How did you learn to give your significant other the best possible orgasms?

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How did you learn to give your significant other the best possible orgasms?

Bignuf Bignuf
For those who like to do all they can for their partners, what has been your BEST learning tool?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Just experimenting with them?
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Watching Porn and copying styles?
ToyGurl , Gunsmoke , RonLee , Rossie , Kitka , allinonekid , Bethy Cassatt , rom323 , mama2007 , Short Cake , Thomas90 , Trysexual , brevado
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Reading books and literature on the subject?
Redboxbaby , ToyGurl , ToyTimeTim , Gunsmoke , Jimbo Jones , married with children , amandaco2011 , Coralbell , slynch , RonLee , Rossie , Kitka , LAndJ , Checkmate , allinonekid , Chirple , 2BudZ , XYCopperheadSly , dragonn , Missy May , Jewlickah , Waterlily , gsfanatic , humblepie , Trysexual
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Studying online and going to blogs about certain subjects?
Gunsmoke , amandaco2011 , zracer , RonLee , LowFreqFreak , Checkmate , allinonekid , Chirple , JG24FanUK , 2BudZ , dragonn , Missy May , Jewlickah , humblepie , Trysexual
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Other?
Redboxbaby , MJ1337 , DeliciousSurprise , kendra30752 , Gunsmoke , P'Gell , RonLee , ud328 , Kkay , indiglo , Collogue , allinonekid , JG24FanUK , Missy May , RomanticGoth , Arch600 , Waterlily , elli , KRD , Melan!e , KrissyNovacaine , hybridinsurge , Varmint , Sylvie , SaiDiscordia
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Total votes: 176 (105 voters)
Poll is closed
07/02/2011
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MaryExy MaryExy
Online and porn affect the kinky stuff we wanna try. Stuff that really gets him off is all from our imaginations.
07/02/2011
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
We watch a lot of porn, read books, study up on things we are interested in, we discuss what we want and what feels good with each other and we experiment a lot. We are pretty kinky-minded already. I pay attention to the way his body responds and tells me what feels good. I love to watch his body react to what I do. His inner thighs will twitch, toes will curl, his lowers abdomen will tense and relax, his cock will throb, his eyes roll back in his head, and he moans and groans occasionally.

Usually we get off on the other being turned on.
07/02/2011
MJ1337 MJ1337
I like to watch them get themselves off too.. it gives a good understanding of what they like (especially on their own). Then work from there
07/02/2011
Waterfall Waterfall
By trying out different things and getting to know what they like. Also I have had partners tell me what they like and the I know what to do or I try something and then they told me they liked what I did.
07/02/2011
Ibegoodone Ibegoodone
Besides experience with other partners.....watching, listening, and asking questions will get you there quickly. Definitely have to pay attention and don't forget the foreplay.
07/02/2011
kendra30752 kendra30752
Actually none. I asked him what he liked and paid attention to how he responded. We're close enough to say "I don't like it like that, but I do like this---" No problem. Getting tips from cosmo would only ruin what we have... I tried it once! Anyways, just simply asking and paying attention to how they respond seems to suffice. We also talk all the time about things we love to do to each other. It's a never ending conversation, we're always talking about it. lol I've never tried anything that he just hated though so I'm sure it was a bit more difficult for him to learn my preferences.
07/02/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
All of the above - I've always been more or less obsessed with sex. Early on I ravenously read ever letter in Penthouse mag, every article on sex in Cosmo - everything I could get my hands on - even my mother's how to books.

Later on porn added to my knowledge base - then 1st hand experience with partners allowed me to sort between the myths and realities.

However - by far - paying attention to how my partner responds to my touch has been the most useful - largely because it varies over time - and even from day-to-day.
07/02/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
For those who like to do all they can for their partners, what has been your BEST learning tool?
Experimenting of course. Also, asking him what he would like, as he did for me is really really helpful.

Seeing and feeling how he responded to things is also helpful.

Porn may be helpful in certain situations. There are a few things that always make him hard as a rock in porn, and when we started watching it together, I realized, "He really likes this. I need to work on that."
07/02/2011
married with children married with children
read books, ask them what they like and what works best for them.
07/03/2011
amandaco2011 amandaco2011
We talk a lot, you can learn a lot when distance is a factor.
07/03/2011
Coralbell Coralbell
Mainly experimenting, but I've learned a couple of things from books.
07/03/2011
RonLee RonLee
Pretty much what everyone above me has said. It probably helps that I'm very open minded and, like we used to say back in college "have a great sense of adventure". Meaning we'd try anything at least once. Plus practice, practice, practice.
07/03/2011
robertk2380 robertk2380
My wife and I met when we were both in our teens and well before the Internet was even in it's infancy. We learned together as both of us were very inexperienced. I recall buying The Joy of Sex and trying things we read about. It was a special time. We do a lot of talking and give feedback, so both of us has learned what drives the other to orgasmic bliss. Today I may read something that sounds hot and we'll try it. Both pretty open minded.
07/03/2011
ud328 ud328
Lots of experimenting and even more TALKING. Whenever something seemed to work really well I nonchalantly ask her (after a few minutes) about how it was and if she liked anything in particular about that orgasm. It's worked pretty well so far even though it's never the same twice.
07/07/2011
Miss Voluptuous Miss Voluptuous
Yea paying attention to body signals and being spontaneous. What a wonderful question! This is an ongoing kind of process for sure.
07/07/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
For those who like to do all they can for their partners, what has been your BEST learning tool?
Experimentation.
10/29/2011
Kitka Kitka
Mostly just experimentation, but also like to add in some things I know they like from porn/kink/fetish if I can.
10/29/2011
Kkay Kkay
Talking to him.
10/29/2011
indiglo indiglo
I get my best tips straight from him! He knows what works for him, and he tells me so I can do it. (And vice versa) Experimentation is also fun, but you still have to get that feedback to see what worked and what didn't.
10/29/2011
null null
Experimentation with feedback, also, watching him play with himself.
10/29/2011
TameTemptress TameTemptress
Just experimenting and paying attention to how he responds.
10/30/2011
Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
Experimenting and talking about it.
10/30/2011
-BillD -BillD
I ask him what he wants and what he likes the best. We just experiment all the time
10/30/2011
Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
For those who like to do all they can for their partners, what has been your BEST learning tool?
Practice makes perfect!
11/26/2011
switzerland switzerland
experimenting, practice! talking! all of the above
11/26/2011
Collogue Collogue
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
For those who like to do all they can for their partners, what has been your BEST learning tool?
Feedback from him has always been helpful, though it did take a while for him to open up about some of his more... not secret, but less outspoken fetishes. and sometimes it's purely by accident. For example, one day I was touching him while making him kiss my foot when my toes accidentally slipped inside his mouth, gagging him. It was the most pleasant muffled surprise!
11/29/2011
LAndJ LAndJ
Books and magazines, then practice and finding out what he likes.
11/29/2011
ijako9 ijako9
I usually read about techniques and positions that help
11/29/2011
allinonekid allinonekid
Experimenting and I STILL haven't got it totally figured out yet.
11/30/2011
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Unique posters: 67