Giving oral to a new partner for the first time

nova2014 nova2014
So I just got involved with a new guy, but I'm worried about any diseases, is it rude to ask him to wear a condom while I give him oral or is that just practicing safe sex and not something to be awkward about? Any advice?
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Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
I do not think there is anything wrong with asking for your own safety. If you feeling comfortable and safe while pleasuring him is a problem for him, I think that will let you know a lot about him. Stick to your principals regardless of if it upsets someone.
11/10/2013
Ansley Ansley
It's not rude, it's a necessary conversation between two sexually active adults. If the reaction is one of angst or the person feels insulted, that's on them. Protecting your health trumps protecting someone's feelings every time!
11/11/2013
epiphanyjayne epiphanyjayne
Being safe is the best thing to do for yourself.
11/14/2013
Slutty Girl Problems Slutty Girl Problems
Quote:
Originally posted by nova2014
So I just got involved with a new guy, but I'm worried about any diseases, is it rude to ask him to wear a condom while I give him oral or is that just practicing safe sex and not something to be awkward about? Any advice?
If it's too awkward to talk about, it's probably not a good idea to ask him in the first place. Always important to talk about!!!
11/15/2013
wicked48 wicked48
It's not rude. You need to do what's best for you.
11/15/2013
edeneve edeneve
I really don't think ahead of time when giving head. this question is a good reminder to be more aware even in the heat of the moment.
11/29/2013
RonLee RonLee
Damn I'm so glad that I found my Baby and so no longer have to deal with this sort of thing anymore. Admittedly we did not do "safe sex" even in the beginning either though.
12/01/2013
DaddyG DaddyG
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Originally posted by nova2014
So I just got involved with a new guy, but I'm worried about any diseases, is it rude to ask him to wear a condom while I give him oral or is that just practicing safe sex and not something to be awkward about? Any advice?
You, ALWAYS take your health first. If they aren't with it then they miss out
12/01/2013
IdyllWyld IdyllWyld
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Originally posted by nova2014
So I just got involved with a new guy, but I'm worried about any diseases, is it rude to ask him to wear a condom while I give him oral or is that just practicing safe sex and not something to be awkward about? Any advice?
You should be able to ask with no worries about it and if he has a problem with it, then maybe you should find someone that understands.
Jan 12, 11:38 am
ihavenipples ihavenipples
I would like it if a girl made that request. It would show me that she was cautious and cared about such things. Helping put it on would also add to the experience.
Feb 22, 10:37 pm
ud328 ud328
If that's what makes you comfortable then absolutely bring it up. But I think it would also be important to bring up what you're really concerned about.
Mar 19, 10:33 pm
PadoruLover PadoruLover
This is your health so you should ask without worry
Mar 21, 12:19 pm
Maria13 Maria13
Quote:
Originally posted by Pete's Princess
I do not think there is anything wrong with asking for your own safety. If you feeling comfortable and safe while pleasuring him is a problem for him, I think that will let you know a lot about him. Stick to your principals regardless of if it ... More
I agree! ??
Mar 21, 12:24 pm
Kitt Katt Kitt Katt
With new partners, I think it is best to play it safe. I am so glad we don't have to worry about this.
Mar 22, 2:00 pm
PadoruLover PadoruLover
Quote:
Originally posted by Pete's Princess
I do not think there is anything wrong with asking for your own safety. If you feeling comfortable and safe while pleasuring him is a problem for him, I think that will let you know a lot about him. Stick to your principals regardless of if it ... More
Couldn't have said it better!
Mar 22, 10:50 pm
NorthBayLady NorthBayLady
I would say ask him and if he says no, then show him the door
Mar 23, 5:13 pm
Trixxxy Trixxxy
I know how you feel. Talking about these things is always awkward because the person feels like you can't trust them or they feel like there's a REASON you're asking (like they start to think maybe you have something since you even asked). I hate all of that shit. It makes sex un-enjoyable because I feel like I'm always dodging all these fucking bullets.

I would say that just putting the condom on and going at it would work also.

If you plan on continually sleeping with him just go get tested together. (I've had such a hard time trying to get people to do this as well.....sadly.)
Jul 4, 8:15 pm
Lenko Lenko
ALWAYS use a condom.
It's not even a question (let alone a rude one) - it's a given.
And he should be used to it already ;p
Nobody wants to catch an STD.

It's pretty awkward with a new partner, but if you want to keep him around, you should be able to talk to him.
If he's a "use and lose" kind of guy, then you MUST use protection!

Good luck! =)
Aug 5, 5:48 pm
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