Has anyone unlocked the secret to letting yourself squirt?

Shesasexybrat Shesasexybrat
I have been reading and reading and I cant find a way to relax enough to allow my body to squirt. I have felt the "pee" sensation but have never actually achieved squirting. HALP
04/27/2010
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LuLu Love LuLu Love
I've tried too and I could only get that sensation. I'd really like to some day so let me know if you figure it out! Lol
04/27/2010
J's Alley J's Alley
Everyone keeps telling me to just relax (because you know, that is soooo simple when you're all wound up like that). I haven't been able to do it, but I am freaking determined.
04/27/2010
Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
Stop thinking about it. Just do what feels good and enjoy the sensations and orgasms you do have. If you squirt, you squirt. If you don't, you don't. It's not the be all and end all of orgasms, especially if not doing it is causing stress.

Just get off.

Once you stop worrying about it, you may just squirt.

For a lot of women, it never happens. A lot of women suddenly find they can do it in their 30s when they couldn't before. Some women do it from the get go.

It's nothing to stress over or even necessarily work so hard on.

Personally, I enjoy a g-spot orgasm a lot better without the mess and it feels pretty much the same, whether fluid comes out or not. Well, other than the mass of fluid thing, but that's not always the most pleasant sensation when you really break it down beyond the coolness factor.
04/27/2010
Shesasexybrat Shesasexybrat
I achieved this once a while back when I was drunk and remember that it was amazing. But I have not been able to achieve it since.

I have a friend that almost does every time she masturbates (she keeps a towel nearby for the mess,) and said that those times she gets off is way better than when she doesn't squirt. Maybe it's different for each woman.

Just wish I could have one while sober so I could actually compare. Just got the Triple Action Seahorse Vibrator. Here's to hoping it can help me.
04/28/2010
Red Vinyl Kitty Red Vinyl Kitty
I don't focus on it either. I don't normally squirt when I'm playing alone, but when Master plays with me, I can sometimes squirt 2 to 3 feet. It takes a LOT of g-spot stimulation though, and I honestly don't even notice I'm doing it. It's not a "steady stream" or anything for me, it's more small "squirts" if that makes sense to you. I don't think it makes my orgasms more intense, but it does turn HIM on to see me doing it.

Good luck! ^^
04/28/2010
Elodie Elodie
I haven't squirted, and if squirting means even more intense G-spot orgasms than I normally have, I don't think I want to. Fainting during sex doesn't sound fun .

I'd say just relax and don't worry about it. Enjoying yourself is the goal, and if you've got that, you're already doing great.
04/28/2010
shepegs shepegs
We're going to start working on it. She just admitted to me recently that she has felt the desire to pee during g-spot sex. After all this time we thought squirting was not existent for her, well guess again. Going to try again soon. Looking forward to report back.
04/28/2010
Sammi Sammi
Still working on it here
04/28/2010
sqweak sqweak
I have to agree with everyone, the best thing you can do is not worry, I had the same problem after figuring out I could squirt and then I wanted it so bad every time I came after that one time I never did; well for a while at least. The more you think about the more it tends not to happen. Some women don't squirt at all and that’s fine too. Another thing I noticed is how you masturbate there are certain spots I reach at the right moment before an orgasm that I KNOW will make me squirt, I think it depends on your sensitivities as well.

Good Luck
04/28/2010
Miss B Haven Miss B Haven
Quote:
Originally posted by Shesasexybrat
I achieved this once a while back when I was drunk and remember that it was amazing. But I have not been able to achieve it since.

I have a friend that almost does every time she masturbates (she keeps a towel nearby for the mess,) and said ... More
I can squirt while sober I can only squirt by clitoral stimulation. This is what works for me and is probably going to sound wierd so bare with me...

First, always use the bathroom and empty your bladder before playing.

Yes, you do need to relax but not as much as you might think. You can't help but get squirmy when you feel like you have to pee.

