What do you think of my 'Sleepy Finger' idea?

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What do you think of my 'Sleepy Finger' idea?

CE CE
One of the reasons I love anal play is that it is such an intimate thing to do with a partner. It is such a sensitive area, that only the most caring, careful,and trusted lovers get to explore. So to me, it carries a much deeper connection and bonding with my partner than other types of sex.

One of the ways I like to bond with my girl is with something I call the 'Sleepy Finger.' It goes like this: at bedtime, she lies on her right side, lower leg straight down and upper leg bent with her knee towards her chest comfortably. I spoon in behind her, with my upper (left) arm down between our bodies. After some anal massage using KY, I slide my middle finger into her ass gently, lifting up her cheek so I can get all the way in deep. Once inside, I put my top leg over her lower leg, which pushes my thigh right up against my hand. This 'locks' us, and my finger, in place, so when we relax as we fall asleep, we maintain this position. I usually massage her gently inside for a short time, barely moving my finger. Since her ass is so sensitive she can feel every tiny twitch. I'm not sure if she can feel my pulse, but I can feel hers! It feels amazing to be connected this way when falling asleep; its comforting, warm and joining for us. We can stay this way for a few hrs, but eventually have to shift around and dis-join, but it always makes for a great start to the night.

So what are everyone's thoughts on this? Has anyone done something similar? Am I crazy obsessed with her ass (I know I am!) and this goes too far? Or does anyone see and love the intimacy of doing this?

Comments please!
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Sounds hot! Can't wait to try it!
3  (10%)
I might like it, and want to try it at least once
9  (29%)
I don't think I'd like it, but would try if my partner asked
7  (23%)
Definitely wouldn't like it
5  (16%)
Yuck! Thats kind of gross
5  (16%)
I have done this and liked it
2  (6%)
I have done this and disliked it
Total votes: 31
Poll is closed
06/11/2013
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PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I wouldn't like it, but it sounds like a beautiful experience the two of you share.
06/11/2013
PassionCpl PassionCpl
We do anal play fairly regularly and do something a little similar to this from time to time. We'll start to drift off this way - either hubby's finger in me or mine in him but usually stop right at the point of falling asleep. It's not an every night thing, although I'll often fall asleep with my hand resting edge on between his cheeks, sort of cupping one of them.
06/11/2013
Hummingbird Hummingbird
We spoon all the time when sleeping, this thought never occurred to us. I'm not opposed to trying it once... it does sound interesting.
06/11/2013
bayosgirl bayosgirl
As the finger-er, I'd be afraid to be farted on during the night, lol.
06/11/2013
ImaGodiva ImaGodiva
Other: I would definitely do it if my husband wanted to, but it doesn't sound like something I'd be compelled to do. We both like anal play but I see it as more active rather than being something comforting to fall asleep while doing.

