Why do some women have an anal fetish?

shepegs shepegs
Some women apparently are fascinated and fixated with everything anal. Weather it's theirs being penetrated or played with or them playing or penetrating (with dildo, strapon or fingers) their partner's. My girl comes in an instant when it comes to anal. Weather she's getting hers played with or playing with mine. Just the mention of anal play turns her on. So why the fascination?

An of you ladies have an anal fetish and would like to share your reasons? Or perhaps a guess as to why? Just curious.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I'm a female and yes I have an anal fetish
70  (47%)
I'm a female and don't care for anal at all
32  (21%)
I'm a male and my girl just LOVES my ass or me playing with hers.
23  (15%)
I'm a male and my girl just doesn't care about anal play.
24  (16%)
Total votes: 149
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El-Jaro El-Jaro
Everyone has a back door, some are more fascinated by it than others. I don't think gender or sex matters.

I've actually met more women who don't enjoy anal than those who do.
08/02/2010
SexyySarah SexyySarah
There wasn't one for other, so I put I'm a girl who has an anal fetish, but I really don't but I do enjoy it.
08/02/2010
ScottA ScottA
Liking something doesn't make it a sex fetish necessarily, and I'm not sure that this really qualifies as a fetish in most instances. Perhaps someone with more experience/education can chime in?
08/02/2010
Ciao. Ciao.
My female partner isn't usually too keen on anal play. She's been more into it lately, but it's not really her thing. I definitely enjoy it more than she does!
08/02/2010
shepegs shepegs
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Originally posted by ScottA
Liking something doesn't make it a sex fetish necessarily, and I'm not sure that this really qualifies as a fetish in most instances. Perhaps someone with more experience/education can chime in?
True, in this particular case it is indeed a fetish. It is needed in order to get stimulated (turned on). It is also a visual turn on.
08/02/2010
Red Vinyl Kitty Red Vinyl Kitty
It isn't a fetish for me, but I do enjoy it. I don't really know why we each like the things we like - but I never question it. As long as you're enjoying yourself, I don't see the problem.
08/02/2010
shepegs shepegs
Quote:
Originally posted by Red Vinyl Kitty
It isn't a fetish for me, but I do enjoy it. I don't really know why we each like the things we like - but I never question it. As long as you're enjoying yourself, I don't see the problem.
no problem, just curious. Most fetishes are found in men and typically there's something in childhood for the fixation. Just wondering if women here had a clue how they got fixated?
08/02/2010
Red Vinyl Kitty Red Vinyl Kitty
Quote:
Originally posted by shepegs
no problem, just curious. Most fetishes are found in men and typically there's something in childhood for the fixation. Just wondering if women here had a clue how they got fixated?
I'm wondering where you heard that most fetishes are found in men? I have fetishes personally, and I'm a woman. I also know lots of women with fetishes. Just curious.
08/02/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
I don't have a fetish about it, but I do like it. One sided, only he penetrates. I do not play with his anus at all. It's just our thing.

Mileage and all that..
08/02/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
Liking something doesn't make it a sex fetish necessarily, and I'm not sure that this really qualifies as a fetish in most instances. Perhaps someone with more experience/education can chime in?
Actually, psychologically, a "Fetish" is a sexual interest so strong that the fetishist cannot become aroused or come to climax UNLESS the fetish is present.

Also, some thing qualify and some don't. A woman needing her clitoris stimulated is NOT a fetish (although Freud might have thought so) someone NEEDING high heeled shoes near his or her face in order to become stimulated or climax is a fetish.

Sometimes when something is relatively new to one's sex life, one can become fixated on it for a while, almost to the exclusion of other things, but it's only a fetish if it is necessary for arousal and climax.
08/02/2010
PassionQT PassionQT
I enjoy it, but it really depends on WHOSE ass it is
08/02/2010
Liz2 Liz2
I enjoy anal play but I see anal as just part of my total sexual experience. I enjoy DP during solo play as well as during sex. I love strap-on play because I seem so powerful as I thrust...
Anal enjoyment is not necessarily a fetish for me.
08/02/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
My wife will provide me with some anal/p-spot play - but the only anal play for her is rimming and rubbing - no penetration.
08/02/2010
buzzvibe buzzvibe
It's by no means a fetish for me, but I do enjoy it.
08/02/2010
Sammi Sammi
I like it, but I don't think I have a fetish about it.
08/02/2010
Not here Not here
I definitely enjoy back door play, but I don't have a fetish for it by any means. Although one of my favorite bedroom activities is getting my ass eaten, feels so good! As far as penetration goes, toys are somewhat often used, but the real thing is usually about once a month or so.. no need for too much of a good thing. I'm sure if I had some better anal toys that would change though...
08/02/2010
NymphetamineKiss NymphetamineKiss
I adore anal play. Possibly to the point of more than vaginal play...