Then when you feel like you can't hold it any longer, go ahead and 'pee'. One of two things will happen, you may urinate a little (it happens) but that's why you empty your bladder first because it will keep the accidental leak less. Or you will squirt! It comes out clear and usually tastes sweet.

When I want to squirt I usually make myslef comfotable in the bathtub because it makes clean up a cinch! I hope this technique works for you or at least helps to get you started
04/28/2010
Laccaria Laccaria
I second the bathtub tip. For me at least, it wasn't just a question of general relaxation. It was specifically relaxing about "peeing." I mean when was the last time you peed involuntarily? Baring traumatic events or physical damage, it was probably a really long time ago. Not peeing in bed or on the sofa or whatnot is extremely deeply ingrained. You know not to do it even when you are asleep. Letting go of that wasn't easy for me.

The tip that worked for me was more or less that you should make a deal with yourself that if you pee then you pee. It's ok either way. If you squirt, or if you pee, it doesn't matter. It also really helped me to be in the bathtub where I couldn't stress out about fluids ruining anything no matter what happened.
04/29/2010
Liz2 Liz2
In addition to almost all of the above advice; relax,etc. I find hydration is so very important and that doesn't mean not to pee prior to playing. Alcohol does not improve hydration nor does coffee.
If I had to squirt on demand, I probably could not.
04/29/2010
Liz2 Liz2
I also need an clitoral orgasm prior to a g spot orgasm.
04/29/2010
DONOTSHOPHERETHEOWNERISPSYCHO DONOTSHOPHERETHEOWNERISPSYCHO
We worked at it for a few months. It took a lot of practice and communication. My husband would stimulate me manually and I would tell him if he was getting hotter or colder. Eventually we figured it out. I can squirt from both toys and manual stimulation. Usually it's more of a dribble if I do it myself or with a toy and I'm on my back. If my husband does it I am usually on my knees with my butt in the air and he uses his fingers then I will squirt all over the place.

All I can recommend, as lame as it sounds, is to relax and pay attention to all of the sensations you are feeling. If you start getting frustrated with it then take a break for a while. Try different positions, different types of stimulation, drink plenty of water to keep yourself hydrated, pee before sex/masturbation... Enjoy yourself!
04/29/2010
Owl Identified Owl Identified
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
Stop thinking about it. Just do what feels good and enjoy the sensations and orgasms you do have. If you squirt, you squirt. If you don't, you don't. It's not the be all and end all of orgasms, especially if not doing it is causing ... More
I agree with this 100% as a person that squirts. It is fun, the feeling of release is definitely cool, but I can have equally strong if not stronger G-spot orgasms without squirting. I understand the appeal of the visual, but sensation-wise I don't think that there's anything about squirting that necessarily = a better orgasm.

I wouldn't stress yourself out. Experiment with different sensations and pressure/movement on your G-spot, but don't stress yourself out. Besides, the stress definitely isn't going to help matters. Focus on having good G-spot orgasms, or just good orgasms in general, and maybe squirting will come to you, but maybe not. Either way, be grateful for having orgasms! They are good no matter how you get them!
04/29/2010
Elodie Elodie
I have a new answer .

The Tantus Compact + Maximus lube in the shower = squirting for me. However, the orgasms are no bigger or better than any other g-spot orgasm, for me. (The best and biggest are still during sex with my boyfriend.)
05/03/2010
sweet sally sweet sally
I just turned 33 and just found out I could do this recently. Really the only reason I even knew was because my bf (whom I've only been seeing for 5 months) told me. In the middle of sex he all of a sudden says "OMG you just squirted all over the place!" It diffenetly turned him on.
I've done it once since then, but don't really have a clue how I'm doing it. I just chalked it up to his good work.
05/06/2010
Crystal_Rose Crystal_Rose
Quote:
Originally posted by Elodie
I haven't squirted, and if squirting means even more intense G-spot orgasms than I normally have, I don't think I want to. Fainting during sex doesn't sound fun .

