Ladies: Do you orgasm through cunnilingus?

ToyGurl ToyGurl
Digging back in my files of high school exes, I'm going to pull out one file in particular. He was my first love, and first... everything. We had oral sex, and like any newbies, we had to perfect it. This boy was determined to make me cum with his tongue - and that, he did indeed.

Fast forwarding to my current relationship... I do not cum when I'm eaten out. I always get really close, but I am yet to get pushed over the edge into the world of orgasm. My fiance is actually amazing at it, and I'm not sure if it's me holding myself back, or something else. We've been together 5 years, and we started having sex at 6 or 7 months, so we are experienced with one another. He can make me orgasm doing anything else.

I think what it might be is that we don't do it enough to get familiar with the spots on my clit that are more sensitive to his tongue. Another thing is that if I don't manually start building up by breathing and creating pressure with my legs before a certain point, I'll basically lose all chances of an orgasm for the entire night. This is a problem for a lot of women I know.

My roommate says that during cunnilingus or play with vibrators, she is only sensitive on one side of her clitoral shaft/hood area. The right side, I believe she said. She said every man who gives her head either goes too much to the left or too much to the right, etc. He can never get right on that spot. This is similar to me because I am only most sensitive directly on top of my clitoris itself. And I react best to a side to side motion with the tongue. That's hard to be maintained for long periods of time.
05/10/2011
lolsos lolsos
Not yet.
05/11/2011
AAAToyGirl AAAToyGirl
I can cum from receiving oral, but it works best if he is fingering me at the same time He's a little clumsy and not the best at giving oral, but it's ok. It's not something that I feel like I'm missing out on every day or anything like that. I remember from past partners, who were more into giving oral, that I could easily cum from just that, but the combination or oral with fingering is just so much better for me. I'm a weird girl, I tend to have easier g-spot orgasms, followed by g-spot+clitoral orgasms, with orgasms from clitoral stimulation being the hardest for me.
05/11/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Naughty Student
I've searched the forum high and low and could not find a poll like the one I am about to make.

Basically, I'm curious to know how many ladies out there can orgasm through cunnilingus. I wonder because I have yet been able to do so and ... More
I have a very enthusiastic partner who loves to munch a clean pussy so it's amazing, I have had lackluster partners whom I could tell really didn't want to be there and it was impossible to orgasm.
05/11/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
*sigh* I used to always have orgasms from receiving oral sex, like 99% of the time. Perimenopause has robbed me of that ability. I get SO close, yet it doesn't happen. He gets me as close as I'm going to get and then we have to grab the Wahl for me to finish.

The sad thing is, he is amazingly gifted at giving a woman head. It feels better than any vibrator in the world. But, I for some reason now am having such a high orgasmic threshold that I need that sustained deep vibration to get there. It kind of sucks, to need it. It if was just for fun, it would be OK, but I live in dread of a power outage. "OMG, how am I going to come?"

I really wish I still could orgasm from his oral efforts. At first I think it really hurt My Man's feelings, he'd try so hard, and I couldn't. But, now he understands it hormonal and there's nothing either of us can do about it. I made it clear HE was not doing anything wrong. My body has just changed. I used to have hair trigger orgasms, and now it's so freaking difficult.

One of the things we've done to make it better is when I start to come, I kind of drop the Wahl off the side of the bed, and its his cue to go back down. I, thank heavens, can still have very LONG orgasms, and multiples, so at least I can still have orgasms while he's there. It took us a while to organize this properly, and it sucks when it takes me a long time (like 30-45 minutes) because we were both used to my being able to come from his oral technique in under 5 minutes. I used to make him STOP and do something else, because I'd come too quickly and then lose interest before he was able to. Now, I don't lose interest, hell I can go all night. But that first orgasm is a BITCH!
05/11/2011
Antipova Antipova
A lot of men have tried, and none have ever been successful. I'm pretty sure I just have a mental block of some sort, because my clit is very responsive to being fingered, even through clothes. But I can't ever just focus on enjoying myself when I'm receiving oral.

I think part of it might be that I'm naturally a "pleaser" (I've had orgasms while giving oral, no sweat) and it feels foreign to have the tables turned. Another part might be that when my high school boyfriend would go down, he'd get flaccid. Not like it was any trouble to get him back up again, but I think I felt like a failure because I wasn't turning him on. And I can't wrap my mind around the idea of a man enjoying it very easily.

