Feel kind of awkward about their boyfriend or whoever going down on them?
Not even a little bit.
But I have been there! Believe me. I am truly probably the most shy kind of girl out there. I'm talking I was too shy to EAT or PEE when my partner was anywhere near the same house as me... for the entire first year. Misery! I think I was very abnormal. And I'd always had qualms about ever letting a guy go down on me. I mean I nearly broke a dude's neck for trying once. I did not want it to happen. I was so uncomfortable with the idea of recieving oral sex as a female thanks to growing up with the idea that our own vaginas are soooo gross that we should never subject a poor fella to have to put his face there...
And then I met my partner almost 7 whole years ago and guess what? He goes down on me that night. Where did all this anxiety I'd built up for years, swearing I'd NEVER let a guy go there go? Well, my friend, it went right into the garbage... with an empty bottle of Canadian Mist. LOL.
Seriously though. I don't know how it happened -- me going from being so against letting a guy go down on me to letting it happen in one night. But I'll tell ya, 7 years later & this is like our tradition. I would always say no that I didn't want him to have to give me oral every time we had sex & he absolutely insisted, and STILL does. Says he loves it more than I do, which is crazy because if only he knew!
So I'm telling you, you can get over the awkwardness. I think when the guy is letting you know he REALLY wants to do it, you're a lot more comfortable. Especially when he's making a lot of effort too, so if you come across that guy, you really should let yourself have that. I am a firm believer that ALL women deserve that. Lol. I have my partner to thank for this belief.
I actually never thought I'd get comfortable enough to let him do it, but I did quickly. I used to be so terrified of anyone even looking at my body and it changed for me, so surely it's like that for most people -- surely most people do get over the awkward feeling. Eventually, you'll be able to relax, but not the first couple of times. I doubt I'd have EVER relaxed if I weren't drinking the first many times he did it for me, but hey, it was all good because I'd have been a nervous wreck otherwise.
Hope you're able to knock this out & enjoy yourself.
Nope. I think it helps that whenever someone has gone down on me, he or she was so enthusiastic, I couldn't doubt they were happy to be doing it & not thinking critical thoughts about the way I looked/tasted/smelled.
I've been thinking about this since I answered earlier. I think another reason I don't worry about it is because I've gone down on girls & I know from experience that what's going through my mind at the time is all about their responses, I'm consumed by that & have no room for other thoughts. The giver is just so happy to be there, doing that to you, it's a thrill when you can relax & enjoy it. So try to keep that in mind if you start to feel awkward.