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Hey guys and gals. I need helpful tips on performing oral sex on my husband. He rarely asks me to do it and when he does ask, I tell him no. I feel bad that I tell him no when he hardly asks, but I just can't bring myself to give it to him. I
Hey guys and gals. I need helpful tips on performing oral sex on my husband. He rarely asks me to do it and when he does ask, I tell him no. I feel bad that I tell him no when he hardly asks, but I just can't bring myself to give it to him. I used to love it. Women of edenfantasys who have experienced this, can you provide any tips? The other night he wanted me to perform oral sex until he came and it just takes so long. He performs oral on me so I know it's uneven. Please don't write that I'm being selfish. I know it's not fair to him that's why I'm asking for tips on this matter. I know a few times we had intimate fun after he had used the bathroom and he wasn't completely empty if you get my drift so I think that set me off from doing it. It wasn't his fault and he didn't know that I was tasting that. I thought it was just his taste at first and then I realized that it only
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First of all, the most important thing here is that you don't beat yourself up over it. That's an awful feeling, I know. I have a VERY similar situation. I'm not comfortable doing it because.... I was forced to in the past and it's hard to get past that. It's only "unfair" if that is how YOU see it. Quite frankly, just because he does it for you and you do not do it for him, I don't see that being unfair. You don't give to receive and if you do, that's doing it for the WRONG reasons. Does he perform on you because HE enjoys it as much as you do? If so then why be upset if you don't return the EXACT favor. First, you guys should talk about that particular thing. When he does you a favor, say taking out the garbage, does that mean YOU MUST take out the garbage the very next day or you're terrible and it's unfair? Of course not! You can return the favor in different ways. Don't you guys have intercourse after he's performed oral on you? You have sex (probably) for you and FOR HIM. There you go. Favor returned. If you don't like it, if you're not comfortable with it, there's no reason to HAVE to do it. I understand that most people only believe in giving if they're receiving. We don't and maybe you guys don't either? It sounds like he's a pretty understanding guy? I hope so. There should never be resentment in a relationship about sex and NOBODY SHOULD EVER HAVE to do something just because the other did it for you. No. That is not how love works.
I'm not comfortable with oral because I was forced to do it in the past, like I said. Good thing I found a partner who doesn't NEED or EXPECT it. The great thing is, I never ask for anything. I have never once in five years of being together asked him to give me oral sex. Well, unless he said he wanted me to beg, but that's only for fun. I don't ask for it and I do give him oral sex sometimes. He gives it to me because he loves it as much as I do. I tell him there's no way he could possibly enjoy giving me oral as much as I enjoy receiving it, but he claims he gets the most enjoyment from it. No loss there! If I FELT that I had to always give what I received in a relationship, I wouldn't be in one. What one person likes won't always be what the other likes. There are plenty of ways to return his favor without making yourself do somethign that you don't want to.
What about a hand job?
My partner hasn't ever been able to come via oral sex. I've made my mouth raw (literally) trying to make it happen before and he just doesn't love oral so it works out. Any time I've tried to do it for him and I do like doing a little oral for him, just not continous having sex with my mouth for 30 minutes. I don't do it for that long and there's nothing wrong with that. Anyways, any time I try, he quickly starts wanting sex instead. It just isn't as good as real sex for him.
Now that that's out of the way, you did ask for tips. Here are mine:
Try showering together and washing him yourself and then doing it. That will help you feel more comfortable and have him FULLY pee first! Lol. If you don't like the taste of ANY fluid whether it's come or pee in your mouth, you don't have to endure something like that to please someone. If they can't understand and take what you give, they may not be the one. Not saying you should say screw their needs and always do the taking, but there's no reason you guys shouldn't be able to settle on a nice little agreement. Ya know?