I am trying to explore my mental block and eventually become able to enjoy it, though, because it sounds like a lot of fun.
05/11/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Antipova
A lot of men have tried, and none have ever been successful. I'm pretty sure I just have a mental block of some sort, because my clit is very responsive to being fingered, even through clothes. But I can't ever just focus on enjoying myself ... More
Antipova, a lot of men go flaccid or at least become semi-erect when giving head. I think it is because they are concentrating on giving you pleasure and not worrying about their own at the moment. Even men who LOVE giving women cunnilingus (like mine) go soft when they go down, especially if they are doing it for a while. Don't let that bother you.
05/11/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
Antipova, a lot of men go flaccid or at least become semi-erect when giving head. I think it is because they are concentrating on giving you pleasure and not worrying about their own at the moment. Even men who LOVE giving women cunnilingus (like ... More
That's right and it is age related. As a young stud I was hard from the hint of action to the orgasmic end. But now if I'm using toys or going down on her I will go soft and need some fairly firm direct stimulation to regain an erection.

Getting old does suck - when even getting sucked is sometimes not enough!
05/11/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
That's right and it is age related. As a young stud I was hard from the hint of action to the orgasmic end. But now if I'm using toys or going down on her I will go soft and need some fairly firm direct stimulation to regain an ... More
We can relate. I wanna yell at it sometimes. "C'mon, you were just there!"
05/11/2011
Antipova Antipova
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
Antipova, a lot of men go flaccid or at least become semi-erect when giving head. I think it is because they are concentrating on giving you pleasure and not worrying about their own at the moment. Even men who LOVE giving women cunnilingus (like ... More
This is something that I totally get on an intellectual level, but my lizard-brain just won't. let. it. click.

Thanks for the words of encouragement, though. I will keep trying!
05/11/2011
CAKES CAKES
Quote:
Originally posted by Naughty Student
I've searched the forum high and low and could not find a poll like the one I am about to make.

Basically, I'm curious to know how many ladies out there can orgasm through cunnilingus. I wonder because I have yet been able to do so and ... More
Yes, but I have to really concentrate!
05/12/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Naughty Student
I've searched the forum high and low and could not find a poll like the one I am about to make.

Basically, I'm curious to know how many ladies out there can orgasm through cunnilingus. I wonder because I have yet been able to do so and ... More
Yes but it takes a *little* while
05/13/2011
big b big b
my wife calls them small ones.i keep tring for the big one.
05/23/2011
KikiChrome KikiChrome
Quote:
Originally posted by Antipova
A lot of men have tried, and none have ever been successful. I'm pretty sure I just have a mental block of some sort, because my clit is very responsive to being fingered, even through clothes. But I can't ever just focus on enjoying myself ... More
I wonder whether I have much the same "block". Cunnilingus just doesn't do anything much for me mentally. I'm a giver too - and I don't like sexual acts where I don't feel like he's getting any pleasure. I love GIVING head, and I can orgasm really easily that way... but receiving head will actually make me lose arousal. Maybe I'm just a control freak.

For me, I can't really blame my first boyfriend. He was a sweet enough guy, and the only man to ever manage to get me to orgasm through cunnilingus. But even then it wasn't my preferred method, and the orgasm was a bit of a surprise. In any case, I find I get much more intense orgasms through intercourse.

Later boyfriends have generally been considerate of my choice, and only one ever got annoyed that I didn't really want him to go down on me. I think he'd been told by previous partners that he was very good at giving head... but I just had to keep explaining that "good" or "bad" doesn't really come into the equation for me. Cunnilingus just bores me.

I guess the difference is that I'm happy the way I am and don't feel like this is something I need to work on. So what if I'm bored by receiving oral? I'm very orgasmic in others ways, and it doesn't seem to have any negative effect on my sex life. We don't all have to like the same things.
05/23/2011
sarki sarki
Yes always
05/23/2011
SexyLilPixi SexyLilPixi
Yes, and powerfully! If somebody really knows what they're doing, it takes no time at all as well.
05/23/2011
Brianna91 Brianna91
Yes. Two sure fire ways for me to orgasm- anal for penetration sex, and I don't have to massage my clit to hit the big o zone there! I call those buttgasms even if they do come by way of both organs vagina and anus. And then oral is the other way. Masturbation too, so three ways I can really. I've never hit it from regular vag sex.
05/24/2011
Antipova Antipova
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Originally posted by KikiChrome
I wonder whether I have much the same "block". Cunnilingus just doesn't do anything much for me mentally. I'm a giver too - and I don't like sexual acts where I don't feel like he's getting any pleasure. I love GIVING ... More
That's probably a more healthy approach than mine, KikiChrome. Thanks for your thoughts!

