How did you learn to give your significant other the best possible orgasms?
We watch a lot of porn, read books, study up on things we are interested in, we discuss what we want and what feels good with each other and we experiment a lot. We are pretty kinky-minded already. I pay attention to the way his body responds and tells me what feels good. I love to watch his body react to what I do. His inner thighs will twitch, toes will curl, his lowers abdomen will tense and relax, his cock will throb, his eyes roll back in his head, and he moans and groans occasionally.
Usually we get off on the other being turned on.
Usually we get off on the other being turned on.
07/02/2011
Actually none. I asked him what he liked and paid attention to how he responded. We're close enough to say "I don't like it like that, but I do like this---" No problem. Getting tips from cosmo would only ruin what we have... I tried it once! Anyways, just simply asking and paying attention to how they respond seems to suffice. We also talk all the time about things we love to do to each other. It's a never ending conversation, we're always talking about it. lol I've never tried anything that he just hated though so I'm sure it was a bit more difficult for him to learn my preferences.
07/02/2011
All of the above - I've always been more or less obsessed with sex. Early on I ravenously read ever letter in Penthouse mag, every article on sex in Cosmo - everything I could get my hands on - even my mother's how to books.
Later on porn added to my knowledge base - then 1st hand experience with partners allowed me to sort between the myths and realities.
However - by far - paying attention to how my partner responds to my touch has been the most useful - largely because it varies over time - and even from day-to-day.
Later on porn added to my knowledge base - then 1st hand experience with partners allowed me to sort between the myths and realities.
However - by far - paying attention to how my partner responds to my touch has been the most useful - largely because it varies over time - and even from day-to-day.
07/02/2011
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Experimenting of course. Also, asking him what he would like, as he did for me is really really helpful.
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Bignuf
For those who like to do all they can for their partners, what has been your BEST learning tool?
Seeing and feeling how he responded to things is also helpful.
Porn may be helpful in certain situations. There are a few things that always make him hard as a rock in porn, and when we started watching it together, I realized, "He really likes this. I need to work on that."
07/02/2011
My wife and I met when we were both in our teens and well before the Internet was even in it's infancy. We learned together as both of us were very inexperienced. I recall buying The Joy of Sex and trying things we read about. It was a special time. We do a lot of talking and give feedback, so both of us has learned what drives the other to orgasmic bliss. Today I may read something that sounds hot and we'll try it. Both pretty open minded.
07/03/2011
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Feedback from him has always been helpful, though it did take a while for him to open up about some of his more... not secret, but less outspoken fetishes. and sometimes it's purely by accident. For example, one day I was touching him while making him kiss my foot when my toes accidentally slipped inside his mouth, gagging him. It was the most pleasant muffled surprise!
Originally posted by
Bignuf
For those who like to do all they can for their partners, what has been your BEST learning tool?
11/29/2011
