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So, let's get right down to it, we all love oral when it's done right. It's fantastic, it's sensational, it's the thing we find ourselves daydreaming about! But...when it's done wrong...it hurts! That's a sensitive area,
So, let's get right down to it, we all love oral when it's done right. It's fantastic, it's sensational, it's the thing we find ourselves daydreaming about! But...when it's done wrong...it hurts! That's a sensitive area, not meant for super hard sucking and violent rubbing on. Yet, guys still do things that don't feel quite right sometimes. Solution, let's train 'em. I challenge all your girls to commit to teaching guys how to give proper oral, because you'll appreciate them more for it.
Now, how will this be accomplished? Let's start with some simple rules.
1. It shouldn't exhaust you to please me. Stop with all the fancy work and focus on simple, we can add in fancy later. Strengthen up his tongue by requesting simple, deep licks.
2. Tell him how you like it. He likes to hear it, it doesn't hurt his feelings if you tell him nicely.
3. Tell your friends that are too afraid to speak up to learn how to speak up! Everyone is happier if they have a good orgasm!
Got things to add? More tips on how to improve oral for all of us girls out there?! Now is your chance to train all the men out there! Help me out girls! And guys, tell me what you wish your girl would let you know in regards to oral. Finally, take everything you learn here and say it to your friends, might as well spread this all over and make the world a little brighter, one orgasm at a time!
No problems here. After 6 years, my Lovie has it down. He takes his lickin' very serious so he always puts a lot of effort in bless his heart. He has never actually hurt me while licking though... yikes! I think I'd be running if a partner ended up hurting me down there with his mouth. No need for hard sucking and things like that. A smack on the crotch is kind of fun to me, but no pain down there!
Thankfully, my partner caught on really quickly to my likes and dislikes and I did too as when we got together, I was just learning what I liked and didn't like about oral as well. I hadn't had anyone else really really do that. It was new to me and anytime you have a new partner, you pretty much have to re-learn things because everyone likes it differently. I sometimes like it fast and with more pressure and sometimes really slow and soft. He usually knows what I'm going to like because if it's just too much on any given day, it'll make my legs twitch and squirm, uncomfortably. Not because I'm in ecstacy, which most guys commonly mistake that for. A little twitch of the legs can mean a good thing, but if I'm squirming AWAY from your mouth... it ain't cause I'm in orgasm heaven. Lol.
Yes, my partner likes for me to tell him how I like it. In fact, he asks me how I want it each time, but I sometimes don't know until he begins and then I'm like... nope, slower. It always varies, but there's one thing I HATE and it's super fast, rough licking. It makes my crotch go numbish and it's not pleasurable. I've had someone attempt to go that route before.
I like your tips, especially "it shouldn't exhaust you to please me." Lol sadly, I've seen it happen, where a guy thinks he should turn his neck into an acrobat of its own and then he gets a neck cramp! Wonder why?! Lol. My partner knows that I like a little cool air down there every once in a while while he's doing that and sometimes he'll try to blow air on it WHILE licking! It's great, but I can tell it takes some focus. Lol. Poor thing tryin' to work so hard. In that case it's ok, but I don't want him to run outta air down there! Lol. 'Wait... why'd ya stop!?' heehee
I really like your post! I think we all need to allow ourselves to be pleased instead of staying in the mind set that women don't exactly deserve or shouldn't speak up and say 'hey, I like sex too and here's how I like it.' I thought I'd NEVER say what I liked to a man because none of my other partners thought it was neccessary to please the female too
When I first got with my current partner it was all new to me! It took me a while to finally speak up about what I liked and didn't. I still don't ask him to perform oral for me because he does it so often that I don't want to bug him if I ask, but he likes for me to so sometimes, if he's already going to do it, I'll demand
Only for fun though. I'm glad he likes doing it and takes the initiative to say "no sex until I've licked..." and that's really nice.
It never hurts to ask though, if you aren't getting what you want. I hope more people see your post and tell em' how they want it!