Originally posted by
Thus question may sound odd but I'm curious... does it make you feel like you have to poop?
No, it doesn't. I was curious about that, too.
Before I started engaging in it. However, for me, vibrating toys do, so I stick with non-vibrating ones, fingers or cocks.
I find relaxing is easier said than done, I knew I was "ready" for it when I found myself fantasizing about it, and had a partner who wanted to play that way and I was thinking, "What am I doing? Let's do this." We took it easy
at first. My Man used his fingers (as I didn't like toys at all until after we had gotten into full on anal sex, but I probably different in this respect than most other people) he took it easy, we used and use a lot of lube. My Safe Word was on hand, if I needed to slow down or stop.
The first time was kind of weird, and I did bleed. (I didn't bleed the first time I had vaginal-penis sex!) But, that was most likely due to not using the right
lube, and not using enough. The next time, we took it even slower, and used the suggestions below and it was fucking amazing
!!!! It feels like you're in an altered state. I can't say enough about it. But, you have to want to, you have to keep an open mind and you have to take the time to train and to relax.
We also found two really important things;
1) I need to come before I can have anal sex. I can have anal play
with toys or fingers before an orgasm, in fact it helps, but for anal sex, I need to have at least one or two or more orgasms first. It relaxes me like nothing else.
2) We found that using a vaginal toy, a vibrator or dildo before and during anal sex made it a lot more fun and a lot easier. Many women are comfortable with vaginal penetration and we found it really helped. (My Man is a sexual genius for figuring this out, I think. Maybe I just love him.
We also often have PIV before anal sex. It just works better this way for us, and oral sex before is a given!
We took it slowly. It probably took a month or so between deciding it was something we both wanted, and full on anal sex. We played a LOT in the meantime, he got me used to the feelings and he encouraged me a LOT! I remember him whispering in my ear how much he loved me, and what a good girl I was and how amazing it felt and he kept checking in to make sure I was OK and to make sure I was enjoying myself. I was. And I still do.
Take it slowly and use a lot of lube and do it slowly at first. Even now, it can take several minutes to achieve complete penetration. No big deal, it's part of the fun.