girl on top masturbation

oohlookasquirrel oohlookasquirrel
I have a sexual quirk I've never heard of elsewhere before, and I'm wondering if anyone else has the same problem. It is almost impossible for me to get off when I'm not moving my hips a lot. If my partner is giving me oral sex, I've got to be on top so I can move my hips when I'm getting close. When I'm on my back, I never get there. If I'm really really horny and I have a dildo and a vibrator, I might be able to move my hips enough on my back to get off, but it doesn't happen often. I can lie on my back with my favorite toy on my clit for an hour, moving as much as possible in that position, and nothing will happen. I'll turn over and hump a pillow for 30 seconds, and that's when I'll have my orgasm.

This can get a little annoying during partnered sex because it means there are only a couple of positions that really work for me. I also get annoyed solo, because it seems like most toys were designed to be used while lying on my back. It's really hard to find a position that is comfortable without the toy being too hard and lumpy against my clit or accidentally pressing buttons or even breaking the toy under my weight for cheaper vibes.

Do any other ladies like to masturbate on their stomachs? Any favorite toys or tips or positions to share?
08/14/2010
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I have a friend that does it on her stomach, but I know it wears her arms out trying to get her vibrator to work properly. I personally haven't done it-have you thought about getting a suction cup dildo of some sort, or maybe a suction cup rabbit that you could put on the wall so you could move how you want?
08/14/2010
Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
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Originally posted by oohlookasquirrel
I have a sexual quirk I've never heard of elsewhere before, and I'm wondering if anyone else has the same problem. It is almost impossible for me to get off when I'm not moving my hips a lot. If my partner is giving me oral sex, ... More
Lauren had posted about how she enjoyed using the Nexus G-rider while lying on her stomach: link I haven't tried this yet with mine, but it sounds interesting.

Also, I wonder if the Jollies Jollie would work for you? I personally like to sit up straight while masturbating and love the sensation of pressure cupping my clit -- and the handle of the Jollie works well for this. I don't see why it wouldn't work while lying on your stomach either. (Note: This toy is very, very filling and is not a thrusting toy, but it is fantastic to grind your hips while it is inside you.) You can also apply a vibrator in the form of a bullet inside the handle or apply a more powerful vibe by pressing it to the base of the toy (my Hitachi works great for this). The silicone transmits vibrations very nicely.
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Jollies also makes another toy that I love called the Thrust, which is much less girthy than the Jollie. I believe the Thrust may also work while you are lying on your stomach. I would insert it and adjust it to a comfortable fit with the ribbed handle against your clit, then lie on your stomach to rub against it. You can also apply vibration to this toy in the same way as you can with the Jollie. link

Lastly, I greatly enjoy my NobEssence Romp when used vaginally, as it is a perfect fit and cups my clit, providing pressure in the most amazing way. I love how I can clench and squeeze around this toy and how it stimulates me! (You could easily wear the Romp under your clothes all day and no one would be the wiser, unless you start moaning!) I bet lying on my stomach with a pillow under my pelvic bone to provide more pressure while grinding against the nub against my clit would be divine! link

I haven't tried the SinFive Eve link or the WhipSpider Rubberworks Orchid link, but I bet these would be great fun to grind against while lying on your stomach!

Good luck and have fun experimenting! Let us know if you find something that works fantastically so you can share the fun with others!
08/14/2010
Owl Identified Owl Identified
I actually had the inverse problem. My partner loved being face fucked (me on top) but I couldn't get off this way. One of the things that I did to get myself more comfortable with that position was to vary my masturbation routine. I would masturbate kneeling, for example, and if I didn't get off, I'd just stop masturbating and call that session complete. I would alternate sessions like that and eventually I got more comfortable with being on top so now I can cum that way fairly often. I think a lot of it is more to do with habit than anything physical.

Hope that helps! Let us know how it goes.
08/14/2010
Alegria Alegria
I agree with Sex, Lies and Law. I cannot get off while on top (face fucking, missionary, cowgirl). I think it's because when I get close I lose control of my muscles so if I were on top I'd collapse/not be able to move.

I do love laying on my stomach though; that's the only way I could get off until a few years ago. Made my arms go numb if I took too long though haha.

Maybe use a small pillow under your hips to help alleviate your weight off the controls. Could try a remote control vibe, although I know those aren't very powerful.

Good luck!
08/14/2010
oohlookasquirrel oohlookasquirrel
I do have a small pillow I put under my stomach so that I'm not smashing the vibes too badly. It also keeps me from pulling muscles when I'm in a "frog legs" position flat against the bed. You've got to be flexible and warmed up for that, and I've definitely regretted it the next day!

I have a suction cup dildo, but we did not get along. The angle is difficult to get right, because I really want to lie flat on my bed and so I would want something that sticks out of my bed at an angle instead of straight up.

I bought a Liberator Wing to help out too. I haven't really mastered using it yet (partially because I need a vibrator that fits well in the vibrator pouch without getting its buttons mashed), but I'm working on it.

I enjoy my Fun Factory Bloomy used vaginally when I'm on my stomach, because the extra bit rubs against my clit very nicely. It sounds like the same idea as the Nexus G-rider or the NobEssence Romp. I wish it had a vibrator attached, but those can be a problem because the bed can absorb some of the vibration. I need to get a small vibe that will fit through the hole that is powerful enough to not have the vibrations absorbed by the bed.

The Jollies Thrust and the SinFive Eve are definitely going on my wishlist. I'll have to do some research before spending the money, but I'm definitely intrigued.
08/15/2010
Alura Une Alura Une
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Originally posted by oohlookasquirrel
I have a sexual quirk I've never heard of elsewhere before, and I'm wondering if anyone else has the same problem. It is almost impossible for me to get off when I'm not moving my hips a lot. If my partner is giving me oral sex, ... More
I have the same issue. For years I almost only could come while using a pillow--I had to have something to thrust down on and against. When I started having sex, I noticed I could "finish" only that way. So every time we do it, I get into a cowgirl position for my turn.

I have come once or twice a few years ago while on my back and receiving oral favors. I had to be somewhat in control and moving my raised hips. I think he kept his tongue still while I did the work. I have been able to get close to coming that way since.

I had the same problem with a lot of toys--most of mine really were not designed to be under your body. I've had a sore clit for a long time due to such toys. I think that there are now more designed for such usage, but I don't have any as I don't often masturbate anymore. I am still interested in what others have to suggest, though. That Liberator suggested by oohlookasquirrel looks nice!
08/16/2010
pixxie87 pixxie87
i can only masturbate on my back. but im very happy for u that u found what makes u feel good and makes u climax. and if this gets annoying for ur partner then thats too bad for him. men need to understand that its harder for women to cum. thats my 2 cents
04/13/2012
cryinglightning86 cryinglightning86
I masturbate on my back and my stomach, but I used to only be able to masturbate on my stomach. I'm sorry that this seems like a problem to you, but an orgasm is an orgasm, no? At least you know what you like and can get there.
06/26/2012
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