I've said this before, but I HATE the word "foreplay." We have oral sex, fondling, petting and kissing frequently during sexual activity. I also want to say that there is a hell of a lot more to "sex" than sticking a penis into a vagina. We've had "sex" without any PIV at all.
My Man and I mix it up a lot. He likes to have his orgasm from oral sex... or from PIV (although he pulls out, as that's what we use for BC) or from anal sex.... or from jerking while I help. There's no one way for us, and we are very flexible when it comes to his orgasm. He doesn't have a preference. It depends on what he wants during that session.