Delaying?

Not sure that I could hold off for a whole month, but if it’s worth then hey! But, I will certainly try the occasional teasing beforehand and see how that goes. Also, the getting close then backing off method is something I usually try to follow, but I am one that has a harder time controlling my orgasms when put in that situation. Though, I understand there are techniques and such to improve my ability to control them. I do plan to get around to that…

I'd say absolutely! we both love to get really close then back off and drag it out as long as we can. I can definitely tell difference in the strength of my orgasms from when we do that and when i come the first chance i get.

And when she's away I love to masturbate nearly to climax but stop and go back to my normal routine. It really builds up a crazy amount of tension that makes being together that much better. But she thinks i'm crazy for doing that! XD

I really believe anticipation is a great aphrodisiac. I travel a lot and when I come home the sex is always hot and satisfying.

Even in a shorter time frame - the heat of the moment - I love to have my wife bring me to the brink several times before the grand finale.

But because for my wife it's more about multiple orgasms than one big surge. For her, delay is not the right tool in the heat of the action. She loves the build up over a week while I'm on the road or a romantic dinner with her sexy lingerie reminding her of what's to come. When we finally get into the action it's not how to prolong the anticipation - it's about how to prolong or repeat the orgasmic experience.

It's definitely better when it's delayed

It makes a huge difference! The more you can delay it the bigger and more amazing the orgasm will be! We are always doing this bc it feels so amazing!

I love delaying orgasm since it ends up being more intense and the anticipation is a huge turn on. Only thing is that sometimes I'll get so close to orgasm that it ends up dulling the feel when I finally do get my release. So it's a very fine line and I've had to get more in tune so that I know when I'm too far into it that I need to just submit to the orgasm rather then trying to hold it off, otherwise it just spoils the whole effort.

As a guy - delay is crucial. After all when you get just one - you want to make the best of it!.

For my wife delay is helpful for a big orgasm - but since she enjoys multiple orgasms it seems less important to her.

I have my best orgasms this way. It seems to happen naturally during sex, but I can come in under two minutes with my fingers or a vibrator, which usually gives me a pretty lackluster orgasm.

A nice trick for women is to alternate between clitoral and vaginal/g-spot stimulation. Keep stimulating one until you feel like you can barely hold back, then switch. Do this about five times and see how strong your orgasm can get!

I guess I rarely hold back as the majority of time I have multiple orgasms and each seems to be stronger. But I do try to involve both my clit and g spot for optimal pleasure.....alone or with a partner. My b/f works on delay both alone and with me.

It's nice when I get real cranked up . . . in a long session, you can reach the point where the "point of no return" doesn't come up easily so we can play without me ejaculating. I love the feeling of a long session without ejaculating because I carry that intense energy for the hours/day ahead of me!

The tough part was finding out that Kitty questions whether I really enjoyed myself if I don't spurt. The truth is that I often prefer it so I can feel that sexual energy in me throughout the day. In the meantime I'm working to make her less goal oriented when it comes to me!

(I am male) Not sure if the original question meant delay during session, or between sessions. I think it all depends upon how excited you are. If you are really in the mood it may make for a deeper orgasm to go sub-orgasm then finally give in. If you are barely turned on or tired, then to me it doesn't really matter. Also if I train myself I can last longer than my wife, who doesn't have the stamina (or time) to last long, esp after she orgasms with oral stim.

For me when my wife teases and pleases just to the brink of white hot fireworks and then backs off then ramps back up just to tease me again a few more times. When she finally does let me explode it is a very hard and more pleasurable orgasm for me.

During penetrative intercourse I don't want to delay my orgasm, it is very intense as is and takes time to acheive so once it comes I grasp hard onto it and let it take over.

During masturbation I delay especially while watching porn. I like to synchronize my orgasms with the scene I am watching so that I orgasm at the same time as a girl squirts or at the same time a girl "orgasms". The orgasms I get during solo are not as powerful as the ones I get during intercourse so delaying helps to amp them up a bit.

For my partner I only delay his orgasms very rarely. I have done it a few times but it is such torture to him that I avoid delaying his orgasm more than once. I ususally only do this during oral sex. It does make his orgasm more pleasurable.