29/2009
Kinky Skier Kinky Skier
i started by licking her tink (a girls taint, we made it up) in between her ass and vagina. it took a few times, but now she know what i am trying to do, so, she lets me! as for style i just go crazy, licking, a little probing, whatever the hell i want
11/06/2009
Miss Jane Miss Jane
I would definitely second the communication part. If she shuts down whenever you get near that area, and you suddenly start licking it... you may have more problems than not getting your anal desires met.
11/07/2009
lovingmywife lovingmywife
Im hoping that somebody might help me out....My wife and I would like to spice up our sex life some and anal sex is THE topic and we're excited - but want to be prepared and not be...um..."messy". What is the best thing for her to use and where can she pick one up?
12/21/2009
ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by lovingmywife
Im hoping that somebody might help me out....My wife and I would like to spice up our sex life some and anal sex is THE topic and we're excited - but want to be prepared and not be...um..."messy". What is the best thing for her to use ...
For rimming/anilingus the best way to not be messy is a two or three step process: first, have the getter go to the bathroom, then shower. Afterwards a lubricated sheet of plastic wrap between tongue and anus ensures cleanliness.

For anal sex (penis/anus or dildo/anus) there are two schools of thought. Often things are clean enough after a "normal" BM that it isn't too bad, especially if you use a condom (recommended). I can tell you from experience that a noticeable chunk of the time I don't "come clean", and since the mess does bother me a bit I do take other steps so I can be completely relaxed.

There are (again) two general ideas about steps you can take: water enemas/anal douches (NOT the chemical type) or glycerin suppositories (not bisacodyl/Dulcolax).

Two repetitions of ~10oz of warm, plain water (no soap, no anything) works pretty well for me most of the time. If you want to try the suppository route I find 2-3 works better than one.

In any case a condom is recommended for penis/anus sex (not as necessary for toy play), as many people dislike the effects of semen in the rectum, and it cuts down the risk of the male developing UTIs.
12/21/2009
lanky lanky
i started by licking pussy when she was on her hands and knees. massaging the area just above her ass with my tongue and fingers. Over a couple of times hvaing sex slowly made my way to her ass. She was surprised at first, but then shoved her ass tight into my face. Now she loves it
06/27/2011
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