Masturbation, Orgasms, and Depression?

Contributor: cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
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Originally posted by SexyLilPixi
I'll probably end up the only person who doesn't. lol.

Though, I must say, I was really distraught over an ex tonight, to the point of feeling kind of down, and it actually did lift my spirits.

Hmm, I may be onto something...
Hmmm. I have never thought of this before. Will be noticing moods next time... I'll get back to you after some research! lol
05/10/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
I've never heard actual people say that it helps relieve stress or depression. I mean it's nice and actual sex can put me in a better mood easily. Masturbation, has never lightened my mood, even with my partners wonderful help.

I don't think it's very likely that sex would rid real depression. Depression is usually something that is deep inside, something that doesn't go away as easily as people think and things like that don't go away without getting deep down to the issue, resolving it and or getting closure to it. I hardly think real depression could be gotten rid of by sex or masturbation. I know many people who have the real struggle with depression and it's not something that just goes away like that. I also hear people say sex and masturbation "cures" or relieves anxiety and that isn't extremely true. I have anxiety and it's never relieved until I get down to what the anxieties are over and actually deal with or confront them and then of course take my anxiety meds and pass out. Lol.

I think sex can relieve some tension and help put you in a better mood, but real depression is probably not totally fixed by orgasm. I think a person may be fooled because they feel happy after sex, but I don't think it can help the real cause of the depression. Sex releases endorphins, blah, blah, blah. That is why people think they're no longer depressed immediately after sex. The problems is left un dealt with, it will always show back up.
05/10/2011
Contributor: AAAToyGirl AAAToyGirl
I put that can still manage when I am depressed, but if I can't remember a time that I was super depressed that I even thought of masturbating. Once for about two months, I was super depressed and my toy box got all covered in dust. It was kind of funny when I started feeling better and then I went looking for my toy box. It was so f-ing dusty it's not even funny, lol. I think every person is different ... except for guys according to this poll. Guys are so cute and funny, most of the time.
05/11/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by SexyLilPixi
I had this conversation with a friend a while back & I'd be real curious to know what the statistics are on this. I'm not depressed currently. It's just for curiosity's sake.

He says that when guys are depressed, they ... more
My depression is clinical and based on low thyroid hormone uptake so when I am depressed I simply can't function and masterbation simply doesn't occur to me. Sigel has the same condition and doesn't masturbate when he's depressed...it can be difficult for him to achieve a steady erection due to the metabolic problems.
If we maintain a suitable exercize routine, eat reasonably and take our vitamins and thyroid replacement we, generally, don't suffer depression...thank heavens!
05/11/2011
Contributor: Daniel & Brittany Daniel & Brittany
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Originally posted by SexyLilPixi
I had this conversation with a friend a while back & I'd be real curious to know what the statistics are on this. I'm not depressed currently. It's just for curiosity's sake.

He says that when guys are depressed, they ... more
it just makes you feel a bit better
05/11/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by K101
I've never heard actual people say that it helps relieve stress or depression. I mean it's nice and actual sex can put me in a better mood easily. Masturbation, has never lightened my mood, even with my partners wonderful help.

I ... more
A lot of people have cycling depression and action can actually have a great impact on the depressive part of the cycle. Both exercise and sexual activity can certainly bring me out of a funk, if I'm cycling that way. It doesn't cure depression, (nothing does) but it certainly can bring me out of the low part of the cycle.

Also, even during a Major Depressive Episode most people have varying degrees of symptoms and many do find that sexual release will ease some of those symptoms.

It may not work for everyone, but it does work for me.

There are too many kinds of depression to say some are "real" and some are not. Cycling depression can often only last a few hours or a few days, only to repeat later. It's real I can guarantee you that, but it's different from a Major Depressive Episode. It doesn't mean that one is "real" and the other isn't though.
05/11/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
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Originally posted by P'Gell
A lot of people have cycling depression and action can actually have a great impact on the depressive part of the cycle. Both exercise and sexual activity can certainly bring me out of a funk, if I'm cycling that way. It doesn't cure ... more
I'm echoing P'Gell---if I'm in a downswing, an orgasm can help tip my trajectory.
05/11/2011
Contributor: Collodion Collodion
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Originally posted by P'Gell
I told my ex husband at one time that if I was bitchy, just to throw me down and fuck the life out of me. It works everytime for me! My husband learned this trick a long time ago.

Orgasms always ease depression for me. Although partnered sex ... more
Yep, I have to say that partnered sex is better than going it solo...but getting off does generally help lift my disposition.
05/11/2011
Contributor: SexyLilPixi SexyLilPixi
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Originally posted by P'Gell
A lot of people have cycling depression and action can actually have a great impact on the depressive part of the cycle. Both exercise and sexual activity can certainly bring me out of a funk, if I'm cycling that way. It doesn't cure ... more
P'Gell, I always love your posts on here. You are one wise sexy goddess!

