the few times I've received, I've given a bit of direction and he seems happy to be told what to do.
When I give, I don't mind him verbally asking for specific things, I'll happily do what he wants. BUT I absolutely hate it when he uses his hands to push my head around or move my hands for me, that instantly infuriates me. I don't like being dominated, and when he tries to hold my head down or force me to put my hands certain places (almost always when I'm using that hand to hold myself up so it makes it REALLY uncomfortable for me), I want to stop right then and there. Fuck that. As soon as you cause me discomfort while I'm trying to pleasure YOU, you can get yourself off because I'm done. More than once I've stopped and glared at him, and I've told him I don't like it, but he always conveniently "forgets" a day or two after I remind him. There's not really anything in our sex life that is bad, we have great sex, except THAT. He would get oral more often if he would fucking stop that. >8(