I'd say just relax and don't worry about it. Enjoying ... More
LOl! Ah, come on, Elodie... where's your sense of adventure?
05/08/2010
Crystal_Rose Crystal_Rose
Quote:
Originally posted by Elodie
I have a new answer .

The Tantus Compact + Maximus lube in the shower = squirting for me. However, the orgasms are no bigger or better than any other g-spot orgasm, for me. (The best and biggest are still during sex with my boyfriend.) ... More
Oh... never mind. Looks like you found it. Good for you.
05/08/2010
PassionQT PassionQT
Quote:
Originally posted by Miss B Haven
I can squirt while sober I can only squirt by clitoral stimulation. This is what works for me and is probably going to sound wierd so bare with me...

First, always use the bathroom and empty your bladder before playing.

Yes, you do ... More
I never believed in it, until it happened to me. I squirt via clitoral stimulation too.

The last time it happened, I made sure to pee before sex (excellent point Wild-n-Playful!) Besides, it's recommended you do so anyhow (to avoid UTI's.. but that's an other discussion). Anyhow, I was using a bullet on my clitoris while my partner was performing oral and teasing me. When I got the sensation, I just relaxed and it happened. Not gushing, just small squirts. And it doesn't necessarily happen at the moment of orgasm either (usually because all my muscles are contracting as opposed to relaxing), but sometimes it has. I find it easier to do so when nothing is blocking the urethra (since that is the ejaculate's origin), however one time, with a very skilled lover, I did manage to squirt while riding him as he manually stimulated my clitoris.

I don't do it all the time. It just depends on how relaxed I am, how turned on, etc.. Don't fret too much about it. I'm 39 now and have just started to squirt within the last year or so. Perhaps it has something to do with being confident, comfortable, and totally in tune with your body. At least that is what finally brought it about for me. Most of us are probably hesitant to relax at first because we don't turn off our partner or we are uncertain about what exactly is going to come out. You'd be surprised at how most men don't care.
05/23/2010
Dirty Girl X Dirty Girl X
Quote:
Originally posted by PassionQT
I never believed in it, until it happened to me. I squirt via clitoral stimulation too.

The last time it happened, I made sure to pee before sex (excellent point Wild-n-Playful!) Besides, it's recommended you do so anyhow (to avoid ... More
I'm 39 also and squirted for the first time I week ago. I think it does have a lot to do with being comfortable with yourself AND having a partner that you trust and are comfortable with and can push aside all of those usual body image hangups us women tend to have.
06/04/2010
MyDolceVita MyDolceVita
After reading all these comments to the post, I'm glad someone brought it up! I'm 21 years old and have only managed to squirt once. And that was after some advice from a friend who can squirt bucket loads every time she has sex. She told me basically what everyone here has already said. It's going to feel like you have to pee, but once you get past that barrier of thinking "omg what if I pee on him/her?" then you'll either squirt, or you won't. The only time I did squirt, I was drunk. I'm one of the many who can only get off on clitoral stimulation but at the time, I wasn't having my clit stimulated, it was regular sex.

A lot of people also say it may have something to do with age and being more comfortable with yourself, your sexuality and your partner. I honestly have watched videos, read blogs, information online, everything. There's really no ACTUAL way of [just for example] making a step-by-step manual to squirting Although I wish there were.

When I did squirt, it was more of an intense orgasm than regular, so that's probably why I'm so eager to do it again. So to those of you who can - I salute you! lol
06/06/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
As others have recommended, try stimulating yourself in the bath. That way you dont really have to worry whether it is pee or not and just let go. Personally, I have never tried this as I have a really sucky uncomfortable bath tub.

I learned to squirt by myself with a vibe and g-spot toy then learnt how to do it with my partner. I can do it with g-spot or clitoral sitmulation. I think relaxing is the first step then the second really important step is to let it happen, just let go without caring what the outcome is.

