Originally posted by
The Awesome Penguin
So my partner and I both enjoy oral play equally; she loves when I go down on her and she loves to return the favor. However, when giving a blow job she has a very sensitive gag-reflex. She can only get down about an inch before having to pull back.
So my partner and I both enjoy oral play equally; she loves when I go down on her and she loves to return the favor. However, when giving a blow job she has a very sensitive gag-reflex. She can only get down about an inch before having to pull back. We are trying to work on it but haven't made great strides as of yet. Has anyone dealt with this or have any tips to share?
I used to have a terrible gag reflex...regularly had to spit out food, couldn't swallow pills til high school, threw up brushing my teeth, dentist had to put an air tube to be able to work on my mouth.
Somehow (luckily!), I grew out of it when I started sucking cock
Not sure what caused what. There could be a number of reasons why your partner has such a sensitive gag reflex, and it's possible that it's just anatomical and she'll never get over it. But it's worth trying to address!
My gag reflex was often triggered when I thought too much about what I had in my mouth. I would suggest she spend a few sessions pleasing you orally without ever putting your cock in her mouth. Have her lick up and down the shaft, kiss the head, suck lightly on your balls, etc. Get her really comfortable down there and let her fall in love with it. Then move on to some other sexual play. Every time, try something new that will get her closer to taking you in her mouth.
If she feels like she is able to please you in some way orally, rather than dreading the thought of a deep-throat-style blowjob, maybe that will help her work her way up to putting it in her mouth. I might also suggest she take some time by herself to "test" her gag reflex and train it not to freak out (like brushing the back of her tongue or something). Good luck!