A sexual question for men!

loveme loveme
Should a girl be more flattered when you cum fast or when you last longer? We all know for us girls, the longer you last, the better it is for us, but let's look at this from the man's perspective. I have gotten mixed messages so I'm not sure which is better to a man. I've heard that if the sex is better, you will come fast. But I have also heard of someone lasting longer because the sex is good, so I am pretty damn confused and I KNOW I'm not the only one. PLEASE clear that up for us! It's kind of an embarrassing question to ask anyone so here is the perfect place and the perfect opportunity. PLEASE VOTE AND ALSO EXPLAIN YOUR ANSWER, it would be much appreciated. Thanks in advance
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Cum fast
2  (5%)
Last longer
6  (14%)
Both in different circumstances
35  (81%)
Total votes: 43
Poll is closed
02/25/2013
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woodsdragon woodsdragon
It honestly depends on the situation
02/25/2013
El-Jaro El-Jaro
Much like everything else in the world, there isn't one hard/fast rule for this.

Talk to you partner and go with what they say?
02/25/2013
big b big b
want longer sex give him a bj and wait 15 -20 m
02/25/2013
Ansley Ansley
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
Much like everything else in the world, there isn't one hard/fast rule for this.

Talk to you partner and go with what they say?
Yep, yep.
02/25/2013
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by big b
want longer sex give him a bj and wait 15 -20 m
This works well for young men. Unfortunately for us older guys the recovery time is much longer.

As far as fast vs. longer - I always preferred longer. I always thought I had marginal PE (premature ejaculation) issues - so I often used distractions and pauses to help me last longer. That doesn't always work because often the last thing my partner wanted was for me to pause.

Timing has always been a big issue. We solved this problem with toys. I bring my wife to 1-3 orgasms. Once this is done we switch the focus to me. The nice thing is that once she is primed - she'll often orgasm 1-2 more times during intercourse - especially in her favorite cowgirl position.
02/25/2013
Bethy Cassatt Bethy Cassatt
Last longer!
02/25/2013
chicmichiw chicmichiw
I always take it as a compliment if a guy happens to lose control once or twice 'soon'. Well, if it's every time, maybe it's problem, but once in a blue moon...I'll chalk it up to something I did.
02/25/2013
amazon amazon
Depends on the situation
02/25/2013
BlooJay BlooJay
It depends
02/25/2013
gsfanatic gsfanatic
It depends on too many factors to be clear whether lasting or coming quickly is best
02/25/2013
comatose-kitty comatose-kitty
Depends on a lot of things
02/25/2013
married with children married with children
yes, it all depends on the situation.
02/25/2013
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by loveme
Should a girl be more flattered when you cum fast or when you last longer? We all know for us girls, the longer you last, the better it is for us, but let's look at this from the man's perspective. I have gotten mixed messages so I'm not ... More
Both in different circumstances
02/25/2013
Martiniman Martiniman
The dreaded...depends. It flatters my wife when I'm so turned on by her that I cum quickly, but this would get old if it happened often.
02/26/2013
xnxxmax xnxxmax
It really does depend.
02/27/2013
loveme loveme
Oh man, I was hoping for a straight answer lol. But that's okay mysteries can be good
02/28/2013
jake0530 jake0530
my wife likes it a lot better when I last a long time, and I also enjoy lasting longer, which is most of the time.
03/05/2013
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Neither, my wife likes it better when I don't last too long but don't finish too quickly either...which is easier said than done!
03/05/2013
MrWill MrWill
I've popped a shot off in 30 seconds and I've lasted for over an hour, they both have their time and place haha.


Honestly, if I'm having sex with you whether I last 1 minute or 1 hour.. I'm enjoying it.
03/05/2013
bayosgirl bayosgirl
For me I'd much prefer my man to last longer. I get blamed for his not being able to "hold it" because I'm so tight. Sure..it's MY fault..
03/06/2013
spiced spiced
I think the most flattering thing is to cum more than once. I'd find it more flattering the older the guy is!
04/05/2013
libbyv libbyv
Quote:
Originally posted by loveme
Should a girl be more flattered when you cum fast or when you last longer? We all know for us girls, the longer you last, the better it is for us, but let's look at this from the man's perspective. I have gotten mixed messages so I'm not ... More
depends on how long it's been since the last time he came. if it's been weeks, i wouldn't be so flattered
04/05/2013
TJax TJax
If I cum fast it's likely because she has done something that's got me a little too excited, so it would be a compliment.

There is however the possibility that I hadn't had sex or masturbated in a while in which case I can barely contain myself. This isn't exactly a compliment, but I wouldn't be upset if that's how it was interpreted.
04/05/2013
jj1228 jj1228
i most of the time cum fast. But its odd under different circumstances like video taping it i seem to last much longer. Another instance is if we are in a hurry and i have to cum quick it seems like i just can't. idk im the guy and i am still confused on it. It's gotta be a mental thing lol
04/06/2013
Teaser Teaser
I voted cum fast. This borders on the PE- Premature Ejaculation- issue. I haven't had a lot of lovers, but I do know that some woman seem to take a long time to cum, while others don't. So by definition, if the man cums before the woman, he has PE, or so I've been told. SO if it takes her 10 minutes, and he can only last 8, PE.

I have always thought I had a touch PE. I would love to last longer, but I can't. Fortunately, my wife cums very easily and quickly, so no REAL issue, usually. During foreplay, she usually cums several times, so she "gets hers". However, while I am concentrating on her, she is often also fondling me, and I CAN NOT cum, or at least, we don't want me to, so I do get quite stimulated. If she doesn't touch me so much, (which I don't like) I DO seem to last longer.

I don't really think it is the quality of the sex, I think it is just the situation. Talk to your guy, but remember, PE is a sensitive subject for most men, and most of us want to perform better, so be gentle.

Does that help? Most of us are happy if you cum, so help us to help you cum. Teach us. Most of us are thrilled with their ladies orgasm. I know that, for me, in many ways, I enjoy her orgasm as much as id do my own.
04/06/2013
Teaser Teaser
Quote:
Originally posted by MrWill
I've popped a shot off in 30 seconds and I've lasted for over an hour, they both have their time and place haha.


Honestly, if I'm having sex with you whether I last 1 minute or 1 hour.. I'm enjoying it.
Well said!
04/06/2013
stlouisxxx stlouisxxx
It all depends on your definition of fast. Sex without an orgasm for me is still great sex. When I cum fast it is usually because it has been a week or so without sex and I'm extremely turned on. If it has been a few days I can last a long time.
I'd say if the guy always cums fast it is a premature ejaculation issue
04/06/2013
Jaybird Jaybird
It really depends on the situation. I've ended up doing both, with the same person even, so at least from my experience there's no set answer.
04/20/2013
Total posts: 29
Unique posters: 27