Men, would you date a girl even if she NEVER went down on you?

CaliGirl CaliGirl
We all know men love their dick being sucked....So, men this ones for you...
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Yes
39
No
12
It depends what else shes willing to do.
14
Total votes: 65 (64 voters)
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06/25/2012
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Teaser Teaser
Hell yes! In fact, I married her!
06/25/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
Asked my husband for you. He says no way. Just for fun I asked if he would divorce me if I decided not to do it anymore. He said "it would be a serious conversation." LOL!
06/25/2012
ghent529 ghent529
yes... thats what toys are for
06/25/2012
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
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Originally posted by CaliGirl
We all know men love their dick being sucked....So, men this ones for you...
Of course.
06/25/2012
El-Jaro El-Jaro
"men love their dick being sucked" - not always true.

I? am the 1%?
06/25/2012
indiglo indiglo
I just asked my man too. He said it wouldn't necessarily be a deal breaker, especially if he was crazy in love with the woman and they had a good relationship all around.
06/25/2012
Beck Beck
I asked my hubby this before. He wouldn't stick around any women who didn't do that. But I can't blame him. I wouldn't stick around a partner who didn't want to give me oral.
06/26/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
I would and I have.
06/26/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Beck
I asked my hubby this before. He wouldn't stick around any women who didn't do that. But I can't blame him. I wouldn't stick around a partner who didn't want to give me oral.
This.

Only I asked my husband, not Beck's husband. That would have been weird.
06/26/2012
Incendiaire Incendiaire
I don't think I'd be interested in dating someone who didn't want to give oral. It's not that I even value oral especially, it's just that I'd find it such a bizarre stance to take.
06/26/2012
PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
Quote:
Originally posted by CaliGirl
We all know men love their dick being sucked....So, men this ones for you...
So the question is, would I date a girl that never sucked my dick, YES! I really want to get into her brain; what makes her unique; what makes her a special person that attracted me to her in the first place. There is more to relationship building than her just sucking dicks!!
06/26/2012
Taylor Taylor
I don't think my guy would, but that's okay because I love doing it. To be fair, I wouldn't date a guy if he wasn't willing to use toys with me so I feel like it's okay for them to expect a blowjob every now and then. Obviously there is more to relationships than just the sexual aspect, but if you aren't going to be happy in the bedroom, that can spill into other areas of the relationship.
07/01/2012
Burn Burn
I'm not sure.. but I don't think that'll ever be a problem for me because I love it.
07/02/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by CaliGirl
We all know men love their dick being sucked....So, men this ones for you...
My hubby married me...and oral fanatic. However, he say's that in a dating situation, if ANYTHING between him and his lover were "off limits" (nothing is between us...never has been), it might be a real deal breaker. I feel the same way, actually. I think the relationship would end way before it got TOO serious. Too much incompatibility.
07/02/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Incendiaire
I don't think I'd be interested in dating someone who didn't want to give oral. It's not that I even value oral especially, it's just that I'd find it such a bizarre stance to take.
Bingo. Where else might a "line in the sand" be drawn at couples play and happiness??? Would not go there, sorry. If it is a "relationship" then whatever makes the other partner happy becomes an important thing to me.
07/02/2012
<3BF <3BF
I'd trade oral for anal. But seriously, I agree with other posters here; why say no to oral?
07/02/2012
amazon amazon
Dated a few like this, but married the best!
07/02/2012
babyrock babyrock
no way. i love going down on my woman and i would want to be with a woman who loves going down on my too.
07/10/2012
Joe and Dani Joe and Dani
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Originally posted by Teaser
Hell yes! In fact, I married her!
I am doing the same, different woman of course =P
07/10/2012
Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
Wow! I'm surprised so many guys are cool with it.
07/18/2012
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
My wife doesn't do it much anymore and I still love her. However, she did it almost exclusively when we were dating...and vice versa. If she stopped altogether now, I wouldn't leave her, but I'm not sure I would have married her in the first place if she didn't. Personally, I'd be about 50/50 on it. Almost every guy loves it and for good reason.
07/18/2012
SarafA SarafA
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Originally posted by P'Gell
This.

Only I asked my husband, not Beck's husband. That would have been weird.
Haha. Great answer.

I guess if I loved someone I could handle it but I find it hard to believe I would love someone that never went down on me, that's a hard one to swallow (hehe pun time).
07/18/2012
konicaguy konicaguy
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Originally posted by CaliGirl
We all know men love their dick being sucked....So, men this ones for you...
If she is willing to try other things...
08/15/2012
bella8933 bella8933
I am a woman ... and I love to give a man head.

No matter how much I loved a man for his good qualities, personality etc .. the sex HAS to be goood. Has to be.

