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ok another question,
why would one choose a dildo over a vibrator? this has always puzzled me
Sometimes during oral sex, we often just use dils or turn the vibe off. Sometimes we have the vibes on. I really
like penetration, and he can't very well penetrate me, with his penis AND go down at the same time. Thus, a dildo is a good solution. (And, it's less drama than an other man in the room.
Also, I have a High Orgasmic Threshold, due to peri-menopause. (It means that in the last year or so, it has been difficult for me to have an orgasm. It takes a LOT more stimulation and time than it used to.) We use an external "massager" vibrator for most of my first orgasms of the session, (The Wahl or the Hitachi) but I also NEED penetration to come, (the first time, after that, anything will make it happen) so we either use his hand, or a dildo, or a vibrator with the vibrations turned off. We realized that having the phallic vibe ON, plus the Wahl on my clit was actually too much.
So, when I am trying to come, we turn the phallic vibe off, or use a dil for penetration, as when we are doing this, he's usually holding me, because PIV sex is just not going to work at this moment. (If you saw the position we are in while usually doing this, you'd see why.)
Sometimes, during other activities, even during anal sex, just plain vaginal penetration is wanted with no vibrations. So, either a dildo, or a phallic vibe turned off (basically all phallic vibes are dildos, when they are not powered) works well for this. A lot of women use dildos for double penetration during anal sex.
Also, women who have female partners often desire penetration, as well. Sometimes the will want vibrations, sometimes not. And partners who practice "Pegging" where the women wears a dildo on in a harness to anally or orally penetrate her male partner is something a lot of couples enjoy. Dildos are really versatile toys.