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I 'm cursed :(

cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
UGH I don't know what is wrong with me.. I think my clit is made of steel or something. I have never once been able to orgasm from oral sex. Ever. I have mentioned before that I am having a super hard time even finding a good clit vibe. I can usually only get off in the tub with the water. I am getting frustrated. I would really like to get off when receiving oral from my man. Does anyone have any advice to offer as to how I could pull this off? He does a good job, and I get real close, but I can just never get off. We even tried using a clit vibe while he ate me and it still didn't work I feel like I am cursed
09/08/2010
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FrenchKisser FrenchKisser
have you tried playing with ice cubes?... to alternate cold (from the ice) and heat (from the tongue) sometimes helps stimulate and provide nice sensations.

good luck!
09/08/2010
DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
You might just not get off from oral.

I don't.

I kind of think it's boring.


Which my girlfriend does not love, but understands.
Different strokes, and all that...
09/09/2010
SydVicious SydVicious
I'm telling you girl, that Inspire is the bomb. I use that to get off after oral. My hubby is great at it and I cant get close, but I just can't finish that way no matter now hard we try. I a minute of so with the Inspire after an oral session and I'm done.
09/09/2010
cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
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Originally posted by SydVicious
I'm telling you girl, that Inspire is the bomb. I use that to get off after oral. My hubby is great at it and I cant get close, but I just can't finish that way no matter now hard we try. I a minute of so with the Inspire after an oral ...
im definitely going to have to try that out because it sucks for me he can't get off orally very often but I can get him to when I want him to > I don't though because then I don't get any sex!
09/09/2010
sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
Maybe a good clit stimulating lube that is safe for oral sex?

I was able to orgasm only once with oral sex, and a toy was involved. Maybe you could try a different toy?
09/09/2010
Jenn (aka kissmykitty) Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
I wish I had some recommendations, but I don't, because I myself struggle with getting off from oral sex. I can count on one hand the number of times I have orgasmed from oral sex in 2010. We usually do a lot of sex first, to get me insanely excited and dying to come. We'll then pop on some porn and he'll go to town, and if need be we'll alternate between his mouth and a bullet vibe, and then he'll finish me off one I'm "close".
09/09/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by cherryredhead88
UGH I don't know what is wrong with me.. I think my clit is made of steel or something. I have never once been able to orgasm from oral sex. Ever. I have mentioned before that I am having a super hard time even finding a good clit vibe. I can ...
After decades with a hair trigger ability to orgasm, my body decided to get itself a "Clit O Steel" a few years ago. I was always able to come while he was giving me oral sex, and it was really hard on my man (and me) when I wasn't able to. (One night he tried for THREE hours, I couldn't. We were both in tears. I felt worse for him than I did for me.)

After that I resigned myself to the fact that I simply NEEDED a really heavy duty vibrator. Not a battery operated one (although those are fantastic for warm up and helping me get "almost there" along with oral and manual sex.) I bought the Wahl 7 in 1, massager. FANTASTIC! It is one of the strongest and best vibrators for those of us with needs that are intense.The Wahl Massaging Vibrator Talk about Power!

I also have a Hitachi. Hitachi Super Strength Vibrator I like and and I can orgasm from it, but I prefer the Wahl. Both are Plug In vibrators, and look very much like back massagers (which they work really well for, too) but they are SO much stronger than any battery vibrator I've tried.

What we do is to have him stimulate me, we kiss and hug and I give him some head, then he goes down for quite a while, we add a vibrator (a phallic vibe at this point) then I feel like "It's time" and we grab the Wahl. I need vaginal penetration AND clit stimulation to come, so we use either a phallic vibe (usually turned off) or a dildo or his hand, which is really nice (some shallow anal stim helps, too. If I'm in the mood for it, and My Man has grabbed one of the plugs or bead toys, or sometimes he just uses his hand) Then he either lies cross ways across my body, or next to me, and helps with nipple stim and/or penetration, and I put the attachment of the Wahl on my clit and away we GO! It can take anywhere from 2 or 3 minutes (which I really like, because then we can go on to other things, and I have more orgasms) or up to half an hour or more. We change it up, he may change his position, we've done this during anal sex, he sometimes knocks the Wahl away and goes back to oral, I might give him head while we're doing this. Whatever works. Nipple stim really helps for me.

It sounds like a lot of work, but we've been able to seamlessly incorporate this into our sex routine (it's MORE than "routine" we don't do the same way every time) and it provides me with the comfort that I know I am usually going to Come (sometime I still don't, but we'll try again) and My Man realizes that it is STILL "all him" as it is always better with him doing all the stuff I couldn't do alone.

