There is so much untapped sexual satisfaction possible through anal partner sex. So based on your experiences, what is your attitude toward anal partner sex?

Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
I love anal sex. I didn't always. But since I've been with M, I've found that it can be yummy.
08/18/2009
Contributor: Dark Muse Dark Muse
I'm not really into the idea of anal sex on the receiving end, but I wouldn't mind using a strap on for a partner. My current partner refuses, which is fine. It's not that big of a deal to me. I'm not really interested in being on the receiving end, but if my partner really wanted to try I would consider it. One of my friends goes absolutely gaga over it, and she said there is nothing like it in the world. Curiosity has yet to get the better of me. I do like vibrator stimulation around my anal opening though.

I do hate how trivialized it has become in pop culture. I have a bunch of friends that go on and on about "buttsecks". It's irritating, and kinda degrading.
08/18/2009
Contributor: Yoda Yoda
I love anal sex, but my partner does not. She is quite obliging whenever I ask for it, however. I guess it's all about what you're comfortable with.
08/22/2009
Contributor: Undressed Reviews Undressed Reviews
I've had some really, really negative experiences with anal sex. However, I could recognize how some of it was related to my partner at the time, or just some stupid misstep along the way. When it's a good time and I'm in the mood, I enjoy it a lot. And I never do it unless it's a good time and I'm in the mood. Period.
09/26/2009
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Liz2
Anal sex is one area that many people would rather not discuss and even take measures to avoid. At the same time, there is interest in anal sex through porn. Many people are also using butt plugs and dils for anal stimulation and enjoying the ... more
Have to go with the non-existent 'other' I love anal sex both giving and receiving but my partner is very reluctant on both giving and receiving.
01/10/2010
Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
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Originally posted by Dragon
You didn't mention another category. "I love anal sex, but my partner really sucks at it, and really isn't interested personally."

See what happens when you try to categorize the real world? *grin* Someone doesn't fit...
I vote for that too. At least that's what I would have voted when I was with my last partner. Right now, I would vote, I get some anal play on my own. Oh wait, that's not in the vote list either.

Oh and my first time with a partner was painful too and took my a while to try it again, on my own. I have only that experience with a partner.
01/17/2010
Contributor: GNGenie GNGenie
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Originally posted by Liz2
Anal sex is one area that many people would rather not discuss and even take measures to avoid. At the same time, there is interest in anal sex through porn. Many people are also using butt plugs and dils for anal stimulation and enjoying the ... more
My husband is really excited by the idea, both on him and on me. The problem is, that while I generally try to accommodate my husband's fantasies, he has a really wide penis and it's very very uncomfortable for him to penetrate me.
05/08/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
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Originally posted by GNGenie
My husband is really excited by the idea, both on him and on me. The problem is, that while I generally try to accommodate my husband's fantasies, he has a really wide penis and it's very very uncomfortable for him to penetrate me.
My b/f also has a wide cock, though I love anal and had anal with other guys...my present b/f was a challenge. I worked my butt, using different plugs esp during masturbation sessions and I prep with a plug prior to being penetrated by him...with practice, it works. Obviously, he has to go easy and lube..lube...lube..
06/10/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I had to check too painful and just not for me. I've tried again and again with ridiculous amounts of lube and it's not a tearing or tissue-related pain at all. It's more that the pressure of it just rubs me the wrong way and it bothers all the muscles surrounding the area. However, even though I don't enjoy being penetrated myself, I LOVE penetrating the man I'm with and so does he!
06/10/2010
Contributor: Lustful Dreams Lustful Dreams
I didn't used to like anal sex - first experience was forced, no lube, and no warning -- EEK!