And I definitely wasn't "blaming" my first boyfriend! I was just saying I've felt mentally uncomfortable from the beginning. Perhaps I should just let it go.
05/24/2011
honeybee7484 honeybee7484
With an old partner it was the only way I could! Very easy for me.
05/24/2011
iveversxe iveversxe
I like it when my partner is enthusiastic about it and when I am feeling more dominant and want to enjoy the view. However, I've never finished from receiving oral sex.

When I was younger and uncomfortable with my body, I extremely disliked having oral performed on me and it was a turn off. Now that I'm more self confident and sex positive, I enjoy oral sex occasionally but would much rather do other things that are more stimulating.
06/07/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
Please don't hate me when I say yes and usually between 5-10 minutes lol. I've always been able to orgasm fairly quickly and him going down on me has been no exception.
06/07/2011
newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by Naughty Student
I've searched the forum high and low and could not find a poll like the one I am about to make.

Basically, I'm curious to know how many ladies out there can orgasm through cunnilingus. I wonder because I have yet been able to do so and ... More
I have not been able to get my wife there yet, but we have fun trying. She says we have come close a couple of times. I keep working on my technique.
06/07/2011
Eucaly Eucaly
Quote:
Originally posted by Naughty Student
I've searched the forum high and low and could not find a poll like the one I am about to make.

Basically, I'm curious to know how many ladies out there can orgasm through cunnilingus. I wonder because I have yet been able to do so and ... More
It's extremely difficult for me to orgasm without anything in my vagina, but cunnilingus plus a finger inside tends to work pretty fast - although sometimes it's a very long time.

If I'm nervous about the area not having been cleaned immediately before oral, it takes me a lot longer to get there.
06/07/2011
Eucaly Eucaly
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Originally posted by MrRainybowbow
I want to but it never feels like i imagine it'd feel like. feels too rough and hurts
Is it stubble getting like sandpaper? That sandpaper feeling is nasty and stubble needs to be kept out of the way during oral.
06/07/2011
EastCoast36 EastCoast36
My wife does, in the 10 minute range, but usually she gets on the brink and asks me to penetrate her, so she has the orgasm with me in her.
06/07/2011
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
*sigh* I used to always have orgasms from receiving oral sex, like 99% of the time. Perimenopause has robbed me of that ability. I get SO close, yet it doesn't happen. He gets me as close as I'm going to get and then we have to grab the Wahl ... More
Same here! "I used to make him STOP and do something else, because I'd come too quickly and then lose interest before he was able to. Now, I don't lose interest, hell I can go all night." Age does have its benefits, doesn't it?

My husband's oral abilities are amazing (the first time we had sex - we'd only known each other about 2 weeks- I was so blown away by them, I told him, "If you can do that every time, you'd better look out because I just might wanna marry you!") and I can and often do come this way, but in the last year or so, it has certainly become more difficult. Now, he must invest in much tongue-time and must supplement off and on with Hitachi or the Fairy Wand (plug in version) to get me there the first time. Once that first one is out of the way (can sometimes be 30-60 minutes) he is home free!
06/07/2011
Alyjazz Alyjazz
Just licking is enough to make me orgasm this way. It usually takes anywhere from 10 - 20 minutes, and even less if I'm already really turned on before hand.
06/07/2011
Naughty Student Naughty Student
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Originally posted by Jul!a
Please don't hate me when I say yes and usually between 5-10 minutes lol. I've always been able to orgasm fairly quickly and him going down on me has been no exception.
I hate you
06/07/2011
ID42 ID42
The hubby has improved his technique over the years, but it still takes a while to get me to the point of orgasm this way. There's just not enough pressure associated with his mouth and tongue to get me there quickly and sometimes I need a toy as well. But in defense of this it takes quite awhile to get me there with ANY kind of stimulation.
06/07/2011
Anjulie Anjulie
I do, every time without fail
06/07/2011
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