I have fallen asleep with his cock in my mouth and I think that is special and intimate.
06/11/2013
TiffanyW TiffanyW
I don't know if I could do that.
06/11/2013
married with children married with children
not something that would work for us.
06/11/2013
sunflower sunflower
Not for me at all. I hope you wash your hands afterwards!
06/12/2013
Herzer Herzer
Sounds like fun from either side but unfortunately we both roll too much.
06/12/2013
Nezzie13 Nezzie13
It sounds lovely, and I like anal play, but of he starts touching me there at bedtime we won't get any sleep!
06/12/2013
eri86 eri86
Doesn't sound like a comfortable position position, at least for me.
06/12/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by CE
One of the reasons I love anal play is that it is such an intimate thing to do with a partner. It is such a sensitive area, that only the most caring, careful,and trusted lovers get to explore. So to me, it carries a much deeper connection and ...
I just had my hubby read this, and we WILL be trying it tonight. I often fall asleep with him inside my anus, after anal sex. I love that feeling. I have not, however, tried it with his finger in there. Any anal play is wonderful in my book, and like you and your wife, my hubby is totally in love with my tush, and I would not want it any other way!!! Enjoy your "night's" and thanks for a new plan for us!
06/14/2013
Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
No thanks! I know I definitely wouldn't like it.
06/15/2013
wicked48 wicked48
Definitely going to have to give this a try! Thanks for the idea!
06/15/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
Did it last night. Yes, at some point we turned and that was that, but it was a nice way to fall asleep. Thanks for a cute, cuddly idea.
06/15/2013
Love Bites Love Bites
Quote:
Originally posted by CE
One of the reasons I love anal play is that it is such an intimate thing to do with a partner. It is such a sensitive area, that only the most caring, careful,and trusted lovers get to explore. So to me, it carries a much deeper connection and ...
I've talked to my partner about falling asleep joined, but he wants his penis inside of me. I'm not sure about a finger, but it could be interesting either way. Haven't really tried it yet though.
07/07/2013
CE CE
Quote:
Originally posted by PassionCpl
We do anal play fairly regularly and do something a little similar to this from time to time. We'll start to drift off this way - either hubby's finger in me or mine in him but usually stop right at the point of falling asleep. It's not ...
Sounds wonderful! We also don't do it that often, but usually touch intimately in some way while falling asleep.
07/08/2013
CE CE
Quote:
Originally posted by Hummingbird
We spoon all the time when sleeping, this thought never occurred to us. I'm not opposed to trying it once... it does sound interesting.
Hope it works for you and please post back your experience.
07/08/2013
CE CE
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
As the finger-er, I'd be afraid to be farted on during the night, lol.
Actually it CAN happen, with or without the finger. Can't love the butt without sometimes being made aware of what else it does!
07/08/2013
CE CE
Quote:
Originally posted by ImaGodiva
Other: I would definitely do it if my husband wanted to, but it doesn't sound like something I'd be compelled to do. We both like anal play but I see it as more active rather than being something comforting to fall asleep while ...
I understand that. I should have mentioned that its almost exactly like wearing a plug at night. Those who like plugs are not actively having sex while wearing, its just a constant reminder of something sexy. I would think anyone who likes plugs would enjoy a 'live' one for a few hours.

Ah, that sounds wonderful and intimate too! I've sucked on a breast while falling asleep as well - very comforting and intimate.
07/08/2013
CE CE
Quote:
Originally posted by Herzer
Sounds like fun from either side but unfortunately we both roll too much.
Yeah, it might not last too long depending on how much you switch positions before falling asleep. Might be worth a try though...
07/08/2013
CE CE
Quote:
Originally posted by Nezzie13
It sounds lovely, and I like anal play, but of he starts touching me there at bedtime we won't get any sleep!
Yes, that can happen too! A former partner who had never done ANY anal play at all actually became so sensitive down there that she came 6 times while trying this! And then she never let me do it again because she needed to sleep.
07/08/2013
CE CE
Quote:
Originally posted by wicked48
Definitely going to have to give this a try! Thanks for the idea!
Great - hope it works and please post back your experience!
07/08/2013
CE CE
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Did it last night. Yes, at some point we turned and that was that, but it was a nice way to fall asleep. Thanks for a cute, cuddly idea.
Glad you tried it and thanks for posting back. Its probably impossible to not turn at all so there definitely is a time limit, but its great while it lasts. Anal is already such an intimate way to share your body with your partner and I love the way this joins us for a while.

The longest I've ever stayed in place was maybe 4 hrs, and I woke up because my finger was numb and I had to 'extract' it so I could get the blood flowing again!

Hope you have many more happy 'Sleepy Finger' nights!
07/08/2013
CE CE
Quote:
Originally posted by Love Bites
I've talked to my partner about falling asleep joined, but he wants his penis inside of me. I'm not sure about a finger, but it could be interesting either way. Haven't really tried it yet though.
Sure, I'd love to keep my penis in her, but have never been close to having that work. I've found even a finger will be pushed/fall out if its just in there and not held. Thats why the leg locking is crucial so that I can stay inserted as both our muscles relax while falling asleep. This is just my experience though and everyone is different.

Hope you get to try it sometime!
07/08/2013
Total posts: 26
Unique posters: 16