Now with my fiance, we've grown comfortable enough with each other to do exactly whatever the other needs. He does everything I need to really open up and enjoy anal sex.
07/27/2010
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
Still working the kinks out, but I'm going to vote love because I'm getting into it quite well.
08/03/2010
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
I've had and enjoyed it, but unfortunately I tend to remember the painful experiences so I've been staying away for now. It's suggested that we try a woman-on-top position so I can control everything to my liking, but it makes me far too nervous
08/03/2010
Contributor: Trashley Trashley
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Originally posted by Backseat Boohoo
I chose the second option, but not so much because I find anal sex abhorrent. It's just that I don't really care much about it and could live without it. If I have a partner who really likes it, fine, I'll do it once in a while, but ... more
I perfectly agree..
09/18/2010
Contributor: Madeira Madeira
I've tried it, and it wasn't painful, but it did nothing for me, and was simply too much hassle and fuss for my tastes. I'm open to giving anal penetration to a partner if they really enjoy it (my girlfriend isn't into it) because even if it is a bit of a fuss I like making my partner's happy, but for me personally, receiving just feels "awkward and unpleasantly slippery"
09/18/2010
Contributor: Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
I love it
09/18/2010
Contributor: shankinbro shankinbro
While neither my partner or I have experience anal intercourse, we like the incorporate stimulation into our play. It enhances both of our orgasms. We like to encourage each others fetishes and anal is one of em.
10/16/2010
Contributor: DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
I enjoy it, as does my partner but it's not something my partner or I LOVE to do; it's an occasional thing that we engage in when the mood strikes.
10/16/2010
Contributor: butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
I've tried anal a few times, I think it hurts and I know you have to relax or whatever but I have trouble relaxing. My partner enjoys doing it to me, but I only do it to please him.
10/19/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
I had a douchebag ex, who would always try to do it, and everytime he pushed in, it hurt.
So, when I got with my current... I was completely adverse to it, when he mentioned it.. I turned my nose up.

However, with some proper lubrication and arousal... I finally gave into it, and it felt so good... there was a bit of pressure, but it was worth it.
12/01/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by butterflygirlxo
I've tried anal a few times, I think it hurts and I know you have to relax or whatever but I have trouble relaxing. My partner enjoys doing it to me, but I only do it to please him.
You need to stop and start again from the beginning. You probably have trouble relaxing because you have trouble trusting, and since it hurts you don't have any reason to trust it. You shouldn't have to endure pain during sex.

If he wants anal and truly loves you he should have no problems backing off for a while. Start with finger play outside and learn to enjoy the sensations, then start with a single finger inside. Learn how your anus feels, learn to enjoy it, learn to trust that it can be done without hurting and that your partner won't hurt you. Practice saying stop a few times so you know you can do this and he will stop.

Then you start opening up a bit more. Learn to trust that nothing bad will happen when you relax your anus. Eventually you'll get to where you can relax enough to take him with only momentary discomfort or less, or you'll decide that anal isn't for you and you can move on to something else.
12/01/2010
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
I didn't used to enjoy it. It took a combination of several factors for me to enjoy it, but it's not something I want all the time either.
01/01/2011
Contributor: Bunnycups Bunnycups
I don't think there's anything wrong with it, I just don't think it's for me.
01/01/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
I had a good experience. I find the partner I am with now has made me love it even more.
01/04/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
My husband has made it quite enjoyable for me. We love it!
01/04/2011
Contributor: MR Chickhabit MR Chickhabit
anal sex is really just the greatest.

its the bees knees.
01/04/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Redboxbaby
My husband has made it quite enjoyable for me. We love it!
Redboxbaby -I want to make it 'quite enjoyable' for my lady - and suggestions?
01/04/2011
Contributor: rdytogo rdytogo
We both like doing it, but it isn't something that we do that often. More of a special occasion type thing.
01/04/2011
Contributor: MR Chickhabit MR Chickhabit
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Redboxbaby -I want to make it 'quite enjoyable' for my lady - and suggestions?
slow, foreplay, take a shower together, wash her down south, stick a finger in to ensure cleanliness, then get her back in bed, MORE foreplay include some gentle touching of her tight little hole and then kiss your way to her hole, gently lick it (it is clean after all) after getting her hot, work yourself in.

maryjane helps alot, booze less so.
01/04/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by MR Chickhabit
slow, foreplay, take a shower together, wash her down south, stick a finger in to ensure cleanliness, then get her back in bed, MORE foreplay include some gentle touching of her tight little hole and then kiss your way to her hole, gently lick it (it ... more
Thanks - I've done all of the above - except maryjane. I've probably rimmed her 100 times - but when it comes to anything penetrative - even a finger - the answer was a flat no! But about 1 month ago she agreed to try and we've making some small steps - at least she has given the go ahead to try. Now I have to make it pleasurable enough that she'll want me to do more - that's the challenge.

Keep those good ideas coming!
01/04/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Thanks - I've done all of the above - except maryjane. I've probably rimmed her 100 times - but when it comes to anything penetrative - even a finger - the answer was a flat no! But about 1 month ago she agreed to try and we've making ... more
Make sure to keep some clit stimulation in the mix while you're doing buttplay, but do make sure it is with a different hand or toy. Go slow, use warm toys/lube, and do some talking about why she likes external play but is less enthusiastic about internal play - it could be cleanliness concerns (find a way to deal with them) or worries about it hurting (use enough lube, go slow, and practice relaxation exercises. Start them out in a safe place, because sometimes people equate relaxing the anus with a mess that might need to be cleaned up.
01/04/2011