I've noticed it definitely does help. For me, in that state at least, it's just difficult to mentally get to the point where I want to. The times when I'm depressed = Loss of libido.
05/28/2011
Contributor: moonch1ld moonch1ld
I can do it in whenever; depressed or happy or just when I'm plain bored.
05/28/2011
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
I'm a woman who has dealt with depression on and off for years. I have a low sex drive but I usually masturbate all the time; when I'm depressed, it just turns off. I don't really bother.
05/29/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
I have Epilepsy, and my medications seem to greatly effect not only my sex drive, but my mental state as far as depression. When I'm depressed, there is probably nothing that can pull me from that dark place you get in. This only happens every once in a while for up to a week, but it's a sad place to be.

And believe me, I've tried to get off when I was depressed. My fiance is easily able to masturbate when he is depressed or having a bad day, which is why he tries to coax me into doing it. But I just can't.

I can't even bring myself to get wet. I'm literally like a desert, to the point were I'm probably too dry for a glass toy. Great discussion.
05/29/2011
Contributor: salaciousrex salaciousrex
I try to masturbate sometimes when depressed to release stress and hoping that the orgams will make me happy...
But a majority of the time I can never get off, and sometimes I'm just too depressed or lazy to even try to masturbate. I guess it just depends on the severity
05/29/2011
Contributor: big b big b
masturbation helps
06/09/2011
Contributor: M121212 M121212
I masturbate to feel better sometimes, for sure. Thankfully I don't have all-consuming depression like I used to. Growing up is good like that.
06/09/2011
Contributor: Bunnycups Bunnycups
I never tried to masturbate when depressed. When I'm depressed I feel like an empty shell. I have no desires.
06/09/2011
Contributor: Linga Linga
I GET depressed if it's been too long without an orgasm
06/09/2011
Contributor: soyandapplecrisp soyandapplecrisp
When I'm stressed or unhappy I masturbate, the release of endorphines always helps me feel better.
07/01/2011
Contributor: Errant Venture Errant Venture
I generally like to masturbate any time! But, when I'm depressed, masturbation doesn't generally help.
07/01/2011
Contributor: Jenyana Jenyana
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Originally posted by A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
It's harder for me to masturbate when depressed, but I still deliberately do it, because it enhances my mood.
Ditto!
07/14/2011
Contributor: Endocott Endocott
I usually masturbate when I'm in a "good" mood. I'm rarely depressed to start with, so I'm rarely in the situation to consider masturbation while depressed.
07/14/2011
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I can, unless I'm depressed AND angry. That kills it.
07/14/2011
Contributor: Ladylannae Ladylannae
For some reason, in the middle of masturbate or sex I find myself getting depressed. Idk why, but for some reason I get this unworthy feelin of not being worthy enough to feel good. Idk why
07/14/2011
Contributor: briluminary briluminary
i'm a girl and it honestly varies,
08/01/2011
Contributor: Puss in Boots Puss in Boots
I have had many of my best masturbation experiences while seriously (suicidally) depressed. It's kind of surprising, really. But I have WAYYY less actual sex while depressed.
08/02/2011
Contributor: Nissa Nissa Nissa Nissa
Reading this whole post. I want sex and chocolate. Thanks hehe
08/02/2011
Contributor: null null
I normally can't make myself do it when i'm depressed, even though I know it would make me happy.
08/02/2011
Contributor: N&M N&M
As a guy, never really kept track, but I'd think that I wouldn't be up for it as much when I'm depressed, but that's just a guess.
08/09/2011
Contributor: Starkiller87 Starkiller87
This is kind of weird for me because I have clinical depression for well over 10 years. And it hasn't ever not been there. I know some people have states of depression but mine has always been a nonstop uphill battle, the fact that I get out of bed every day is a big deal. And I masturbate frequently, it helps momentarily to lose yourself in the moment, release endorphins. But I don't think it changes the state of my depression, I'm not inclined to feel better.

On the other hand there are times where I have no sex drive but will still masturbate, which seems really weird. But certain meds will not get me in the mood for anyone else to be part of sexual activities.
08/09/2011
Contributor: Wildchild Wildchild
I cant say it worked or didn't work for me. My wife when she was really depressed she wanted lots of sex and sleep. It was annoying, cusae like she wouldn't be there to talk to, enjoy tv with. And the sex was very kinky, I was a bit uncomfortable with what she wanted but got use to it very easily.
08/09/2011