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Also, I have a HEALTHY sex drive. It isn't normal, or healthy, in my opinion, for a person to NOT be interested in sex. The fact that I have a sex drive means that my hormones are working properly. To me, "obsession" means something
Also, I have a HEALTHY sex drive. It isn't normal, or healthy, in my opinion, for a person to NOT be interested in sex. The fact that I have a sex drive means that my hormones are working properly. To me, "obsession" means something taken over the edge; the object of obsession interferes with someone's work or personal life. I am in no way "obsessed" with sex or addicted. I can get off, and feel satisfied. For my husband, the fact that I'd like to have sex every day means I'm "obsessed" with it.
You are right. Obsession means an unhealthy drive to do something in an unhealthy way. Your sex drive certainly sounds healthy and normal.
I have NO freakin' idea why this man thinks you are "obsessed" with sex. Most men would be ecstatic to be with a woman who wants sex every day
. Dare I say most men who don't want sex that often have an issue themselves?
want sex every day, and my husband continually tells me how lucky he is, and how so many of the guys he works with and his buddies rarely or nearly never get laid.
IMO, healthy people have healthy sex drives and want sex frequently.
And MEN who respect their wives don't tell them their NORMAL sex drives are abnormal.
This guy.... I swear. You know
how I feel about him.
As for your parents, honey, WHY? Why do they even know? Do me a favor, as a friend, do NOT talk about sex with your parents. It is NONE of their business. It's.... icky.... that they even know how often you want sex. [italic|Build and keep some boundaries
with these people. Start by keeping their noses out of your bedroom and OUT of your head.
One of the ways you let your parents know you are an adult
is to have boundaries. The other is for all of you to respect them. NO parent should know what is going on in their adult children's sex lives. My two older daughters are barely considered adults, are not married and I have no idea what goes on in their sex lives, and it supposed to be that way!
My parents have no idea
what goes on in MY sex life, and it's supposed to be that way. I NEVER mention it. My kids never mention their sex lives (in the context of what they are doing and with whom) to me. It keeps them adults and keeps all of us respecting each other's boundaries. They would no more tell me about their bedroom exploits than I would tell them mine, and that is NEVER going to happen. There are people you CAN talk about your sex life with, but your parents and your kids are NOT those people. Ever.
There are things you need to keep to yourself, in order to be self reliant and be a full adult. What goes on in your sex life is one of those things.
If you want more respect from them and to be treated like an adult STOP sharing personal shit with them
. Seriously. When I talk to my parents, I talk about the freakin' weather, or current events or my aunt's gall bladder surgery or something. The LAST place they belong is in my head or in my bedroom
. And oddly (or normally, as it should be) I am treated as an adult.
My parents are NOT my confidants. No one's should be
. Parents are the people who raised you. NOT FRIENDS. Parents and their children should never
be friends. Take that from someone who has raised three children. (They are NOT my friends and I NEVER pry in their personal business.)
Put them on the back burner and keep your life to yourself. I guarantee that at first they will rebel and PRY harder, stand your ground. Eventually, they will realize you are not going to give in and quit bothering you.
To be treated like an adult you have to act like one. Stop telling your parents private things. NO good can come from them knowing these things. Start by keeping your private stuff private. It can ONLY make things better for you. I am completely honest about this. You have to put some (emotional, and preferably also physical) distance between these people and your private life if you EVER want to be treated like an adult.
You can do it. Good luck.