He wont go down.

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poetprincess poetprincess
ok so my man loves when I give him blow jobs, but he will not go down on me. He claims it is because I cum so much that he dont want it all over his face. Nothing I can say will change his mind. It sucks should I withhold blowjobs for him if he wont go down on me or respect his wishes and just deal with it..
10/06/2011
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married with children married with children
oral for oral, I say.
10/08/2011
The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by poetprincess
ok so my man loves when I give him blow jobs, but he will not go down on me. He claims it is because I cum so much that he dont want it all over his face. Nothing I can say will change his mind. It sucks should I withhold blowjobs for him if he wont ...
Ok I personally would be down there all day. The more cum the better for me! I agree with the donkey oral for oral say we!
10/08/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
It all depends how you feel. If you really desire oral to be performed on you and don't like that he gets all the pleasure in that department, then perhaps withhold.

Or try out one of those dental dams and then see if he still has any excuses as to why he doesn't want to perform oral on you.

Most guys I know LOVE giving oral. They can't get enough.
But I have come across one friend who said he never cared for it but just did it for his g/f cause she liked it.
10/08/2011
wetone123 wetone123
I agree, oral for oral girl! He's not being fair!
10/08/2011
slynch slynch
Yes, withhold it from him!
10/08/2011
Ciao. Ciao.
I love going down on my partner, what's wrong with your guy?!

Anyway, talk it through some more, but I think it's only fair to withhold blowjobs if you really want him to provide oral for you and he's just flat out refusing. My partner is not really big into going down on me, but will still do it for me if I ask and that willingness makes all the difference.
10/08/2011
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I like how someone mentioned the dental dam. Before buying one, ask if that would make a difference in his opinion because you really want oral too. Or does he just prefer not giving oral and your cum was just an excuse. You guys need to talk this through and work out a compromise.
10/08/2011
Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
Yeah.. if he's not willing to go down on you, then refuse to give him head. I'm sure his dick (like most) isn't the most delicious thing to have in your mouth either so he's got to learn to deal- one way or the other.
10/08/2011
indiglo indiglo
Personally, I wouldn't withhold anything like that from my partner just to get what I wanted. But everyone's different.

What I would do is sit him down and really have a heart to heart. Explain to him how much you need that to feel fulfilled, or how you feel it's unfair to give to him without receiving something in return.

Maybe he could find another way to pay attention to you during foreplay. Perhaps he could use a clitoral vibe on you while using some of his fingers. I love the dental dam idea, so you might bring that up too. Another option is he could "plug you up" with a vaginal toy (dildo, plug, etc) so that not as much lubrication would be able to come out of you while he pleasures you orally.

If it means a lot to you, or just feel like you're doing all the giving, it's really important to talk to him about it. Do it at a time when you're not really thinking about sex, and try to be non-confrontational, non-judgmental and non-accusatory as much as possible. Best wishes!
10/08/2011
rex73 rex73
Well - I'm a guy and I do all the giving. I'll give a 60 minute full body massage and then go down for 30 minutes. After that I get 5-8 minutes of att. This happens maybe 2x per month.

She loves me and it shows, but I have to go to great lengths to keep our intimacy active. Even when we get babysitters she never wants any sex.

Oh well.

Happens to the best of us.
10/09/2011
poetprincess poetprincess
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Originally posted by poetprincess
ok so my man loves when I give him blow jobs, but he will not go down on me. He claims it is because I cum so much that he dont want it all over his face. Nothing I can say will change his mind. It sucks should I withhold blowjobs for him if he wont ...
Well he is not the first guy to complain I cum alot. so I dunno I love giving him blowjobs so I highly doubt ill ever tell him no on that, I ll just have to find other ways to play..
10/16/2011
DeeDaw DeeDaw
I agree. Have a talk, mention the dental dam, talk through options, and if he's withholding just to be selfish, it's your decision whether or not you return the favor. I would, but it just depends on how bad you want it.
10/24/2011
Brandon Lee Brandon Lee
This is not a tit for tat thing. I am sure that if you look at the totality of the relationship there are thing that he does that you do not. If it is a quality relationship don't look at it as a score board, he does A so I do A. He does not do B so I don't do B. Realize that each of you brings certian skills and abilities and appriciate him for what he does bring. Also I would hope that brining him sexual joy by going donw on him would be it's own reward.
But with all that being said. Shave your shit, wash it up and tell the man to grow a pair go down on you so hard he can tell if you've had dental work.
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10/27/2011
Beck Beck
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Originally posted by poetprincess
Well he is not the first guy to complain I cum alot. so I dunno I love giving him blowjobs so I highly doubt ill ever tell him no on that, I ll just have to find other ways to play..
Maybe try dental dam. And they should be happy you are juicy better than dry prune. I'm really juicy like this also never had someone complain but if they do not go down on me I will be getting a new man or woman.

Find yourself someone who loves what you got not complains about it and does not try to find a solution.

Hugs!
10/27/2011
Cherrylane Cherrylane
Seriously? He just doesn't want it on his face? He knows it can be wiped off, right?

I'd probably make a point to be purposefully spotless down there (not a stray hair, immaculately cleaned, etc) and then withold the bjs. Give him the same reason. You don't want his cum on your face/lips/in your mouth what have you. No, say you, it isn't a taste problem or anything like that. You just don't care for it in your mouth. So sorry. BUT maybe if he were willing it might make you want it, eh? Maybe.
10/27/2011
Eucaly Eucaly
Have you tried lubes that he likes the taste of? If the cum is watered down by all the tasty lube, that might help.

I agree it's extremely unfair, but withholding might not be the best reaction. Maybe tell him he'll only get it once every two weeks unless he gives?
10/27/2011
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