Squirting : Trying desperately to understand this, please help.

Jesse-in-TX Jesse-in-TX
I have been a life-long fan of the squirting female. I haven't much personal experience with it, aside from 2-3 partners, (not including my current). I have watched it on video whenever I have found footage of it and have read stories and testimonies aplenty on the matter.
I have seen quite a few videos is which the event is described; normally just showing how it is done, explaining the sensation, and depicting many different results...anything from a single huge blast, to multiple huge blasts, to a slow leak that is barely visible.

One thing I have came across the most is that the event is signified by a sensation of having to pee, and that one should abstain from the urge to contain themselves and just let it happen. Further on it is said that it isn't pee, but it is not clear if it is something that happens only when the girl has an orgasm because I have seen girls squirt when they announce they are going to come, they scream, they buckle, they squirt....and also I have seen girls squirt upon some extensive stimulation, but keep a straight face and don't seem to be having an orgasm at the time.

I would also like to know....if it isn't pee, then why does it have the tangy acidic taste to it, and a similar smell?

My fiancee has been trying to squirt for a year or so, as she noticed that it's presence in my option of porn is very frequent. Only the other night it seemed to really finally happen! I have never been so happy either, and it made her smile and glow, and she was so happy that it seemed to happen.

The thing is though, we achieved it through my fingering her. I can't say I was ginger about it, but I wasn't very rough with it either. When it happens, it is more of a leaking than a strong squirting....most of the time it leaks, but at times there are some squirts.
I am wondering. Does it improve from leaking to a larger squirting? Should she hold back on it, hold her breath, push out, squeeze ???
What tips can I have please? She wants to do it better and be able to understand it and we are both very eager to hear from as many people with experience in this event as possible.
01/12/2012
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Jul!a Jul!a
With some women, that's about as close as you get. Some women can shoot it out, some women have gushes of liquid that mostly just leak out, and some women can't do it at all. However, I seem to be in the category that can't do it, at least for now, so my advice might not be very helpful. You could try asking Tuesday, she seems to have a pretty good handle on squirting and all things kegel related.
01/12/2012
js250 js250
Squirting comes in many forms. As Sam said, there are gushes, streams and leaks. I have done all of the above. And multiple, too. The times that I want to really get my husband excited I spray everywhere, I take it through orgasm, and keep going to a second one almost immediately. I have shot across the room and even hit the ceiling fan. Normally, I squirt about 4-5 feet in every direction. The feeling of needing to pee comes from my G-spot stimulation. You can build up to larger levels sometimes, I read everythign I could about it from Pornstar interviews (Cytheria, Flower Tucci and a couple of others), that helped me realize it is a normal occurrence and I wasn't just a freak of nature. Once your girlfriend gets comfortable and stops thinking about it as much, it does become second nature and that also helps raise the liquid level.
01/12/2012
Jesse-in-TX Jesse-in-TX
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Originally posted by js250
Squirting comes in many forms. As Sam said, there are gushes, streams and leaks. I have done all of the above. And multiple, too. The times that I want to really get my husband excited I spray everywhere, I take it through orgasm, and keep going to a ... More
Thank you. that is very good advice and I will pass it on. Any other suggestions? Like technique or anything?
01/13/2012
markwashere markwashere
Is she hydrated enough? Diet also can affect the way she becomes aroused.
01/13/2012
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
I think I will always, always, always wonder about it this. No matter how much I empty my tank ahead of time, it seems that certain types of stimulation result in a clear liquid from the urethra - it seems like urine to me, yet I keep being assured that it's not. Yet supposedly it's not supposed to be clear. I think my body just likes messing with me.

Wish I had some advice of my own to give, but I'm just as lost as you, it seems.
01/13/2012
Jesse-in-TX Jesse-in-TX
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Originally posted by markwashere
Is she hydrated enough? Diet also can affect the way she becomes aroused.
The hydration thing we are still working on. She only drinks Coke when we have it, and tea when I make it...though I have been getting her to drink more water lately.
Are there certain foods you know of that would be helpful?
01/14/2012
Jesse-in-TX Jesse-in-TX
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Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
I think I will always, always, always wonder about it this. No matter how much I empty my tank ahead of time, it seems that certain types of stimulation result in a clear liquid from the urethra - it seems like urine to me, yet I keep being assured ... More
I am not sure if emptying the tank is supposed to be done prior, and as for the clarity or other characteristics...I am not certain on that either.
Just a fem moments ago we had a short romp in the sack, and she seemed to squirt some.
It starts as a leaking/dripping which has a white cloudiness to it, at which point I usually speed up my finger work which brings on squirting which only lasts a few seconds at this point it either is totally clear or has a yellow tinge to it.

