Do you find it difficult to climax during oral?

SMichelle SMichelle
My boyfriend was telling me that he finds it nearly impossible to climax during oral. Oral is a regular part of our sex life, but we typically include it in foreplay, so him not climaxing during oral has never been much of an issue. Still, there is a part of me that feels a bit sad that he has difficulty climaxing. He says that it makes him feel like he is not normal.
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Occasionally.
22  (31%)
Yes; it's normal.
27  (39%)
Never.
15  (21%)
Other
6  (9%)
Total votes: 70
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spiced spiced
I've had this issue at the beginning of all but one of my serious relationships. I think it comes from tension, and maybe insecurity about the new partner and how they perceive me. But after that initial period of awkwardness, which for me usually lasted a few days to a couple of weeks, I've always learned to relax and enjoy oral, and to climax (fairly) quickly from it.
05/04/2013
bog bog
Quote:
Originally posted by SMichelle
My boyfriend was telling me that he finds it nearly impossible to climax during oral. Oral is a regular part of our sex life, but we typically include it in foreplay, so him not climaxing during oral has never been much of an issue. Still, there is a ... More
I can't get off to oral most of the time. When I do, though, it's fantastic.
05/04/2013
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
It's been age related for me. I found it too easy to orgasm from oral as a young man. Then by my 40s I could control myself pretty well. Now as I near 60 - it just isn't happening.
05/04/2013
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
Most of the time I can make him cum during oral, but there have been a few times I haven't...
05/04/2013
ShadowedSeductress ShadowedSeductress
I can make my partner orgasm with oral but it takes a little while. I can't orgasm from oral at all as a female.
05/04/2013
XYCopperheadSly XYCopperheadSly
I've had four partners that I couldn't finish orally....two of those were very early in my sexual life, and the other two said I give the best head they've gotten but they just can't get off from oral...so I guess it's not uncommon for guys to not be able to come from oral.
05/04/2013
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
It depends on the last time he's climaxed but if it's been recently, then that may be normal.
05/04/2013
married with children married with children
I dont have a problem finishing when she is preforming oral. I dont do it very often. I would rather finish inside her vagina.
05/04/2013
SMichelle SMichelle
Quote:
Originally posted by Hallmar82
It depends on the last time he's climaxed but if it's been recently, then that may be normal.
Hmm.. interesting point, Hallmar82. It is very rare for him to ever go more than a day without climaxing. I'll mention this to him... Perhaps if he goes a few days without, it'll be easier for him to climax during oral.
05/04/2013
tami tami
Quote:
Originally posted by SMichelle
My boyfriend was telling me that he finds it nearly impossible to climax during oral. Oral is a regular part of our sex life, but we typically include it in foreplay, so him not climaxing during oral has never been much of an issue. Still, there is a ... More
my husband usually does not climax either so he is not alone
05/04/2013
Trysexual Trysexual
Never a problem unless someone is really clueless.
05/04/2013
hmb12 hmb12
My boyfriend never has trouble during oral, but I'm a female and can't orgasm during oral
05/04/2013
FieryRed FieryRed
There was a time when oral sex was nice, but a little weird, and I didn't really know what turned me on. Then, I learned how to fantasize, and what to fantasize about! I also learned what kind of tongue action I like! Now, it's rare that I DON'T orgasm when being licked. I'm very sensitive, so I need soft, gentle clitoral strokes--this is part of why it took a fairly long time for me to learn how to orgasm that way, but also part of why oral sex is so fantastic for me now.