Have you tried pushing out with your pc muscles once you felt the peeing sensation? I find that the best time for me to push out is when I get the sensation that I am "full" in my g-spot area. I feel it fill with fluid and it gets excruciatingly full and you just push with your muscles and out it goes!

I learned through patience and practice. Sometimes I still get the blockage that you experience and my man reassures me he doesnt care if I pee on him. It happenned once that I hadnt emptied my bladder and my squirt got mixed with urine and it was mostly urine that came out. I think what is important is that you have a good understanding relationship with the person you are with, bcs it will help you feel comfortable. It helped me after the mostly urine incident, we just laughed it off and cleaned up the mess. My man didnt get grossed out or upset.
06/07/2010
mnc5051 mnc5051
get lost in your body, every feeling, every twitch, looking into your lovers eyes... and dont think about anything outside the sex and your body. and relax i no its hard but its key
11/05/2010
wrock wrock
I can get my wife to do it everytime we have sex. At first however she wouldnt do it. She would get rly wet but never squirt. She would always say she thought she was going to pee. The relax thing is pointless advice your have sex relax rly? Its like the people that say when you first try anal to relax. Ok you relax with something going up your ass.


Now that she let it happen and didnt pee she just rly getts into the sex and squirts pretty easy.

Dont relax just enjoy get into it and lose yourself in the feelings and it will happen. I think the bigger issue isnt relaxing but worry that they will make a mess or something.
12/15/2010
LittleMissBliss LittleMissBliss
Quote:
Originally posted by Laccaria
I second the bathtub tip. For me at least, it wasn't just a question of general relaxation. It was specifically relaxing about "peeing." I mean when was the last time you peed involuntarily? Baring traumatic events or physical ... More
The bathtub seems to be a great idea. Ive still had problems trying to just go when I feel that peeing sensation, but I can't get pass it.
06/30/2011
tombraider tombraider
I think squirting does have to do with anatomy. Some squirt all the time while for others it is hard to do it. I think the reason for it could be difference in women of the actual G-spot location.
I am 28, first time I really squirted a lot when I was 25 and was really drunk. Then I squirted again with 27 when again I was really drunk, drunk to the extend where you don't feel any pain anymore. Both times when I squirted was by manual stimulation by my husband.
Then I got pregnant. With the pregnancy there are a lots of changes in pelvic floor muscles. So during the pregnancy itself I had troubles with my pelvic floor musclutare, however I would squirt everytime I would masturbate, while stimulating my clit, no vaginal insertion at all. And usually I would squirt before coming. First I was just wondering about the mess, but then I realised that I would squirt. I figured that the uterus pushed down on the g-spot and that pressure made me squirt without any effort. After the pregnancy it became much easier for me to have a g-spot orgasm, and squirting itself happens only if I have a buzz (but don't need to be completely drunk anymore). And as many say that women tend to squirt easier when they age, I think it must be related to the fact that when we age our pelvic floor musculature weakens, and maybe that way the g-spot becomes easier to access.
Also interesting that the squirting actually happens before the orgasm, at least with me. And I am really wondering what alcohol has to do with the squirting, does that make relax your mind or your muscles? Wish there would be more info on that online, any feedbacks on my theory are appreciated.
05/12/2012
MissYouBubbles MissYouBubbles
I get this feeling everytime there is g-spot stimulation, but I guess I am just too afraid of actually letting it go and that I am going to pee everywhere.

I had the feeling so intense one time I swore I had to pee, so I told my hubby to "hold that thought" and I ran in to pee, well I was so mad because I didn't have to pee! Odds are had I have stuck that out I would have squirted.

I'd like to do it just once for my hubby but I tell him all the time I don't know what is going to come out. His answer..... it is what it is! LOL so I bet most men don't actually care what does come out.

But I have to try much harder at making this happen and just letting go when I get the feeling of having to pee.
05/12/2012
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