Also....and a little concerning....she is asking me to stop sooner, after just a few minutes of g-spot work because she tells me she is getting sore in that area. I am wondering if it ever gets better.
She told me to hold off this morning because she was getting sore, so I took a few moments and started again with gentler strokes a bit deeper and she said it was better, but that is when she really did squirt.
01/14/2012
Eliza Eliza
This is all really helpful, because I am trying to learn too! Keep it coming!
01/27/2012
Jesse-in-TX Jesse-in-TX
It seems to have gotten harder for us since she had squirted a couple times. Last time I tried to get her to she leaked a bit, but didn't really squirt.
Might it have been because she just wanted to fuck, and not to get fingered?
01/28/2012
Rossie Rossie
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Originally posted by Jesse-in-TX
It seems to have gotten harder for us since she had squirted a couple times. Last time I tried to get her to she leaked a bit, but didn't really squirt.
Might it have been because she just wanted to fuck, and not to get fingered?
Is making her squirt that important to you? Why can't you let it happen naturally, if she squirts on one session it's great, if she didn't, maybe she will the next time. I personally have never squirted (I think), and while I'm happy for others who have this capability, it's no biggie to me.
01/28/2012
bsgs bsgs
personally, i love making my wife squirt, it is a major turn-on for me. usually she squirts hard, sometimes she gushes a little bit, and sometimes she cums really hard without squirting or gushing at all. it all depends on so many variables. my whole theory is to not try so hard and just enjoy giving her oral...the more you enjoy it, the more she will
01/28/2012
Jesse-in-TX Jesse-in-TX
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Originally posted by Rossie
Is making her squirt that important to you? Why can't you let it happen naturally, if she squirts on one session it's great, if she didn't, maybe she will the next time. I personally have never squirted (I think), and while I'm ... More
It isn't a frustration I alone feel. My girlfriend was so happy the first time it happened, and was very proud she was able to.
The last few times we went into the technique which yielded positive results the first few times and it did not happen, she was pretty upset.
I have been trying to find advice from others, to see if maybe there was a thing or two that one of us, or both of us are doing or not doing which could help.
01/31/2012
Jesse-in-TX Jesse-in-TX
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Originally posted by bsgs
personally, i love making my wife squirt, it is a major turn-on for me. usually she squirts hard, sometimes she gushes a little bit, and sometimes she cums really hard without squirting or gushing at all. it all depends on so many variables. my ... More
....does it happen with you two via oral? I have not seen it happen that way often, but i had an ex who had squirted a few times through my oral giving, but not fingering/fucking.
But when my current girlfriend orgasms from my going down on her, she doesn't give a hint towards squirting...only when I finger her it seems.....though, she hasn't done it the last few times.
01/31/2012
Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
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Originally posted by Rossie
Is making her squirt that important to you? Why can't you let it happen naturally, if she squirts on one session it's great, if she didn't, maybe she will the next time. I personally have never squirted (I think), and while I'm ... More
Men like the whole squirting thing. Sometimes they feel insecure about it almost. My man trys so hard sometimes to make me squirt and when I don't I can tell that he wonders why I can get myself to do it, but he can't... I feel bad, I think why I don't do it for him as easily is because I feel pressured. . . This is a big issue.

The other night though I squirted for him for the first time.. of course it was a small one and he wanted more, but either way it happend

