I didn't have an orgasm until I was 17 or 18. It's not like I wasn't trying; I've just never been able to orgasm from my hands or any of the other methods I tried before I was old enough to purchase a real vibrator. I remember looking at vibrators online and thinking, "Why can't I buy one? I'm X years old, and I can't orgasm!"
At one point I was concerned that I might simply be incapable of having orgasms. I figured I probably wasn't "broken", but I was still a little worried. My experience is part of why I think people under 18 should be able to buy sex toys. There are no age restrictions for buying condoms in the US, so why can't I buy something that I'm going to use alone? There's absolutely no risk of pregnancy or STDs from masturbation.
had my first orgasm using a detachable shower head. It was such a relief! My body was actually capable of orgasms! I wasn't broken! It also, ya know, felt incredible. I felt so liberated and sexually powerful. I finally felt like I was in charge of my sexuality.