Good luck. You may just need to find the right heavy vibrator. Oh, and if either of us is having a hard time coming, we find a few scenes of porn help too.

That's why my tag line is "What ever it takes."
09/09/2010
cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
Well, I am glad to hear that I am not the only one who has this issue. For a minute there I thought something was wrong with me. I think my clit is spoiled as well, from years of playing in the tub.. I definitely want to try a plug-in vibe now. Maybe I do just need something that strong!

Thanks for the advice guys/gals, I will try some of these things. I have always found lesbian porn helps me, it's strange because I am not attracted to girls but for some reason watching that makes things a lot easier. I'm just too shy to admit it to my man lol
09/09/2010
sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
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Originally posted by cherryredhead88
Well, I am glad to hear that I am not the only one who has this issue. For a minute there I thought something was wrong with me. I think my clit is spoiled as well, from years of playing in the tub.. I definitely want to try a plug-in vibe now. Maybe ...
Your man would probably LOVE the fact that you like lesbian porn, because most men also enjoy that, so you could watch it together! With my husband and I, we have pretty different taste in porn and like different styles and types, so we don't really get too much enjoyment of watching porn together, because usually it's one likes it and the other doesn't.

But if it will help you, you should work up the courage to tell him. He would probably like to hear that!
09/09/2010
Sera Sera
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Originally posted by cherryredhead88
UGH I don't know what is wrong with me.. I think my clit is made of steel or something. I have never once been able to orgasm from oral sex. Ever. I have mentioned before that I am having a super hard time even finding a good clit vibe. I can ...
Oh, that must suck! Oral is the best thing I've found to make me orgasm! Trying new things might help if you're willing to experiment on yourself to find where your most sensitive parts are.
10/24/2010
socceras socceras
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Originally posted by cherryredhead88
UGH I don't know what is wrong with me.. I think my clit is made of steel or something. I have never once been able to orgasm from oral sex. Ever. I have mentioned before that I am having a super hard time even finding a good clit vibe. I can ...
i cant orgasm from oral either. ive never even come close. but yes i do use the water in the bath. if you have tried all the clit vibes out there and it still doesnt work. buy a cheap vibrating toothbrush at cvs or something lol. that does it for me. and FAST!.
10/29/2010
Kim! Kim!
I have maybe a handful of times and it has always involved some form of penetration too. It feels great and sometimes I want it, well for all of about 2 minutes before I'm begging for more. Clit stimulation only works for me if I am grinding against something. I bought the Wahl and that doesn't do it for me either. :/ It's fun but it won't make me orgasm.
I wish that I was more help than saying you aren't a freak.
10/29/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Kim!
I have maybe a handful of times and it has always involved some form of penetration too. It feels great and sometimes I want it, well for all of about 2 minutes before I'm begging for more. Clit stimulation only works for me if I am grinding ...
What about the Wahl plus penetration? That usually works for me. It doesn't always work unless I have something in me. My Man's hand, a vibe (usually turned off, because the Wahl is plenty) or a dil or even my Smart Balls. The Wahl alone usually frustrates me, I have to pair it with something.

For me, this works after he go crazy with oral for a while and I'm RIGHT THERE. I used to be able to get all the way there, just from him, but hormones did me in.
10/29/2010
Illusional Illusional
Yeah, oral plus some fingers or a vibe.. drives me insane.
10/30/2010
Darling Jen Darling Jen
I've never been able to orgasm from oral sex either. It could be me, or it could have been my partner. But at least we're not alone.
10/30/2010
southernhawtie southernhawtie
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Originally posted by cherryredhead88
UGH I don't know what is wrong with me.. I think my clit is made of steel or something. I have never once been able to orgasm from oral sex. Ever. I have mentioned before that I am having a super hard time even finding a good clit vibe. I can ...
It's almost impossible to make me orgasm from oral...so it's not just you! I thought I was getting really good oral, then my BF and I split and I started sleeping with someone else....He actually knew what he was doing. Lets just say that he was actually capable of making me climb the walls. Screaming orgasms....he was good at those to. Dont give up hope....maybe its him.
12/03/2010
Lady Neshamah Lady Neshamah
hum.... if you are getting off in water, that could be what actually triggers you to let go.

have you ever thought of having your partner play with you or do oral in you in the water? it may take some work, but it may be worth the time.
12/03/2010
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