My partner, on the other hand, has never orgasmed from oral sex alone. This was really strange to me at first, because I dated quite a few women before meeting her, and had always gotten excellent results in using my tongue on them! But my partner needs strong, hard stimulation, exactly the opposite of what I like, and my tongue can only keep up for so long! Haha. My fingers work much better on her when it comes to orgasms.
05/04/2013
Love Bites Love Bites
Quote:
Originally posted by SMichelle
My boyfriend was telling me that he finds it nearly impossible to climax during oral. Oral is a regular part of our sex life, but we typically include it in foreplay, so him not climaxing during oral has never been much of an issue. Still, there is a ... More
I've only ever orgasm-ed through oral once or twice, each time with additional stimulation to my bum. I've never gotten off from just oral by itself. It also takes a lot to get my guy off during oral, but he says it helps when I'm not focused on trying to make it happen and just enjoy myself (because I really love giving him head).
05/04/2013
surreptitious surreptitious
Quote:
Originally posted by SMichelle
My boyfriend was telling me that he finds it nearly impossible to climax during oral. Oral is a regular part of our sex life, but we typically include it in foreplay, so him not climaxing during oral has never been much of an issue. Still, there is a ... More
I've never climaxed during oral personally, but my current partner is the first person that I've had trouble bringing all the way with just my mouth and hands. If we haven't had sex in over a day, it's a distinct possibility, but when we're having sex a couple of times a day (which is the usual), chances are it's not going to happen. He dry orgasms fairly often and always tells me that it feels amazing, but rarely ejaculates.
05/04/2013
Feisty Feisty
He usually gets off during oral, but I usually don't.
05/04/2013
bayosgirl bayosgirl
Neither my husband nor I can cum from oral. I need firm clitoral stimulation.
05/04/2013
Cosmonaut Cosmonaut
Occasionally. Depends on what his mood is for that day. I can most of the time.
05/05/2013
bratcat bratcat
My partner will get off almost every time while receiving oral, and it is a regular part of our sex life. For me though, it tends to be harder for me to climax, let alone get off, and my partner usually is tired or hurts before i am able to. i do still really enjoy being on the receiving end and will never complain as its still feels awesome.
05/05/2013
Sbmsvschoolgirl Sbmsvschoolgirl
Oral gives me the most powerful orgasms. I don't have trouble, but it does take me a while.
05/05/2013
solitudinarian solitudinarian
I've never been able to reach orgasm from oral sex alone. It happens.
05/06/2013
SexyPenis SexyPenis
I have never orgasmed just from oral sex. Early girlfriends were not very into it and I get super self-conscious. My wife and I are both very self-conscious about receiving oral sex, even though both of us like to give oral sex.
05/10/2013
FieryRed FieryRed
Quote:
Originally posted by surreptitious
I've never climaxed during oral personally, but my current partner is the first person that I've had trouble bringing all the way with just my mouth and hands. If we haven't had sex in over a day, it's a distinct possibility, but when ... More
So, gosh, it takes him a whole DAY of anticipation and build-up just to have the possibility of an orgasm during oral/manual stimulation. I feel so BAD for you two!

So, this norm for you two of a couple times a day...does that match up with both your libidos?
05/10/2013
Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
My partner can climax from oral but it takes a while and he prefers to climax from intercourse. I'm the same way. I can climax from oral but it's a lot less intense and not preferred. We prefer oral as foreplay.
05/10/2013
FieryRed FieryRed
Quote:
Originally posted by bratcat
My partner will get off almost every time while receiving oral, and it is a regular part of our sex life. For me though, it tends to be harder for me to climax, let alone get off, and my partner usually is tired or hurts before i am able to. i do ... More
I used to have that trouble, too! It would take me forever to "get there," especially if my partner hit a too-sensitive spot or got a little too rough, and jolted me out of the experience. Try having him/her wait until you're already very turned on to start giving you oral pleasure, and/or maybe suggest s/he take a break and do other things to your body for a few minutes whenever her/his neck or jaw or tongue starts to hurt. That is, assuming you do want this person to continue with the oral stimulation and help you have an orgasm!
05/10/2013
JDear JDear
I have never orgasmed from oral. I'm not sensitive enough.
05/10/2013
Gr8pumpkin Gr8pumpkin
Quote:
Originally posted by JDear
I have never orgasmed from oral. I'm not sensitive enough.
Since I have been on an anti-anxiety drug it has made it impossible to cum from oral, and actually slowed my response in every other way also. I have been weaning my self off the drug and finally, a week ago, was able to climax from oral alone....whoa ! Now I hope to try again to see if it was just a fluke.
My wife always climaxes from oral, if she can wait that long !
06/04/2013
libbyv libbyv
Quote:
Originally posted by SMichelle
My boyfriend was telling me that he finds it nearly impossible to climax during oral. Oral is a regular part of our sex life, but we typically include it in foreplay, so him not climaxing during oral has never been much of an issue. Still, there is a ... More
hubby has the same problem
06/07/2013
Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
Yeah... I find it normal to not be able to climax during oral... It's RARE for me.
06/07/2013
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