Whether it be anal toys, anal fingering, rimming (<3) or anal sex, it's all likely to make me scream. I have wondered before why or how this is, after all - physiologically it makes sense for males to get off on it, but for women it isn't so obvious. I'd say the nerve-laden opening of the anus is the really sensitive bit, and is what gets me hot - hence why I adore being rimmed so much...
08/03/2010
Lustful Dreams Lustful Dreams
I wouldn't say I have an anal fetish. I like it sometimes. I definitely get in the mood for it every now and then where I feel like I gotta have it... anal sex is still painful for me no matter how much warming up I do for it especially after I have an orgasm.
08/03/2010
Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by PassionQT
I enjoy it, but it really depends on WHOSE ass it is
I have to second that. I don't enjoy much anal penetration at all myself. I do however LOVE penetrating my boyfriend with my fingers, and with his constantly growing toy stash.
08/03/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
I am female and enjoy anal play but it's not a fetish for me.

I enjoy anal stimulation and would love to stimulate my partner in this way but he isn't open to this.

When I masturbate and imagine myself giving it to him with a strap on it turns me on as hell bcs I love my man so much and would be so honoured that he would trust me enough to do something of the sort with him.
08/06/2010
shepegs shepegs
Quote:
Originally posted by Naughty Student
I am female and enjoy anal play but it's not a fetish for me.

I enjoy anal stimulation and would love to stimulate my partner in this way but he isn't open to this.

When I masturbate and imagine myself giving it to him with a ... More
He should at least try it. I mean, if you're so into it, he would at least try it. I think guys who don't want their girls to strap it on, are missing out.
08/06/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
My wife will provide me with some anal/p-spot play - but the only anal play for her is rimming and rubbing - no penetration.
Same here, she will "do me" but will not let me do more than touch her ass. Does not bother me at all. I can only dream that some day she will let me do more.
08/08/2010
sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
Quote:
Originally posted by Naughty Student
I am female and enjoy anal play but it's not a fetish for me.

I enjoy anal stimulation and would love to stimulate my partner in this way but he isn't open to this.

When I masturbate and imagine myself giving it to him with a ... More
I have almost the same situation! I like anal play, but not a ton. I definitely prefer vaginal play over anal play.

It definitely turns me on to think of playing anally with my hubby. The most he has let me try is a finger, and he didn't like it, so that has only happened once. I would love if I could use toys on him or a strap on, or even just continue with the finger, but he just isn't interested.
08/08/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
Quote:
Originally posted by shepegs
He should at least try it. I mean, if you're so into it, he would at least try it. I think guys who don't want their girls to strap it on, are missing out.
Well, we've talked about it a lot. I have brought it up often.

My man is so anal about anal I have been with him almost 6 years and have never SEEN his anus! So it's out of the question that I even insert a finger let alone stroke it gently.

I respect his wishes but hope one day he will come around.

He told me would never do rimming but he did it once so I brought up anal stim for him and he refused again.

I leave it alone now. It will have to come from him if he wants it bcs I don't want to push him into it. I love him and I don't want to get too naggy.
08/08/2010
shepegs shepegs
Quote:
Originally posted by Naughty Student
Well, we've talked about it a lot. I have brought it up often.

My man is so anal about anal I have been with him almost 6 years and have never SEEN his anus! So it's out of the question that I even insert a finger let alone stroke it ... More
Yes, I agree. It really isn't for EVERYONE. oh well. Maybe someday.
08/08/2010
sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
Quote:
Originally posted by Naughty Student
Well, we've talked about it a lot. I have brought it up often.

My man is so anal about anal I have been with him almost 6 years and have never SEEN his anus! So it's out of the question that I even insert a finger let alone stroke it ... More
Well see that's where things are different in my situation. My hubby doesn't care at all that I see his anus. Lol. He loves being naked and loves to put his butt very close to my head and spread his cheeks to pass gas. Lol. So yeah, I have seen it, he just doesn't like me touching.
08/08/2010
GreenDaisy3 GreenDaisy3
I can't say I have a fetish with anal, but I do enjoy it. It's funny because it is one of those things I said I would never do, but when I tried it - lets just say that I really enjoyed it. In fact there are times that I request anal and my hubby definately isn't disappointed.
08/08/2010
Midway through Midway through
I wouldn't call it a fetish.. but I do like it.
08/08/2010
Love Buzz Love Buzz
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
Actually, psychologically, a "Fetish" is a sexual interest so strong that the fetishist cannot become aroused or come to climax UNLESS the fetish is present.

Also, some thing qualify and some don't. A woman needing her clitoris ... More
I agree, for me it's more of a fixation than a fetish. I enjoy it, but can live and most certainly get off without it.
08/08/2010
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