How many skeptical men are willing to find their "p-spot?"

I just asked my man about this last night, more specifically about hands-free ejaculation through p-massage. He doesn't think it's for him, but I'd like to see him try. We shall see... My persistence usually wins him over

I was never skeptical and I have definitely always been willing to explore different avenues to pleasure. I was the one to seek out prostate exploration, but I'd say just talk with your partner about it see what his hangups are and try and work through them. Whether it is fear of being seen as "gay" or fear of discomfort usually most of the reasons not to try prostate play are pretty easily overcome with an open mind and some experiences that create pleasure.

Not every single person on earth feels pleasure thru the back so you can't really force the issue with anyone. However, as a guy I would have to say, you need to give it a try. I have had some of the most intense orgasms thru prostate massages. My girl LOVES it and I enjoy it as well. I'm usually very quiet during sex. With prostrate massages, I literally scream! LOL

I'm pretty sure my hubby will never try it. I usually tease him by chasing him around the house with a cucumber and a bottle of lube asking him which end he wants!

I voted as 'willing and have tried' on behalf of my sweetheart. It was a very gradual subject to come up, but eventually we came to the agreement that whatever one was willing to do, the other should ask of themselves first. I do not know if he had interest in exploring beforehand or not, but the good news was that we arrived at the decision in a safe, agreeable way.

I bought him the Lelo Bob as a surprise gift, and it has turned out to be the best gift of all time. We both love Bob because it is small enough for a beginner and hits his prostate perfectly. We may move up to another sized toy in time, but for now Bob is perfect. Sweets was also blown away by the obvious quality difference high-end toys make--I'm so happy that I no longer need to explain why spending the extra money makes all the difference!

I would highly recommend Lelo's Bob to any man curious about p-spot play, or for a lady to give as a gift (best decision yet on my part). Check him out over here.

Thank you everyone for your posts... I have heard that it can be really healthy for you, I just have never been able to get my husband to agree. Once he has tried it, and he exclaimed that it was just so uncomfortable that he would never try it again. I honestly think that it would be great for him to be more exploratory... Great sex comes from new ideas.

Although many men may be skeptical, prostate stimulation is one of the most amazing avenues that a man can sexually explore. I never had any of the hang-ups that many others do, so I don't have any advice on that. But I can certainly echo what ScottA just shared. When beginning in any anal play/prostate play with your guy, make SURE that he is comfortable and RELAXED before ANY penetration begins. For a beginner, this is ESSENTIAL. If his backside is fighting you, or trying to squeeze your finger out, he's NOT ready. If you persist in this manner, it could certainly end up as an unenjoyable, uncomfortable, and possibly even painful experience, that may scare him off for good! Instead, start with some light rubbing and touching on his anus (NO penetration yet) AFTER you have him worked up, or while giving him head. This may be all he'll let you do for the first few times. It may feel foreign and odd to him at first, but that's okay. You just need to be patient. Once he's comfortable with that (might be 10 minutes, might be 10 weeks... depends on the guy) you can slowly start working your finger in by applying slow, steady, even pressure (make sure you have SHORT nails when doing this!). The first time you penetrate him, he will likely tense up again, and may try to squeeze your finger out. Just stop where it is and hold still until the feeling passes for him and he is able to relax again. The you can move a little more.

Essentially, the process will boil down to PATIENCE and persistence. If you rush it, he may end up waddling away miserable, swearing he'll never do it again. If you go slow and work with him, both of you will likely enjoy the journey to finding how powerful his sexuality has the potential to be.

One final point... LUBE LUBE LUBE. You can't ever have too much lube when engaging in anal play... especially for a beginner. Apply, and reapply, and then you might almost have enough for him.

There are quite a few threads about this in the forum, so also feel free to search and read up. Advice from people like ScottA is invaluable, as you'll see from his posts, reviews, etc... that he is well versed and experienced in this area as well.

Good luck, and keep us posted!

My husband like it at times.

WHat's a p spot?

It's important to keep the prostate healthy - it's far better than having to deal with prostatitis.

Simply love it. And finding a girl that is cool with it and enjoys doing it to me... Love it!

"it would be good for him to explore different aspects of pleasure in his body"

Yes, but only at a pace he is comfortable with. You may try massaging externally to see if he responds at all.

My bf is willing but he can't seem to find it.

My Man would not ever agree to it. Our relationship doesn't really extend to that and honestly, I have no desire to put my finger or anything else up his ass. (We have a mild to moderate D/S relationship, and I simply don't penetrate him.) The closest I get is massaging the prostate from under his testes when I'm giving him a blow job. It requires no penetration. (He's in his 50s, so it's easier to find on him than on a younger man through the perineal wall.)

I know people enjoy it, and that's great. I also know you can live without it. It's when men don't ejaculate that causes problems, no one HAS TO have a prostate massage. Samanti, respecting what he wants done with his body is really more important than "trying" one "new" thing. He sounds like he simply doesn't want it. His choice should be respected.

I'm on board with people who enjoy it, but some men don't want that, and I know if I didn't want anal stimulation and he kept bugging me, I'd be royally pissed off. I like anal stim for myself, he doesn't. The man is entitled to his preferences.

Nuff said.

Not the least bit interested in anal play in general, so nope.

It does seem akward for a female to do anal play on the male but it feels awesome!

Do you mean skeptical in the sense that he isn't sure he has a p-spot or skeptical in the sense that he isn't sure it'll provide pleasure?

id like to know too. i never want to ask

Try doing it like my girl did it for me. "If you don't like it than you can poke my back hole after" worked well enough for me as I always wanted to try anal.


In the end I got the enjoyment of both

I voted "never going to happen" for my boyfriend because he's so anal about his ass! He would NEVER let me go near it. Sometimes if I get too close during anything else like a bj, he'll tense right up. He does it to me so why can't I do it to him? lol