My girlfriend is too tight??

Gongsta Gongsta
Hey guys so anyways Me and my girlfriend were playing around in bed which we do most of the time like just touching/kissing/tickl ing/fingering. for the first time i tried to get inside of her but everytime i tried pushing in she told me it hurt. we are both virgins btw. and also there was about 45 minutes of foreplay before i tried and she was super wet. i didnt want her to feel bad or anything or hurt her in anyway so i told her it was okay and made her feel as if it didnt bother me and we just ended the night with the usual stuff we do. Do you think lube would help do the trick?? i need advise please
09/16/2012
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charletnarouh charletnarouh
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Originally posted by Gongsta
Hey guys so anyways Me and my girlfriend were playing around in bed which we do most of the time like just touching/kissing/tickl ing/fingering. for the first time i tried to get inside of her but everytime i tried pushing in she told me it hurt. we ... More
Lube might help. Best thing will be lots of stretching with your fingers, working up to at least 2-3 fingers depending on how big your fingers are, or possibly toys if both of you are comfortable with that. She might even want to try with toys by herself, she'll be more relaxed and more patient and less nervous. The important thing to remember is there is no cherry to pop, to hymen to break, only tissue to be stretched. Going too fast will be painful and may tear her. Going slooooooowly with lots of preparation is the key.
09/16/2012
Gongsta Gongsta
Quote:
Originally posted by charletnarouh
Lube might help. Best thing will be lots of stretching with your fingers, working up to at least 2-3 fingers depending on how big your fingers are, or possibly toys if both of you are comfortable with that. She might even want to try with toys by ... More
thanks for the reply! umm i always finger her with my middle finger but on somedays when i try puting two fingers in it hurts her so i gave up on that. i should really give lube a shot tho.
09/16/2012
Gongsta Gongsta
i just realized this was posted in the wrong section. Sorry!!
09/16/2012
charletnarouh charletnarouh
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Originally posted by Gongsta
thanks for the reply! umm i always finger her with my middle finger but on somedays when i try puting two fingers in it hurts her so i gave up on that. i should really give lube a shot tho.
Yeah, dude, if you can't get two fingers in there, she's definitely not ready for intercourse. I'd recommend that she experiment with some internal vibes or dildos until she feels more comfortable with penetration.
09/16/2012
Khanner Khanner
Seconding what Charletnarouh has said. I brute-forced my first time from being able to take one finger to a dick and it was incredibly painful. I would not recommend that to anyone. The next time she gets to that super wet stage you may want to move onto 2 fingers and slowly increase her limits from there. And definitely get some lube.
09/16/2012
Ryuson Ryuson
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Originally posted by charletnarouh
Yeah, dude, if you can't get two fingers in there, she's definitely not ready for intercourse. I'd recommend that she experiment with some internal vibes or dildos until she feels more comfortable with penetration.
THIS! If two fingers hurts there's no way your penis ISN'T going to hurt! Is it actual pain or does it just feel like she's being 'stretched?' Feeling 'stretched' isn't comfortable, but it's different from feeling actual pain.
09/16/2012
joolie joolie
It hurts a little just reading about it.
09/16/2012
Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
I'd recommend looking into a dilator set. Eden sells this one but you can find other ones as well. They can help her gradually get used to something larger than one finger. And yes, I'd recommend a good lube
09/16/2012
Trysexual Trysexual
finger her a lot and wiggle it around and work up to a few fingers first over time and it should help some.
09/16/2012
AK Bunny AK Bunny
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Originally posted by Gongsta
Hey guys so anyways Me and my girlfriend were playing around in bed which we do most of the time like just touching/kissing/tickl ing/fingering. for the first time i tried to get inside of her but everytime i tried pushing in she told me it hurt. we ... More
She's got to relax! Some women clench up, which makes it challenging and uncomfortable, especially of she's already tight. She needs to consciously make an effort to release those muscles and then you take it slow. I've had this problem with an ex and eventually I would suck him off and then after he orgasmed he'd only be sort of hard and then he'd fit inside. Of course then he'd swell, but so long as he didn't slip out we were good.
09/16/2012
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