Simple question, in a private poll.

Contributor: MJ7 MJ7
I don't have a firm standpoint on this. Usually when I think of sex, I think of vaginal (or anal), so therefore I usually only count my male partners.
09/13/2012
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
sex is sex no matter how you toss the dice.
09/19/2012
Contributor: Lynx Lynx
I think any sexual act with any exchange of fluids or contact with the sexual bits is close to sex, at least close enough to count that person as a sexual partner.
09/21/2012
Contributor: aluminummm aluminummm
Oral sex is sex. Period. Otherwise, I know a lot of queer-identified people and people who don't have penetrative sex would be considered ~*~virgins~*~, and that is total bullshit.
09/21/2012
Contributor: nrankin nrankin
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ... more
I consider oral to be sex because you are exposed/exposing others to bodily fluids.
09/23/2012
Contributor: Absinthe Absinthe
I'm female, and I count them because (other)
my other is that most people I've had oral with I've had intercourse with.
As for the females, well they were sex partners. So, yes, we had sex. Not intercourse...I don't own a strap on yet.
09/30/2012
Contributor: Lavendar Lavendar
I think it is sex.
10/01/2012
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
sex is sex no matter how you look at it.
10/01/2012
Contributor: spineyogurt spineyogurt
I dont count BJS
10/08/2012
Contributor: mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
I agree that oral is a sexual act, but no way is it sex. Mostly because I would have wayyyy to high of a number if I counted oral
10/09/2012
Contributor: BiteOnThis BiteOnThis
I always saw oral as an act of foreplay, not sex. There is no penetration involved--unless their tongue is, well, large. That's just my opinion
10/11/2012
Contributor: Lori Gonzales Lori Gonzales
of course its cheating
10/11/2012
Contributor: richsam richsam
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ... more
yes its sex
10/12/2012
Contributor: kkizzee05 kkizzee05
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ... more
I think anything two people do foe each other can be sexual or sex. If it pleasures you to be rubbed a certain way then that too could be a form or sex or foreplay. I guess it just depends on the couples, but anything and everything we do that puts us in the mood and feels good sexually is considered a form of sex between the two of us.
10/12/2012
Contributor: VanillaFreeSex VanillaFreeSex
if your discussing sexual partners, then how would oral not be sex? I never understood that. otherwise there are alot of people that don't have sex at all then,lol

depending on the context of the conversation, i can tell sometimes though that the person is referring to PIV

so on the same lines: do you count oral when its m/f? in other words for other female bisexuals out there, i'm curious if you are as likely to "count" blow jobs as you would oral with a woman? I guess I do have a double standard on that one.
10/12/2012
Contributor: gehuwd gehuwd
Oral is sexual relations.
10/13/2012
Contributor: Red Riding Hood Red Riding Hood
I don't consider it the same thing, but I would probably ammend my answer with an explaination of my partners. I would consider it a sexual act for sure, but not sex itself. I guess it's one of those gray areas. This is an excellent question. I'm not sure there is a right or wrong answer. I am loving reading the responses. Really gets you thinking.
10/14/2012
Contributor: lilgrump lilgrump
I have had sex with everybody I ever received oral from...

I did give a guy a BJ once, and he was inconsiderate enough to not return the favor. I don't really count that. To me, sex is a mutual thing and that was just some jerk I gave a BJ to, LOL.
10/16/2012
Contributor: heather-mooney heather-mooney
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ... more
it sounds weird, but I would only consider it sex if it was with another woman.
10/26/2012
Contributor: Kat and Aaron(aaron) Kat and Aaron(aaron)
Sex is sex.
10/27/2012
Contributor: Cat E. Cat E.
Yes, oral is sex, definitely.
10/27/2012
Contributor: <3BF <3BF
I think it is sexual but I would not claim I had "sex" with someone when there was only oral involved.
10/27/2012
Contributor: hanjonatan hanjonatan
yes, oral sex is sex.

man, some of these responses...
11/03/2012
Contributor: LunaLuthor LunaLuthor
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
After reading something, where a women said that she only counted her male partners, but had sex with women also. I got to thinking, clearly this women only considers sex as sex and oral is not sex. So I searched the forum and could not find this ... more
It's all sexual contact
11/05/2012
Contributor: Shortc8ke Shortc8ke
yes I think it is other wise it wouldn't be called oral SEX
11/07/2012
Contributor: Luca77 Luca77
Any contact with genitalia is "sex" if you mean exchange of sexual fluids. So for example, safe sex classes call all of it sex. But, it is not intercourse. For safety reasons I count it all as "sex" because sexual fluids are how all the nasty stuff is exchanged. So in my opinion it's important to count all partners for this reason.
11/11/2012
Contributor: britanny0620 britanny0620
When I was younger, I counted oral sex with women to be sex, but not with men. Now I agree that all oral sex is sex. Sometimes I count fingering, sometimes I don't. I also think that it depends on each individual circumstance
11/11/2012
Contributor: MrsHouseWife MrsHouseWife
Before I lost my virginity, I would not have considered oral sex to be "in the count" as I would have considered myself still a virgin due to no penetration. But I would consider it to be sex now and would include any situation where only oral sex occurred to be a sexual partner.
11/11/2012
Contributor: mr115393 mr115393
I count anyone I have done anything sexual with. Of course, I only have female partners, so I've never ran into the problem of only one specific act counting as sex.
11/11/2012
Contributor: xMila xMila
I do consider oral as sex.
11/11/2012