The Dreaded Gag-Reflex

Contributor: The Awesome Penguin The Awesome Penguin
So my partner and I both enjoy oral play equally; she loves when I go down on her and she loves to return the favor. However, when giving a blow job she has a very sensitive gag-reflex. She can only get down about an inch before having to pull back. We are trying to work on it but haven't made great strides as of yet. Has anyone dealt with this or have any tips to share?
12/22/2010
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
Informative topic breakdown of Oral sex enhancers:

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12/22/2010
Contributor: dv8 dv8
About an inch? She must have a tiny mouth.
12/22/2010
Contributor: The Awesome Penguin The Awesome Penguin
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Originally posted by dv8
About an inch? She must have a tiny mouth.
Cute and petite! She is a bit timid, but very open to new ideas and suggestions
12/22/2010
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
There is a spray called - Comfortably Numb Deep Throat Spray. It comes in a couple of flavors and is yum! It's pretty good at numbing too and very quickly. Unfortunately Eden doesn't carry it. And because I'm in AU, the link here won't be much good.
But heres some info on the product if you're interested - DEEP THROAT SPRAY
12/22/2010
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
I have heard that laying across the bed with your head hanging off of the end so that you are upside down will work/help.
12/22/2010
Contributor: Lucidity Lucidity
It takes practice, but you can train your gag reflex to be less sensitive. It also helps to experiment with breathing techniques.
12/22/2010
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
Tru dat. .... EW did that seriously just come out of my brain? DAMN YOU FEVER!
12/22/2010
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
I have heard that laying across the bed with your head hanging off of the end so that you are upside down will work/help.
I have never had much success with that technique but have heard thats one a lot of girls feel comfortable with.
Just laying there without a cock in my mouth is uncomfortable to me. I don't enjoy the blood rush to the head.

I find the easiest way for me is to lean over the guy while he either sits or lays down. Then I have complete control over how fast and far I go.

And definitely breathing techniques too. I find taking a deep breath before I'm just about to take him in my mouth to open my throat as much as possible. I find it kinda helps relax my throat.

Anxiety will tend to close your throat off more. I use to have a problem with that in the begining. I need to learn now how to keep the cock in my throat for longer.
12/23/2010
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
I do the deep breath too. I try not to breathe when I have a cock in my throat, it almost always makes me gag.
12/23/2010
Contributor: Heartthrob Heartthrob
Quote:
Originally posted by The Awesome Penguin
So my partner and I both enjoy oral play equally; she loves when I go down on her and she loves to return the favor. However, when giving a blow job she has a very sensitive gag-reflex. She can only get down about an inch before having to pull back. ... more
I have gagged in the past. The only thing I can suggest is just practice. Have her go only as far as she can and only once and a while a little farther. She'll notice that with time, she will be able to get more of you inside of her without gagging.
12/23/2010
Contributor: Blakiepoo Blakiepoo
Deep breath then swallow then go down on it. Just having saliva in your mouth makes you panic because it could go down the wrong pipe when you open wide. If you swallow first, some of that muscle-fear goes away.
12/23/2010
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
I have a very sensitive gag reflex as well. Sometimes I even gag on my toothbrush. It has gotten better for me during a blow job though.

A few things to try. She can have it go more toward the side of her mouth toward the cheek. The hanging my head backwards off the side of the bed, does help me. Practice also helps. With time she will get better. But I would say the one thing that works the best for me is when hubby is stimulating me at the same time. I find the more excited I am, the more into it I get. Which causes me to forget about gagging completely.

Hope those help!
12/23/2010
Contributor: Beaners Beaners
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
I do the deep breath too. I try not to breathe when I have a cock in my throat, it almost always makes me gag.
I CAN'T breathe when my boyfriend's really far down there.
12/23/2010
Contributor: Epicurean Epicurean
Quote:
Originally posted by The Awesome Penguin
So my partner and I both enjoy oral play equally; she loves when I go down on her and she loves to return the favor. However, when giving a blow job she has a very sensitive gag-reflex. She can only get down about an inch before having to pull back. ... more
I used to have a terrible gag reflex...regularly had to spit out food, couldn't swallow pills til high school, threw up brushing my teeth, dentist had to put an air tube to be able to work on my mouth.

Somehow (luckily!), I grew out of it when I started sucking cock Not sure what caused what. There could be a number of reasons why your partner has such a sensitive gag reflex, and it's possible that it's just anatomical and she'll never get over it. But it's worth trying to address!

My gag reflex was often triggered when I thought too much about what I had in my mouth. I would suggest she spend a few sessions pleasing you orally without ever putting your cock in her mouth. Have her lick up and down the shaft, kiss the head, suck lightly on your balls, etc. Get her really comfortable down there and let her fall in love with it. Then move on to some other sexual play. Every time, try something new that will get her closer to taking you in her mouth.

If she feels like she is able to please you in some way orally, rather than dreading the thought of a deep-throat-style blowjob, maybe that will help her work her way up to putting it in her mouth. I might also suggest she take some time by herself to "test" her gag reflex and train it not to freak out (like brushing the back of her tongue or something). Good luck!
12/23/2010
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
Try having her practicing with a toothbrush. I know it sounds silly, but it worked for me. Have her stick in further into her mouth a little bit more every day, and in no time she should be able to take the whole thing. Also, as has already been said, part of the trick is breathing. For me personally, when I deep throat, I slow my rate of breathing way down. This seems to help quite a bit.
12/23/2010
Contributor: kfdarling1375 kfdarling1375
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Originally posted by Shellz31
I have never had much success with that technique but have heard thats one a lot of girls feel comfortable with.
Just laying there without a cock in my mouth is uncomfortable to me. I don't enjoy the blood rush to the head.

I find the ... more
Your posts are always such a turn on!
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