Do you have a better orgasm by yourself or with your lover?

Stnjbe1021 Stnjbe1021
I wonder if I'm the only one who has a better orgasm when I pleasure myself...or if maybe I'm just not giving my lover the chance to make me orgasm like I can...hmmm
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Better by myself
97  (36%)
Better by lover
162  (60%)
No difference
13  (5%)
Total votes: 272
Poll is closed
11/21/2010
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ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
The best orgasms come when I am with the wife, hands down.
11/21/2010
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
My husband gives me whole body orgasms and that is something I certainly cannot do by myself.
11/21/2010
Tuesday Tuesday
I remember in a psychology class the professor telling us that research shows that women can give themselves more/better orgasms than when they're with men but that they prefer partner sex to masturbation.

Actually the professor said women prefer to be with men. I reworded to be more inclusive.
11/21/2010
Midway through Midway through
I give myself better alone, but I use amazing toys.
11/21/2010
mandybeth mandybeth
they are better by myself.
11/21/2010
Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
Sometimes?
11/21/2010
Waterfall Waterfall
They are usually better by myself but the ones I have with my partner are different... if that makes sense lol
11/21/2010
Alicia Alicia
They're definitely better with my husband. I think it has a lot to do with his technique, he's a lot less lazy with the thrusting than I am, and he's unrelentless which pushes me past the point of a good orgasm into the "You could cut off my arm right now and I wouldn't even care" point. Another thing that makes them better with him is the build up, the anticipation and the teasing.
11/21/2010
Kimbertrees Kimbertrees
The best are always when I'm with someone else... or at least have been so far.
11/22/2010
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
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Originally posted by Alicia
They're definitely better with my husband. I think it has a lot to do with his technique, he's a lot less lazy with the thrusting than I am, and he's unrelentless which pushes me past the point of a good orgasm into the "You could ... More
My sentiments exactly!
11/22/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Redboxbaby
My sentiments exactly!
My wife has told me this many times before - she tends to be a little lazy - a clit orgasm is so easy to have. But if she wants a full body - earth shaking - toe curling orgasm - I get the call!
11/22/2010
mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
my better orgasms are deffenetly casued my hubbie. my toys can never replace the pleasure he gives me .
11/22/2010
Liz2 Liz2
Quote:
Originally posted by Waterfall
They are usually better by myself but the ones I have with my partner are different... if that makes sense lol
My experience as well. Alone I can take the time but I would never trade overall for sex with a guy!
11/22/2010
mjonah mjonah
I love by myself but my partner is fantastic... Besides anything I can do by myself she want to do with me in bed too ;-)
11/22/2010
Stnjbe1021 Stnjbe1021
Quote:
Originally posted by mjonah
I love by myself but my partner is fantastic... Besides anything I can do by myself she want to do with me in bed too ;-)
I could def agree to that.
11/22/2010
Yucca Yucca
Definitely better (and are actually guaranteed!) with myself. Who knows my body better than me? And I have had lots of practice ...

Although I agree with that psychology stat - I would rather have sex with a partner than orgasm alone.

Sex with a partner AND orgasm - brilliant (if elusive).
11/22/2010
Stnjbe1021 Stnjbe1021
Quote:
Originally posted by Yucca
Definitely better (and are actually guaranteed!) with myself. Who knows my body better than me? And I have had lots of practice ...

Although I agree with that psychology stat - I would rather have sex with a partner than orgasm alone. ... More
Couldn't agree more!
11/24/2010
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Theyre just a little bit better when they're self-induced. Sometimes when I'm with someone else I get anxiety that throws my orgasm off
11/25/2010
lamira lamira
I have better orgasms with my partner.
11/26/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
I cannot give myself the amazing orgasms my man gives me when we make love. I wish, everytime would be amazing on my own. I get pretty good orgasms alone, but I have never been able to give myself an orgasm where I have gone in convulsions like my man gives me.
11/27/2010
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Totally with my husband!
12/08/2010
pinkzombie pinkzombie
Quote:
Originally posted by Stnjbe1021
I wonder if I'm the only one who has a better orgasm when I pleasure myself...or if maybe I'm just not giving my lover the chance to make me orgasm like I can...hmmm
My hubbys oral is the BEST!!
12/09/2010
leatherlover leatherlover
Definitely with the wife. The best one's are probably oral.
12/09/2010
Persephone's Addiction Persephone's Addiction
I have crappy orgasms by myself - and it's not for lack of trying! The orgasms are weak and fleeting and usually don't do a damn thing to help with my sexual frustrations.
I need penetration - with hips behind it.
Even oral sex doesn't cut it. I CAN have an orgasm that way, but they're never awesome.
12/09/2010
KnK KnK
I'm voting based upon my last partner, since I'm currently unattached. He was an extremely attentive lover and play time would last for 2 hours on average. I can't go that long by myself.

I think I missed him mostly because I had the best romps with him
12/11/2010
Epicurean Epicurean
I think they're just different types of orgasms. But in general, I'd say I like the ones I give myself better. I also have no trouble whatsoever giving myself multiple orgasms, but I find it near-impossible to do so with a partner.
12/19/2010
Taylor Taylor
they are better by myself. I hope that will change someday though
12/19/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Epicurean
I think they're just different types of orgasms. But in general, I'd say I like the ones I give myself better. I also have no trouble whatsoever giving myself multiple orgasms, but I find it near-impossible to do so with a partner.
Don't loose hope - there are few if any guys at your age that have a clue about how to make you feel great. But if you choose wisely, your luck should change. Someone who is curious and who doesn't think they know it all, are in a better position to learn what it takes.

Some people wonder why women are attracted to older men - aside from being more financially stable - I'd say this plays a big part.

Lets say you have sex with a virile young stud - looks great but for him it's all about 'get'n it done'. You end up ravished but unsatisfied. Then the next weekend you go out with a guy 5-10 years older who knows how to take his time, bring you to full arousal - then knocks you over with a couple of body quaking orgasms.

The third week you have an offer from each for a follow up date. Do you go for the younger eye candy - or the guaranteed satisfaction?

You choose?!
12/19/2010
Shumway Shumway
Always better with my wife
12/19/2010
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