Rimming

Lurr Lurr
I am looking to see how many of you do or would be willing to try rimming, (giving or receiving, doesn't matter), how many of you would be willing to incorporate it into your play, or already do?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
yes (i would or do)
260  (79%)
no (i would not/don't)
70  (21%)
Total votes: 330
Poll is closed
09/08/2010
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Alicia Alicia
We have from time to time. It's usually him who does it on me more, but that's mainly just because I'm usually in the position that allows it to happen easier more often LOL.
09/08/2010
Not here Not here
I love being on the receiving end! It doesn't happen all the time, but after a shower if my butt looks particularly inviting to him, he'll rim me. It feels awesome and gets me VERY wet, so it's perfect foreplay for either vaginal or anal sex for us.

My man isn't interested in anal play on him, so I haven't done it to him, couldn't say whether I like to do it or not.
09/08/2010
Coralbell Coralbell
I haven't tried it, but I would give it a chance. My partner isn't open to anything involving his butt, but I wonder if he would be interested in doing it to me...
09/08/2010
Lurr Lurr
hmmm... that is interesting. I wouldn't have there were many guy who would be that skidish about anal exploration, at least not rimming, it's like not wanting a blow job. well to each his own. I have to say though they are missing out.
09/09/2010
Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
My partner loves when I do it to him, and he loves doing it on me as well, but I have to be in the right mood to be on the receiving end.
09/09/2010
Liz2 Liz2
I love to get it as it is usually a prelude to anal sex. It just gets me so ready and then with some butt plug play, I am so ready!
I can play with butt plugs myself which I do but obviously can't rim myself, for me rimming makes me so hot.
09/09/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
There is already a thread or two on this topic.

Yes I do rim my wife - but will not let her do it to me. Odd - but that's how I feel.
09/09/2010
Jenn (aka kissmykitty) Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
We've tried rimming a few times, but it has been a long time -- and by long time I mean prior to the birth and even the conception of our daughter, who is now almost six years old haha.

It's something we're both open to, but since it's not high on our to-do list it never seems to get done. Oh well.
09/09/2010
SexyySarah SexyySarah
I do, and my husband does. He absolutely LOVES it, receiving it or giving it. I prefer to receive it though. But he's gotta be clean down there for me to do it unless I'm just really into it!
09/09/2010
Liz Liz
I do it, and I love it. My man makes amazing noises. I'm not particularly comfortable letting him do it to me-- not that it doesn't feel good, but I still have some hang-ups where receiving anal play is concerned.
09/09/2010
Lurr Lurr
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
There is already a thread or two on this topic.

Yes I do rim my wife - but will not let her do it to me. Odd - but that's how I feel.
I know there is already a thread on this but it is on anal forum. I thought that poll might not have been getting votes from a very representative cross section of the populace so I asked here.
09/09/2010
SeXXXcapades SeXXXcapades
Quote:
Originally posted by Lurr
I am looking to see how many of you do or would be willing to try rimming, (giving or receiving, doesn't matter), how many of you would be willing to incorporate it into your play, or already do?
I have done this to Alisha on a couple of occasions and love doing it to her but would never let her do it to me...
09/10/2010
NightNight NightNight
Yes, yes, yes I love doing this for my husband. I like receiving, too, but this is probably the only thing I like giving more than receiving.
09/11/2010
Coralbell Coralbell
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Originally posted by Coralbell
I haven't tried it, but I would give it a chance. My partner isn't open to anything involving his butt, but I wonder if he would be interested in doing it to me...
I asked and he said it was gross
09/12/2010
NightNight NightNight
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Originally posted by Coralbell
I asked and he said it was gross
Slowly expose him to the idea in different ways and it will stop seeming so gross.

