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I'm late getting back to this thread but in case you haven't finished your article yet...
Since I'm already aware of their existence, I'd be most interested in a how-to lesson(s).
I've only made a couple of
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I'm late getting back to this thread but in case you haven't finished your article yet...
Since I'm already aware of their existence, I'd be most interested in a how-to lesson(s).
I've only made a couple of half-hearted attempts but would still like to find out if this is something I can experience. I think my problem has been a combination of impatience - I need to try for an x-orgasm when I'm either very aroused already or after I've orgasmed in one of the "usual" ways - and not using the best tool for the job. The toys I own that have sufficient length are also rather girthy... I'm thinking something with similar length but less girth might be better... Less stretching would likely allow me to concentrate more on the cervix stimulation than anything else.
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Article has been finished. It's just waiting publication. Should be up within tomorrow or the next day! I included info on how to achieve the X-orgasm, so I truly hope it is helpful. If not, you can always message me and I'll try to explain how I am able to get there. I know it'd be somewhat different for each person, but I think the information I provided in the article would be really helpful still. I'm the same though, I usually need to be very aroused or already have orgasmed in order to get there. Sometimes though, it just plum hurts! For me, it seems it's different depending on the day of the month. If it's during my menstrual cycle, it's really painful to bump my cervix. I also have endometriosis. Don't know if that contributes to the pain during my menstrual or not, but I suppose the cervix is already tender during those days anyways.
Now the days leading up to my cycle seem to be the
best! I always have good luck with cervical orgasms if it's during the week leading up to my cycle. Afterwards is a good time for me too. Not sure, but maybe trying to achieve it on one of those days would bring better results for you too?
I so hope you do end up having one! Let's see, for me personally, I orgasm from cervical stimulation both before I've already orgasm'd in other ways (like clitoral) and after as well. For instance, my partner and I usually start off with foreplay (oral) and then we have sex, and during the sex is when I am most likely to get there. However, it happens when he thrusts a toy really fast too. Tonight we tried that with Vitality and it just isn't long enough, but when we switched to a glass toy (it's one from the Icicles line either 16 or 17, It's straight and has purple nubs, but no real curves, so it really hits my cervix) and it worked like a dream.
Also, we discovered the wonders of using what I call my "chair pillow". It's just a pillow used to prop up and has little arm rests that I found at wal-mart. I used it underneath my bottom half and he stood up, missionary style with my legs on his shoulders -- and this was fantastic for reaching my cervix. However, he has a curved peter, so it often hits my g-spot instead! LOL. No complaints though.
So the missionary position with my legs on his shoulders is one of the best ways for me to achieve a cervical orgasm. And also a really strange position, but it works really well -- me standing, but semi-bent over like leaning on the bed or a stool and him behind. That works really well for having cervical orgasm during sex.
With a toy though, I love sort of standing on my knees on the bed with him thrusting straight upward. Hits my cervix like nothing else. I can't thrust so quickly, so that's why he's the thruster. Lol. I don't do very well when I try alone.
But I've been trying with different toys and tried with my new Pure Wand, which is taking some getting used to and I doubt it's going to be the best for the X-orgasm, but straighter dildos are. Actually, I don't know if this is helpful or not, but the very first time I had an "X-orgasm" with a toy, we were using this one called Tender Touch Spiral by Doc Johnson, and if I'm correct, EF carries it. This was a few years ago, but that toy never fails me! I don't know what it is about that one that does so well for me in that department. I'm thinking it's the soft silicone, but the wide-ish tip. Rather than being a pointy tip, it's sort of wide and that could be why it does so well for cervical stimulation. I don't always get the most out of a pointy-tipped toy.
Yep -- lengthy and girthy could do the trick. Lengthy is kind of important, to me anyways, so that it reaches. I don't really use super girthy ones, so you are probably right -- more length, less girth. I like a little bit of girth though because if the toy is super skinny, it doesn't seem to work as well for me. The Tender Touch Spiral is sort of wide, like I said and it gets wider near the base. So perhaps a small-medium size is a good idea. Oh, and I also have good luck with this pink glass dildo. Bought it here several months back. It's the Pink Passion Wand, a double-ended wand with the sort of stacked ball design going on on one end and a slim-ish shaft with nubs and ball at the other end. The end with the medium-sized ball works really well for me. The Pink Passion Wand is 8 inches long since it's double ended, but both ends are really pleasurable for me. I think EF discontinued it, but there are others similarly shaped. Let's see if I can find a picture of that wand and one that's similar...
Couldn't find the Passion Wand on EF, but here's a photo of mine (it's the pink one...
The dark blue-black one in that photo didn't please me at all for some reason, but it is bally and somwhat straight. And the other is the Rotator, which is short so it doesn't reach my cervix, but is good for other things like g-spot stimulation.
The Sasha Grey Swell Wand seems like it'd be a really great toy for cervical stimulation, especially if you don't want texture. Sasha Wand is below:
Maybe Icicles No.8 but I haven't used it.
Here's one that's
sort of like the Passion Wand, but I don't know about it. I think the straight dildos -- with or without texture, texture doesn't seem to make a diff. for me except when it begins to get uncomfortable around the outside -- but the ones with a ball at the end are marvelous for cervical stimulation, in my opinion. I wish there were actual studies on this dang thing! Lol. It's like the G-spot used to be, there really wasn't much info on it for so many years. Maybe all this talk will begin to spark enough interest for more and more people to try to achieve it though.
Anyways, I would definitely focus on what day it is when you try. I think it would make a difference if you're really tender there on certain days like during intercourse if sometimes it's painful to bump your cervix. Avoid those days and take note of the ones that you can enjoy deep penetration. That is how I learned when to go for it.
Guess I'll shut up now. Lol. If you want to private message me or something I'd be happy to talk more.
I hope the article is helpful. If you're trying this alone, it might be a bit tougher. I know I have a harder time alone, but it's definitely possible.
