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I'm trying to get ready for anal sex by playing with some toys by myself. I use System Jo anal lube, but when I insert the tip of any toy, no matter how skinny, I get a burning sensation that's just plain uncomfortable. Is this normal?
No, that should not happen if all is well. I am seriously into anal, and not into pain at all. Pain means something isn't as it should be. Don't ignore pain.
Start with lube. It may be that lube is just not the ideal one for you.
Second, a finger, rather then a toy, gives you a lot more sensitivity, and feedback as to what is going on. A lovers finger might be a great starter, and if not, your own finger would be the ideal teaching tool.
HOW you lube, may be key. Try lubing inside, by using a "lube shooter" or make your own by getting an enema bottle (like FLEETS) or an enema bulb, both of which have slim nozzles, and after making sure they are clean and empty...filling them up with a good lube and then inserting the well lubed (outside) nozzle in, just a bit,and then squeezing lube along the way, all the way past the anal sphincter valve and into the rectum, where you can squirt some more lube even (maybe a few teaspoons full). that way you are well lubed inside and out. It can help... a lot, when new at this.
As said below, it could also be the toy. Try something silicone or better yet, a small metal or glass toy, which eliminates the chance of any reaction and are super smooth.