I've had a lot of sexual compunctions about things I thought were "gross" but just grew out of after being exposed to it a lot and not feeling a need to feel embarrassed in order to appear normal.
09/12/2010
ScottA ScottA
There are ways to make it less gross. A shower is pretty much non-negotiable, and a barrier of some sort (crumpled and unwrapped plastic wrap, "dental dam" or a glove cut so the thumb can be used.
09/12/2010
V.T.T V.T.T
Giving and receiving, rimming is a pretty regular part of our play. A really neat thing I read on this same topic is this...When you live with someone for a while (like a year or more?) your intestinal flora syncs up. Pretty much boils down to, licking your partners anus is the same as licking your own in terms of bacteria and safety. I think this is pretty damn cool, and handy I'm pretty sure this came from...The Guide To Getting It On...and I heard it on the Sex Is Fun podcast too.
09/12/2010
ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by V.T.T
Giving and receiving, rimming is a pretty regular part of our play. A really neat thing I read on this same topic is this...When you live with someone for a while (like a year or more?) your intestinal flora syncs up. Pretty much boils down to, ... More
However, neither your or your partner's rectum/lower intestine has the same bacteria as your mouth and upper digestive tract (at least in quantity) - you still do need to be careful.
09/12/2010
Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
Quote:
Originally posted by Lurr
I am looking to see how many of you do or would be willing to try rimming, (giving or receiving, doesn't matter), how many of you would be willing to incorporate it into your play, or already do?
Personally, this being my own personal view.

I would, if I am in love with a women, I do not think any part of her body is disgusting or icky, so yes giving. As for receiving, I do not know if I'd like that or not, haven't tried.

Now do not get me wrong, you do not have to be in-love to like it or not.
09/14/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Lurr
I am looking to see how many of you do or would be willing to try rimming, (giving or receiving, doesn't matter), how many of you would be willing to incorporate it into your play, or already do?
Sigel loves it and he'll do that for me anytme I ask. Haven't every tried with Arch...not sure why, just usually too busy with other things.
09/14/2010
smartbabi92 smartbabi92
I've never had the chance to give it because my boyfriend doesn't like anal play but i've had it done to me before.
09/14/2010
NightNight NightNight
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Originally posted by ScottA
However, neither your or your partner's rectum/lower intestine has the same bacteria as your mouth and upper digestive tract (at least in quantity) - you still do need to be careful.
You know I feel like I need to be more clear about this. What exactly sort of dangers are there from the bacterial contamination? What kind of illness is possible?
09/16/2010
Lurr Lurr
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Originally posted by NightNight
You know I feel like I need to be more clear about this. What exactly sort of dangers are there from the bacterial contamination? What kind of illness is possible?
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09/17/2010
NightNight NightNight
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Originally posted by Lurr
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Thanks!
09/18/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by V.T.T
Giving and receiving, rimming is a pretty regular part of our play. A really neat thing I read on this same topic is this...When you live with someone for a while (like a year or more?) your intestinal flora syncs up. Pretty much boils down to, ... More
The human digestive tract is dynamic. It is always changing and the bacterial count and content is changing all the time, it is not static. Most people have a different intestinal flora and bacterail profile today than they had even a week or so ago.

There is little evidence that ALL the bacteria you have is also shared with your partner. In most cases, some bacteria is shared, but most people have completely individualized and also constantly changing intestinal bacterial profiles.

Also one is not "immune" to one's own fecal bacteria nor to the bacteria in one's lower bowel. Most people can become just as ill from oral ingestion of their own bacteria as to exposure to someone else's. The bacterial count, the amount accidentally consumed, the immune system of each partner and sometimes simple luck are all players in which bacterium are taken care of by the giver's immune system, and which may colonize with less than pleasant conditions and outcomes.

Rimming should always be done with this in mind and with absolute cleanliness. Immediate washing before (anal douching is not really necessary, unless you are a person with a "sticky" lower colon. And in some cases, it can bring more bacteria from higher up in the colon to the anal opening and provide more of a chance of contamination) and/or a dental dam or other barrier is ideal for the best protection.

Also, the person performing the rimming activity's own immune system plays a part in who is able to tolerate a small amount of bacteria and who may not be able to.

There are a LOT of bacterial species in the lower bowel. Anal sex can be a very engaging, rewarding and fun activity, but cleanliness should always be the first thought. One is NOT "immune" to one's partner's bowel bacteria, just because they have spent a lot of time together even if that time consists of anal play. Just as one is not always "immune" to one's own bacterial profiles at the moment.

