Simple question, in a private poll.

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Simple question, in a private poll.

bsgs bsgs
i count it as sex, but not as part of the number. i dont give it the bill clinton definition though.
01/28/2012
leelee leelee
Quote:
Originally posted by indiglo
Personally, anything with the word "sex" in it is sex. Be it oral, anal, vaginal, or any other kind of sex. And safe sex can (and should) be a priority in all of these sexual acts.
exactly
01/29/2012
godweensatan godweensatan
if my dick is in a young ladies mouth, i like to think im getting laid...yay or Bjs!
02/06/2012
Kush Kush
Oral sex is sex.
02/12/2012
MeliPixie MeliPixie
Of course oral sex counts! It's called oral "sex" isn't it?
02/12/2012
Lano4ka Lano4ka
Oral sex is sex.
02/12/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I think sex is sex, but I've only given oral sex to the people I've had sexual intercourse with.
02/15/2012
joja joja
Sex is whatever gets me off.

So yes, that includes oral
02/15/2012
lemony lemony
I think some wouldn't count oral because they may have been more casual about it. I wouldn't count first oral as lost of virginity.
02/15/2012
Harpina is gone Harpina is gone
Sex is sex no matter if it's oral or not. Hello, they call if oral SEX for a reason.
02/16/2012
Michele Michele
While I haven't had relations with any women, I do agree that they should be counted as well.
02/17/2012
jokerzwild jokerzwild
I don't consider it sex for me (strait male), though I can certainly see how a female/female situation would be sex. I have had the discussion with friends and I know many do feel oral should be counted in ones numbers. I do not however count in my numbers.
02/17/2012
Woman China Woman China
Quote:
Originally posted by indiglo
Personally, anything with the word "sex" in it is sex. Be it oral, anal, vaginal, or any other kind of sex. And safe sex can (and should) be a priority in all of these sexual acts.
Agreed!!!
02/17/2012
martb40 martb40
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ...
It is, after all, called oral sex. Just because there is no penetration doesn't mean it's not sex. And stimulation of the sex organs, whether penis or vagina is sex...... unless it's a bi-product of some activity like riding a bicycle etc.
02/17/2012
zwee75 zwee75
Quote:
Originally posted by martb40
It is, after all, called oral sex. Just because there is no penetration doesn't mean it's not sex. And stimulation of the sex organs, whether penis or vagina is sex...... unless it's a bi-product of some activity like riding a bicycle etc.
But then where do you draw the line? A hand job is stimulation, too. Is that sex?
02/17/2012
yrnw yrnw
Well, I've never had oral sex with someone without later having intercourse,
but.
While I don't consider it sex, per se, I would definitely still count them as a sexual partner. Enough so that those people would be factored into my "count"
02/17/2012
Sir Sir
I do count oral sex as sex. Any form of sexual intercourse is sex, whether it's to completion (orgasm), penetrative, or something else.
02/18/2012
smashthepatriarchy smashthepatriarchy
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ...
I count oral sex as sex.
02/19/2012
Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
I don't count it as "sex" you don't loose your virginity, but it is definitely close and I would consider it as bad as having sex with someone else in the cheating terms... but its not really sex to me, as satisfying as it is
02/24/2012
Entropy Entropy
To me it's sex. It doesn't matter if I put a condom on and masturbate in someone's armpit, it's still sex in my mind.
02/26/2012
Incendiaire Incendiaire
To me it's complicated. There are times when a blow job is just a blow job, and other times when oral sex is definitely sex.

If a guy sucks me off, but there's no kissing, touching, or any other sort of reciprocation on my part, then I don't count it as having sex with him, he's just someone I got a blow job from.

If I'm naked in bed with a guy, making out, caressing each other all over, and then it ends in performing oral sex on each other, then as far as I'm concerned we've had sex.
02/26/2012
Ahatmadeofshoes12 Ahatmadeofshoes12
All sex is "real" sex. Only counting penetrative sex as real sex is an incredibly limited and heteronormative view. By stating that the only "real" sex involves a penis entering a vagina you basically state that any act between any same sex partners is somehow invalid. This is incredibly hurtful and just not true. I find meaning in ALL forms of sex, penetrative and non-penetrative. Don't limit yourself to one form of sex when there are so many types of sex you can engage in and they are all real, meaningful, and beautiful. I also think its a bit of a cop out to deny that sex acts other than PIV count as oral. I feel like people do this because they feel guilty about sex or having lots of partners and so they compensate for their feelings of guilt by denying that it was real sex. Instead they should be targeting the views that consider sex as shameful and they should try to see the meaning in oral sex. I think not considering oral sex as real sex is dangerous healthwise as well since people use it as an excuse to not practice safe sex during oral. I know the women's health clinic I go to considers oral sex and anal sex "real" sex for this very reason. More so then anything I think this view is just generally limiting.
02/27/2012
Brandonn Brandonn
of course oral counts as sex.
02/27/2012
Various Various
I think it depends, which I know is weird, but it works in my brain.
03/15/2012
allinonekid allinonekid
Oral counts
03/15/2012
Positwist Positwist
Quote:
Originally posted by Various
I think it depends, which I know is weird, but it works in my brain.
I agree, actually.

I'm a lesbian, so oral sex is definitely sex for me, without question. But I understand why straight folks might want to say only PIV counts as sex for them, personally.

I'm not a fan of absolute definitions of "sex"; personal definitions make much more sense to me.
03/30/2012
Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
I am amazed by how many people feel a penis is absolutely necessary to having sex. As a bisexual woman, I count all my partners, both male and female. Even if I was with a woman and all we did was get naked and finger each other until we were both satisfied, then it was sex!
03/30/2012
samanthalynn samanthalynn
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ...
oral sex is sex.
04/04/2012
Secret Pleasure Secret Pleasure
Quote:
Originally posted by kendra30752
No. Sex was originally PIV. You don't lose your virginity from oral sex and it is not intercourse. It's a sexual act, but sex is where penis goes in vagina. That's my opinion. I don't know why it has to be made to be so complicated. ...
Great answer Kendra I could not have said this better myself. I agree with you 100 percent.
04/06/2012
FruityCloudPuff FruityCloudPuff
I wouldn't call oral sex "sex" in general, it's more a subset of sex in my mind.
04/06/2012
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