Simple question, in a private poll.

Honeybee Honeybee
I consider oral sex a sexual experience, but if I was asked how many people i've had sex with I generally only count intercourse. Although i've never had any sexual experience with someone of the same sex, so I don't if that would change my definition.
04/06/2012
Bex1331 Bex1331
I'm a female who s attracted to both genders and although I have not had the chance to have oral with a woman I probably would count that as sex but a man that I've only done oral with I would not count... I know it doesn't really make sense and I don't really have a reason that's just how my mind works I guess...
04/06/2012
Peaches2000 Peaches2000
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Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ... More
Honestly, I have to question what would make this individual want deny that part of herself. I get that it is a personal thing, but still...
04/07/2012
JG24FanUK JG24FanUK
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Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ... More
Oral sex to me is not sex because I only consider penetration sex.
04/08/2012
alayamae alayamae
Its just a sexual act. Not intercorse.
04/10/2012
Nkev Nkev
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Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ... More
i consider it biologically where sex is penis in vagina which has the potential for egg and sperm to meet, but anything else i would consider a sexual 'act' because sexual organs are involved.
04/10/2012
SaraBroughman SaraBroughman
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Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ... More
I'm a female, I keep a list of my sexual partners, and I don't consider oral sex as sex...
04/17/2012
meezerosity meezerosity
Yes, oral sex is still sex. Does that mean lesbians can't have sex? No, just no.
04/26/2012
Jewlickah Jewlickah
I count anything with the word sex in it as sex. Oral SEX= sex. Anal SEX= sex.

This is especially highlighted for me, as a lesbian. No, I have never had real penetration, but I think it would be ridiculous to say I was a virgin.
04/26/2012
Chami Chami
I don't count it because i have only ever been with one person in any way so why count it
04/30/2012
sexystuffeve sexystuffeve
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Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ... More
Oral sex is sex, but its not SEX, its just not the same thing.
04/30/2012
indiechick indiechick
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Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ... More
I am a female and I do count them but on a separate list if that makes sense. So I have x number of men that I have had vaginal sex with and x number of women I have had oral sex with. I have never had oral sex with a man outside of a sexual relationship So its really two lists men and women.
04/30/2012
Girly Juice Girly Juice
Fluids do not have to be exchanged for it to be sex. Intercourse with a condom doesn't involve a fluid exchange, but I think we'd all agree that it is still sex.

I'm very careful about the way I use the term "sex," because for me, and for most of my queer peers, it doesn't just mean intercourse. It means a form of physical intimacy that can be anything from groping to fingering to oral to anal to intercourse.
05/02/2012
indiechick indiechick
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Originally posted by indiglo
Personally, anything with the word "sex" in it is sex. Be it oral, anal, vaginal, or any other kind of sex. And safe sex can (and should) be a priority in all of these sexual acts.
agreed
05/02/2012
All His All His
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Originally posted by indiglo
Personally, anything with the word "sex" in it is sex. Be it oral, anal, vaginal, or any other kind of sex. And safe sex can (and should) be a priority in all of these sexual acts.
totally agree
05/04/2012
Fawkes Fawkes
sex is sex, oral or not
05/07/2012
squire squire
I think sex is sex, be it involve the mouth, P/V, or booty. First, all have sex in the name...to hit on the most obvious. Second, and more based on perception than anything else, sex for many is rooted in an intimate encounter - with a casual partner or someone more special. If you're sharing your sexuality with a living being physically it's sex in my book. I think though many will have different views on it, and it doesn't really matter to me. As long as you and your partner share a similar view, chances are your sex like will be rewarding.
05/07/2012
sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ... More
Eeeeh, well I think that oral sex isn't really sex because it's not intercourse. but it is a kind of a sex act. I don't know it's really a grey line
05/07/2012
jennifur77 jennifur77
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Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ... More
I agree with the sharing bodily fluids. It's sex.
05/09/2012
cheesewizz cheesewizz
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ... More
oral doesnt count as full on sex to me because it doesnt feel as intimate as penetration.
05/19/2012
mlmac mlmac
I consider it oral sex a sex act just like intercourse, so yeah, I would consider it sex.
05/20/2012
sparksrebbecca sparksrebbecca
Here's my question. Would you consider it cheating if you're partner had oral sex with someone else? I do. I see it as an intimate act. There might not be penetration with a penis but it is still a part of sex. So yeah, oral sex is the same thing as sex.
05/20/2012
Killersy Killersy
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Originally posted by Bex1331
I'm a female who s attracted to both genders and although I have not had the chance to have oral with a woman I probably would count that as sex but a man that I've only done oral with I would not count... I know it doesn't really make ... More
That's exactly how my mind works. I can't put my reasoning into words, but that's definitely how I look at it.
06/18/2012
giftdgecko giftdgecko
Oral sex is a sexual act but I think of sex as penetration
06/19/2012
marshmallow marshmallow
yes!
06/27/2012
ksparkles16 ksparkles16
sex to me is intercourse not oral sex. Would a virgin who only had oral sex therefore not be a virgin? In my opinion, sex is intercourse.
06/27/2012
digit88 digit88
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ... More
it is an intimate encounter so it counts
06/27/2012
KaelVonrik KaelVonrik
Sex is penetration for me.
06/27/2012
amandaco2011 amandaco2011
I consider it sex.
06/29/2012
EdenUser EdenUser
I think oral, anal, and vaginal sex are all sex.
06/29/2012
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