Here are just a few of the bacterium that can colonize in the bowel, some are fairly harmless and some can make people quite sick.


Salmonella
Shigella
Yersinia
Campylobacter Aeromonas
Candida
E. coli, many varieties
Cryptosporidium
Entamoeba histolytica

Bacteroides species
B. acidifaciens
B. distasonis (reclassified as Parabacteroides distasonis)
B. gracilis
B. fragilis
B. oris
B. ovatus
B. putredinis
B. pyogenes
B. stercoris
B. suis
B. tectus
B. thetaiotaomicron
B. vulgatus

This list is by NO means complete.

This is not to discourage any anal play, including rimming, which can be not only fun, but a very intense and bonding sexual experience. I just needed to say that one should not have a false sense of safety or security, lest good hygiene be forgotten. Some people simply have immune systems that cannot handle even small quantities of intestinal bacteria consumed orally. Their bodies colonize bacteria quickly, they may become sick easily from rimming activities and even they they are in long term relationships, there is always the chance that your partner has at least half a dozen pathogens or more you yourself do not have in your colon, or that you simply are don't have the type of immune system which can tolerate even small amounts of these bacteria.

I just didn't want people to get the wrong idea that simply being intimate with someone was a "guarantee" that you won't on occasion get sick. There are no guarantees, even if you and your partner have been together many years.
09/18/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by NightNight
You know I feel like I need to be more clear about this. What exactly sort of dangers are there from the bacterial contamination? What kind of illness is possible?
Also from these bacterium Salmonella, Shigella, Yersinia. Campylobacter Aeromonas, E. coli (plural)Cryptosporidiu m, Entamoeba histolytica (which is actually an amoeba, not a true bacterium) anything from a mild to a very violent "stomach flu" lasting from 24 hours to over a week, to fatigue, rashes, sore throat, etc. Some of the more virulent strains of E. Coli, Shigella and Salmonella can result in dehydration and even hospitalization. Entamoeba histolytica can cause bloody stools, vomiting, prostration, dehydration and possible liver damage. These are also risks from several strains of E Coli and Salmonella, as well as Shigella.

I think Nina Hartley's presentation was quite good, but there are other things to watch out for besides E. Coli (some strains of which are basically benign and some are deadly) and the various forms of Hepatitis.

Being careful and avoiding the activity when your partner has had any frank illnesses, particularly digestive illnesses, and practicing good hygiene is always a good idea.
09/18/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
Also from these bacterium Salmonella, Shigella, Yersinia. Campylobacter Aeromonas, E. coli (plural)Cryptosporidiu m, Entamoeba histolytica (which is actually an amoeba, not a true bacterium) anything from a mild to a very violent "stomach ... More
OK - I'm suitably chastened. We don't do it a lot - but in the future I'll keep the recent shower thing in mind. My girl's a teacher so she get's exposed to everything! I don't let her do me - it isn't that enjoyable for me and she doesn't need the added exposure. But it isn't likely that I'll give it up - hopefully my immune system stays strong.
09/18/2010
clp clp
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
The human digestive tract is dynamic. It is always changing and the bacterial count and content is changing all the time, it is not static. Most people have a different intestinal flora and bacterail profile today than they had even a week or so ago. ... More
P'Gell to the rescue! I always look forward to finding her insight.

I enjoy rimming, but always require a complete cleaning of the facilities before use. If it is worth it to me and my partner to do so, then lets do it!
09/18/2010
Owl Identified Owl Identified
Oh P'Gell, such a knowitall This is why I love you dearly and like CLP said, I look forward to you rescuing threads from misinformation!

On the topic of rimming, I absolutely love it. I love having it done to me and I love doing it to others. However, I don't usually feel sexy/turned on when receiving if I don't feel quite clean. I don't like the feeling that my partner could be sick the next day (which has actually happened to me once after rimming someone) because of me. I'm not anal (pun intended) about cleanliness but I do think if nothing else keep baby wipes on hand for pre-rimming clean up. Quick and easy and can save you so much trouble!
09/18/2010
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