He has to like giving me head as well. Otherwise he will be the only one having an orgaism in the relationship and I will get sick of this.

Why should he be the only one that ... cums? Selfish. He will accept head - but will not give head? I've dated too many selffish men.

So from a woman's view .. no, I would never marry (and get stuck) with a guy that would not give me (good) head.
08/17/2012
bsgs bsgs
i did, and i married her....shes gone down on me twice since we met, and im not holding my breath for any more in the future....and for the record, i go down on her all the time
08/17/2012
raglin raglin
Quote:
Originally posted by CaliGirl
We all know men love their dick being sucked....So, men this ones for you...
I would expect her to leave me if I did not give every effort to make her scream with delight.
08/19/2012
Supervixen Supervixen
As a woman, I'd never stick around a guy who refused to give oral, and I wouldn't expect a man to stick around a woman who refused to give it--I knew a couple who were married for ten years and got divorced, and this was actually a major issue for them. When they first got together, she said she'd never do oral (but was fine with receiving it), and he was fine with that because he was madly in love with her. Fast forward ten years, after the honeymoon period, several kids, and a much less exciting sex life, and he started to resent not getting any head from her. It was also indicative of other sexual hang-ups she had--she didn't like dirty talk, she didn't like pornography and didn't want him to look at it even on his own, no anal, no cumming anywhere but where "it's supposed to go," no toys--she only wanted "loving" slow, vanilla sex...and he got bored, resentful, and frustrated. He ended up cheating on her, and they got a divorce.

Really, these particular two were obviously sexually incompatible. But there's still something about oral sex that's intimate and, to me, symbolizes some sort of complete acceptance of your partner and his/her sexuality. You're selflessly giving them pleasure and celebrating their sexuality when you go down there. I wouldn't want to be with someone who refused to go down on me, as though my most intimate body parts are inherently dirty and gross, you know? I like giving, I like receiving...and a happy partner in the bedroom keeps them in your bedroom and not wandering into someone else's, looking to have their needs met elsewhere.
08/24/2012
Istanbull Istanbull
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Originally posted by Supervixen
As a woman, I'd never stick around a guy who refused to give oral, and I wouldn't expect a man to stick around a woman who refused to give it--I knew a couple who were married for ten years and got divorced, and this was actually a major ... More
I'm one of those guys you very well describe. My wife (while she has done it) refuses to. If I could do things all over again, I would never have stayed with her more than the first 6 months instead of 17 years.

And just like you said about a person's refusal being an insult that they find your body gross, My wife actually comes out and says that right to my face. "No, because that's disgusting." Unfortunatly my wife doesn't like oral of any kind, giving or receiving. She also doesn't like sex that isn't man-on-top. She outright refuses everything most of you all take for granted. Things like grabbing and stroking your man's cock in between penetrations, or kissing at any opportune moment during sex. But for the longest time I was under the belief that this was what "normal" women were like and that my desires were just unrealistic and that my frustrations and the bad ways her refusals and comments make me feel were MY issue and that is was all me. But after years of being on sites like this, more and more, I've learned that it's my wife who's the odd one and that my bad fealings are actually well founded.

Being in a sexless marriage I not only suffer the sexual neglect from my wife, I am further downed by the masses. Everyone's first thought when I express my whoes is that it's all my fault by proxy because I'm the man. If my wife doesn't want to have sex with me it's because I don't satisfy her enough, or it's because I must treat her badly.

You are right, if you don't take care of your partners needs and desires, how can you expect them to do it in return and/or not seek it from someone else. Pleasing your partner should be job #1 and the very thing that pleases you most, and if both of you have that belief then both of you will find your relationship fulfilling. I love going down on women and I'm cool to do it all night without a return, but my wife won't let me. But if I was with a woman who loved me doing that for her all night, and she longed to also go down on me all night, we both would be in heaven.

I would like to write more on this matter but the post office will close soon if I don't get off this computer.
09/10/2012
Supervixen Supervixen
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Originally posted by Istanbull
I'm one of those guys you very well describe. My wife (while she has done it) refuses to. If I could do things all over again, I would never have stayed with her more than the first 6 months instead of 17 years.

And just like you said ... More
Wow...it actually makes me a bit sad to read this. I wonder how many people are caught in a sexless marriage, feeling frustrated and resentful. I think that it's cruel when a person withholds sex from their partner, especially when that partner has totally reasonable desires. I'm not sure what the whole story is here, but has she always been like this? You've been with her for 17 years, after all. Her inhibitions seem extreme (Only man on top? Like, only missionary? Is she religious?) Have you ever told her how her behavior makes you feel? Have you ever talked about it? It doesn't seem right to go unfulfilled for so long...perhaps a good sex therapist could help you guys.
09/10/2012
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