I am 32 (almost 33) and have never had sex. I grew up in a Chrisitan home and I made the decision to save myself for marriage. Then I chased career instead of finding a husband and having a family. So now I'm in my 30's and am starting to feel as I missed out along the way. As a result last fall I bought my first vibrator because I wanted to know what it felt like to have an orgasm, but I didn't want to have sex. The orgasm was amazing. I was quite literally "spent" afterwards. I just had this surreal sense of peace and tranquility. Since then I've never had such an intense orgasm again. Then a month ago I had a neurostimulator implanted in my back because of pain from ruptured discs. Since that surgery I haven't been able to have any orgasms. I waited until last week to even try so I didn't delay my recovery. But I just can't get off. So I'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions for getting back to that wonderful state of bliss I first experianced.
Haven't been able to orgasm since a back surgery
dk3315
05/06/2010
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It's difficult to pinpoint what could be the problem. If your inability to reach an orgasm is not related to the stress of the recovery and about not hurting yourself, then you should consult your physician.
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dk3315
I am 32 (almost 33) and have never had sex. I grew up in a Chrisitan home and I made the decision to save myself for marriage. Then I chased career instead of finding a husband and having a family. So now I'm in my 30's and am starting to
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I am 32 (almost 33) and have never had sex. I grew up in a Chrisitan home and I made the decision to save myself for marriage. Then I chased career instead of finding a husband and having a family. So now I'm in my 30's and am starting to feel as I missed out along the way. As a result last fall I bought my first vibrator because I wanted to know what it felt like to have an orgasm, but I didn't want to have sex. The orgasm was amazing. I was quite literally "spent" afterwards. I just had this surreal sense of peace and tranquility. Since then I've never had such an intense orgasm again. Then a month ago I had a neurostimulator implanted in my back because of pain from ruptured discs. Since that surgery I haven't been able to have any orgasms. I waited until last week to even try so I didn't delay my recovery. But I just can't get off. So I'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions for getting back to that wonderful state of bliss I first experianced.
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I am no health professional, but are you taking any medication for the pain that could affect your ability to reach an orgasm? If not, then you should definitely consult to verify if the implanted neurostimulator is not the source of your problem. It's quite rare, but the lack of orgasm may be a side-effect. So, you should consult and have some tests.
Don't be shy to ask your doctor about this. It's perfectly normal for patients to care about having a normal sexual life, even solo.
Good luck
05/06/2010
I agree about asking your doctor! Additionally, the internet really is a great place to look. I would search for a forum/discussion board for people that have had similar back problems/surgeries and ask this question there, as well. It's possible that some people with similar experiences might be able to help you.
05/06/2010
dk3315
Thanks. I kind of wonder if it's my mental block that I may hurt myself. I turned the stimulator off last night and had a mild orgasm. Thank you for the advice.
05/07/2010
You could also try some different vibrators. Mix it up a little. It may be that the problem isn't you, sweetie, so much as a really sucky vibe. You need to do some research and experiment with different types of vibrators. Don't think that one is just as good as another. Trust me, they're not.
I've heard that women who have difficulty achieving orgasm either from a mental block or something physically wrong with them, have had success with some of the stronger ones, like the Hitachi, the Blueberry Bliss, or the Golden Nugget... these are just a few that have really strong vibes and I've tried all of them. They're great. There's others that are also really good and have quite a following. Feel free to message me if you have any questions or want help getting pointed in the right direction.
I've heard that women who have difficulty achieving orgasm either from a mental block or something physically wrong with them, have had success with some of the stronger ones, like the Hitachi, the Blueberry Bliss, or the Golden Nugget... these are just a few that have really strong vibes and I've tried all of them. They're great. There's others that are also really good and have quite a following. Feel free to message me if you have any questions or want help getting pointed in the right direction.
05/08/2010
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