he actually made me squirt more by giving me oral, there was some fingering but mostly it was oral. He got between my legs and started kissing my clit, then liking a little, I enjoyed it ad started rubbing my vagina in his face... he showed great enjoyment and moaned a little and then it happend... I think I felt less pressured since he showed enjoyment, insted of acting like I was a science expiriment lol, maybe just try not being pushy or something, I don't know how you are doing it now, but try to make it seem like something that isn't a huge deal it will happen when she feels relaxed way easier then it would if she was worried about not satisfying you
01/31/2012
Jesse-in-TX Jesse-in-TX
I would love to be able to get my woman to squirt through mainly oral...it seems to me it would be easier for a squirting woman via oral because there wouldn't be pressure against the required areas involved.
02/01/2012
ijako9 ijako9
I think it depends on the girl and how turned on she gets. You usually have to use a lot of foreplay but you may never get more than just a little liquid to come out
02/01/2012
Jesse-in-TX Jesse-in-TX
good words, I tend to pay less attention to foreplay, but I will make a point from now on.
Normally she is the one rushing out of foreplay tho...I think that is one of the things I liked most about her in the start.
02/01/2012
richsam richsam
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Originally posted by js250
Squirting comes in many forms. As Sam said, there are gushes, streams and leaks. I have done all of the above. And multiple, too. The times that I want to really get my husband excited I spray everywhere, I take it through orgasm, and keep going to a ... More
agree
03/10/2012
Caus Caus
I'll have to keep track of this thread. Very interesting!
03/13/2012
Boobs and Lubes Boobs and Lubes
i haven't had any experience but it sounds messy.
03/13/2012
Beck Beck
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Originally posted by js250
Squirting comes in many forms. As Sam said, there are gushes, streams and leaks. I have done all of the above. And multiple, too. The times that I want to really get my husband excited I spray everywhere, I take it through orgasm, and keep going to a ... More
So glad I am not the only one who can spray like this! I hit myself in the face and all over my hubby the one day and I was freaked out about it. There was a lot and I can do it four times in one sitting. I am very glad to read this. I am not alone!
03/13/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Jesse-in-TX
....does it happen with you two via oral? I have not seen it happen that way often, but i had an ex who had squirted a few times through my oral giving, but not fingering/fucking.
But when my current girlfriend orgasms from my going down on her, ... More
Have you tried oral sex along with fingering or using a toy which hits her G Spot? I don't really squirt myself (the glands which help women squirt were removed when I had surgery years ago) but I dribble some at times. Usually when he hits my G Spot with his fingers or a toy while I'm coming from oral sex and/or a clit massager/vibrator.

And by all means, if the woman wants to fuck, give her what she needs!
03/13/2012
Positwist Positwist
Wait wait wait, you're asking how to change the pressure of the stream? It sounds like your wife IS squirting, but you'd rather see her spray than leak?

If that's the case, she may just be a gusher/leaker and not a sprayer. I gush, but it can get some distance if I'm having a really intense orgasm. As others have recommended, a good g-spot toy coupled with a vibe on her clit can provide way more intense stimulation than your fingers can. Even if doesn't change the way she squirts, I'm sure she'd appreciate it!
03/13/2012
LJJ LJJ
My boyfriend can make me squirt any time he wants through a wonderful combination of oral and anal play. My first orgasm is usually pretty normal, but then he just keeps going down on me and begins teasing my ass with his fingers. My second orgasm is much more intense and I usually begin to gush. My third orgasm begins within a few seconds and by this time he has fully inserted his finger in my ass and is pushing upwards towards my g-spot. This orgasm is very intense and my squirt comes out with a lot more force. My fourth orgasm is usually my last for the session because by that time I am close to being exhausted. It is the most intense orgasm ever, it forces my hips off the bed and I am begging him to stop because I can't take it any more! but then he bites down on my clit fairly hard and pushes his finger as deep into my ass as he can.....and I just explode!! My cum sprays out in two or three spurts and shoots three to four feet. My boyfriend absolutely loves doing this to me.....and I love it that he does!
07/31/2013
naturegirl naturegirl
Ok....all women have the plumbing to ejaculate, all women actually produce the fluid (that's the stuff you see dribbling out), it comes (no pun intended!) from the para-urethral gland also known as the Skeenes gland, which is located below the clitoris and a duct from that gland drains into the urethra. The purpose of the fluid is to mix with semen when it is eventually released into the vagina thus giving the sperm therein a pH friendly environment in which to swim!
The next bit is open to conjecture as various researchers have come up with different scenarios, the one I believe is that some women (I'm one) seem to produce too much of this fluid and the excess "backs up" along the urethra, to be expelled forcefully during the contractions that accompany a climax, this is why some women are able to make fluid spurt out.
One thing, the images of women who can make their "ejaculations&quo t; squirt out in huge arcs of fluid that soaks the wall on the opposite side of the room are NOT ejaculating! They are probably urinating, that or they have a squirter filled with water tucked away out of sight so that the watcher of the movie is tricked into thinking that women "ejaculate" like that all the time. The truth is that a typical ejaculation that spurts out is no more than 10 to 15 mls. Though there is some anecdotal evidence of a few women who can "gush" about an espresso cup full of fluid.
07/31/2013
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