Never had an orgasm

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Never had an orgasm

Bellastorme Bellastorme
I have NEVER had the big O with just penetration I have to get all warmed up first. Well with 3 small children I do not always have time for four play does anyone have any advice,tips,or tricks?
01/18/2010
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joja joja
Unfortunately, most women need lots of foreplay before penetration - and many still can't come without clitoral stimulation.

If you'd like to try to learn I suggest taking things one step a time, and working towards having a vaginal orgasm during masturbation. It's much easier to consistently hit the right spots when you can feel them yourself.

I find vaginal orgasms come much easier right after I've had a clitoral orgasm, ensuring maximum arousal/readiness for penetration. Experiment with different spots and sensations - some women need g-spot stimulation, while others like myself have cervical or 'cul-de-sac' orgasms (the cul-de-sac is the end of the vagina, to the side of and behind the cervix). No way is the "right" way.

I'm not a parent, so I don't have many tips on avoiding your kids. Perhaps you could masturbate in the shower, or plan a few date nights with your partner with the kids out of the house?
05/24/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Don't think of sex as divided into "foreplay" and "sex." Every kind of sex play IS sex, and what gets you off (oral or manual stim, whatever) IS sex for you. I actually hate the word Foreplay because it gives the impression that PIV sex is the "real thing" and anything before or around PIV is incidental.

I know it's hard with small children. My Man and I found that early morning sex, when we had babies, after the baby had the early morning nursing) or very late night sex or even middle of the night sex, after the kids went to sleep for the night, and the baby had been nursed and settled and was sleeping was best. That way, I didn't feel rushed (who can have an orgasm when they feel like they need to hurry?)

My Man and I simply don't divide sex up into Foreplay, manual, oral, PIV, sleep. We might start with just rubbing against each other, or some manual stim, he might go down on me for a while, we might fuck for a few minutes, then he might go down for a little while longer, we might then use some toys for further stimulation or penetration while he goes down so I can come, I might give him head, while he either does nothing but enjoy and watch or goes down on me while I give him head, (and hopefully I'll come some more while doing this) back to fucking for a while, more toy play, more fucking, maybe a break to get a drink of water, get intense so I can come first, if I haven't yet, then either some oral, anal or PIV, in which I'll have more orgasms, and then maybe he comes. There is no "given" it may be different every time, and certainly no script to our sex play and as a result. Don't limit yourself to "10 minutes of my oral, 10 minutes of his oral, then PIV, he comes and I am frustrated." Nobody ends up happy with this scenario.

I've been having sex for decades and rarely have my first orgasm of the session from PIV sex. The first one is always the most difficult for me, but subsequent ones are very easy, but I need time and relaxation and LOTS of direct clitoral stimulation for that first orgasm. Don't make Orgasm during Intercourse your goal, make both of you having a good time, enjoying your time making love and hopefully both of you having at least one or two orgasms your goal. HOW you have your orgasm is not important, oral, manual, toy, anal, PIV, G Spot, it doesn't make a difference. Don't worry about HOW, just have a good time, enjoy your man, and make sure he understands that many women don't have their first orgasm of the session or any orgasm at all from intercourse, they need direct, intense and prolonged clitoral stimulation. often along with some penetration (which, if he is giving you oral would have to be his hands or a toy, obviously, in a monogamous relationship.) He may not know this. Let him know, in a nice way, and go from there.

Good luck.
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