Simple question, in a private poll.

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Simple question, in a private poll.

Bittenflame Bittenflame
It depends on the couple. Oral sex is sex if it is witha woman, cuz there is exchange of bodily fluids. It is not with men however, since they actually can have penetrative sex
07/01/2012
gloomybear gloomybear
i consider oral sex as fore play and i have not had oral with anyone i did not eventually have sex with
07/01/2012
bbygrl1988 bbygrl1988
I never even thought about counting just oral. Even though I don't think it changes my #'s
07/01/2012
Ashley B Ashley B
Oral sex is still sex.
07/03/2012
JennSenn JennSenn
I may count those I have oral sex with as sexual partners, but I'm still gonna continue to consider myself a virgin until I have vaginal intercourse.
07/03/2012
jjdd jjdd
I don't think I've ever had oral sex with someone and not gone on to have sex with them. But, I've only been in hetero relationships. I have never counted oral sex as sex either. I consider it important, intimate, and something to be taken seriously. But, I think of sex as intercourse. I know this leaves some big questions when it comes to two women being together but those are not questions that I have personally had to answer.
07/10/2012
KLu769 KLu769
I've only had sex with my husband, but I've ad oral sex with a few other men. I mean, Yes.. I guess it's sex but I don't say I lost my virginity when I first had oral sex...so it's definitely different! Does that make sense?
07/10/2012
konicaguy konicaguy
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ...
If the word "sex" is in the description, then it obviously is sex. Fluids are exchanged.
07/14/2012
kitty1949 kitty1949
Oral sex is sex.
07/14/2012
Zandrock Zandrock
Sex is how you define it. Personally sex to me is an intimate experience. It is based upon the connection I have to the person, not on the exchange or bodily fluids or the act. The intent is very important to me
07/14/2012
curiousnwilling curiousnwilling
You should keep track of everyone you have sexual relations with.

But I don't consider oral sex to be sex. Even though you can get STD's from it
07/28/2012
TheirPet TheirPet
If you're doing something with another person's genitals, it's sexual activity an therefore sex. Maybe I'm a bit too rigid but there it is.
08/01/2012
Love Obsessed Love Obsessed
I count a partner that I just had oral sex with.I believe that oral sex is sex.
08/02/2012
AK Bunny AK Bunny
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ...
Great question! Really it's the same concept as virginity. It's something humans as a society have defined (hymens usually aren't the first time a woman has sex of course). I mean sex by the dictionary definition is just that, but when someone asks, that's not what they mean usually. It's all a matter of opinion really.
08/03/2012
novanilla novanilla
I don't think it's okay to limit the term sex that way. How would lesbians say they're having sex unless they're into strap ons? Pretty homophobic if you ask me...
08/09/2012
SoloJoe SoloJoe
yes its sex
08/09/2012
ejrbrndps ejrbrndps
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
I agree Tim.

Oral sex is sex. And I count these partners because it is important too. You can still spread diseases this way so you should count them.
yes!
08/09/2012
RomanticGoth RomanticGoth
I don't count oral as sex.
08/10/2012
sexfairy sexfairy
Yes, I think that oral sex is part of a sexual encounter. So it is part of what I would call "having sex".
08/11/2012
damnbul12 damnbul12
Yes oral sex is sex.
08/12/2012
Layenna Layenna
if I counted, I'd feel dirty lol. Or like a book keeper. No, my sex life does not need to be counted, tyvm. And yes, oral does count. Any interaction where you are pleasuring your partner with the goal of an orgasm counts as sex in my opinion.
08/12/2012
Vaginas Vaginas
oral sex is sex and a fluid exchange. I would totally count women as sexual partner if I had had sex with any yet. but I don't actually count the oral sex I had (before I ever had vaginal sex) when I was a young high schooler
08/13/2012
x203 x203
eh this a confusing question. this is different for so many people depending on their views.
08/13/2012
ellieprobable ellieprobable
This poll is posted in a very confusing manner.
08/13/2012
The Kitty The Kitty
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ...
sex is sex, which ever way you have it
08/25/2012
Gdom Gdom
Excluding oral sex from the category of sex is silly. Oral sex is sex. Hey, look at that! It's even part of its commonly used name!

Seriously though, defining "sex" in a way that excludes oral is painfully heteronormative. Furthermore, if you're just relying on some flimsy, made-up distinction between "sex" and "sex acts," you don't have much of a case. I could rant about this all night, but I'll leave it at that.
08/25/2012
chelly411 chelly411
I think oral sex IS sex other wise why would it be called oral SEX
08/25/2012
shielaray shielaray
I kind of think that it depends on the relationship and what you individually feel is sex. If I'm in a relationship with a woman as a woman and we have any kind of sex, I feel like they are a sexual partner. If I'm with a man sometimes the definition is a little different. But yeah, I think it is still all sex.
08/25/2012
darkwater darkwater
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ...
sex is in the word but idk
09/03/2012
MJ7 MJ7
I don't have a firm standpoint on this. Usually when I think of sex, I think of vaginal (or anal), so therefore I usually only count my male partners.
09/13/2012
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